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I know this girl. We've been friends for over a year. We talk pretty much everyday all day (text,fb,etc) .We know all of each others secrets. We'll visit each other whenever one of us is working and she's met all my friends. But she has been dating this other guy for 2 years now. I've told her i liked her but she said she just wants to be friends. What should i do?
| Just be friends? | 41 | |
| Move on? | 44 | |
| Make my move? | 16 |
You shouldn't be trying to date her while she's with someone else. Especially because he was there first. Either stay friends *and don't try convincing her otherwise* or move on.
No man. Leave her alone. Whoever was there first has the right. Put yourself in her boyfriends position. You wouldnt want some other guy to come in and try to take her so dont be that guy.
If she's seeing someone else don't ask her out anyway and she's already said she's not interested, clearly you should stay friends.
Make your move. It's not fair to her, NOR to her current partner.
She may think you are just a friend, a great friend, but no more. You owe it to her to admit you see more in her.
Also, her partner, you are basically already partaking in a relationship with her that is beyond mere friendship.
For all of you, it would be best to just put your cards on the table and see...maybe she will choose you over her current partner. great for you, honest towards him, clear for her.
Or she just wanted a friend and decides for her partner, in that case, sucks for you, you move on, clear situation for her, and great for her partner.
But this stealthy "biding your time" kind of thing...na- even if you have little chances its better for all of you than this poisonous setting you have now.
I disagree. He hasnt known her as long as her actual BOYFRIEND so he needs to back off. Its wrong to try and even unintentionally ruin someones relationship.
Quote: "We've been friends for over a year. We talk pretty much everyday all day (text,fb,etc) .We know all of each others secrets. We'll visit each other whenever one of us is working and she's met all my friends."
It's not how LONG she knows someone, it's how intimately she knows them.
It's also not just that they seem very close to each other, their friendship(shall we call it that?) is also very intense.
as said, everybody should have their own opinion, so yeah, i understand yours. I just disagree with it.
I am not suggesting he tries to ruin the relationship, i am suggesting he tries to take "his place". There's a saying regarding the boardgame go: "If something can be taken from you, it never was yours!" - as far as partners are concerned, i fully agree with that!
If he is a better partner to her with whom she feels more comfortable, she should end her relation with the previous guy and instead become his girlfriend. If she wants to stay with her guy, he should move on.
He sees more in her than just a friend, and over time, just being friends will not work out.
Tell her how you feel, then wait for her to break off her current relationship. But don't force her out of it.
I would say, tell her how you feel about her in a nice way, but also that you dont want your friendship to be jeopardised by what you tell her. you might be surprised by the outcome, maybe not.
She dating someone else and isn't interested in that sense. You'd be less of a man if you still tried to come on to her even though she's already in a relationship. Either wait and pine after her until she ends this relationship or find someone else to love.