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Im divorced, and have a 4 year old little boy that missed his dad alot, he sees him on the weekends but wants to see him every day. I am beginning to feel that he should live with his dad, but i know thats not the norm. Should we give it a try?
50/50 is pretty disruptive for the kid. If the dad is willing, I think u should try it out. Boys need a male role model.
How is it not the norm? There is no law that says moms automatically get the kids in a divorce and a dad cannot raise a child on his own.
I had a friend at college, that ^he was living with just his mother since ^he was 4years old. the truth is ^he was a good guy and bright but ^he knew literally shit how to behave like a male. eventually ^he got around with the gang help(somewhat) but ^he will NEVER be an alpha male. boys need a male role model and a loving mother, and that's the truth.
the norm? what is the norm. can his father look after him as well as you. does he put the childs needs before his own? if yes then share him and decide who has the lions share of time.
He's 4 in the story but 5 in the title. A bit strange. If his dad is a responsible father and wants to take care of him I don't see why not. However, as the mother, don't you want to keep him?
I don't think that you should do this unless you are looking to be rid of your son. In my opinion and experience mom knows best. I mean you divorced this guy for a reason right? Is that who you want to be a role model for your son? Think about it before you do it.. But my vote is no.
Kids need their mom more... If I have a child I'd let him live with his mom... Moms are kindest to their kids... Dads can play but can't take full responsibilities about kids
This is the iin site.. Not what do I do site. Just sayin. But yeah, it should be half and half. Not one more than the other If you are both capable of good parenting.
Tylee shut up! People grow apart or aren't compatible whatever but he didn't have to do something wrong for a divorce! You're an idiot and your advice sucks! Anyways if he's a good father then why not?
I would say think seriously about it. Some nearly three years ago me and my sons father split up. It's what I had wanted for years but stayed for the sake of the kids. I had a nervous breakdown and was a very high dose 375mg of venlafaxine (anti depressants) I was under going CBT too. I really was not my self. My son wanted to live with his dad and where I was mentally messed up I agreed to joint responsibility. We went to court and got the order signed up. Well basically bottom line my son who is nearly 11 spends 99% of his time at his dads. I think he feels obligated to him or something. It hurts like mad but his if an age that he makes his own mind up. I so wish my last relationship didn't drive me into the ground because I would never have let him live permanently with his farther. Share him equally yes but not be alienated. I have cried over this many a time. It hurts like mad.
My parents divorced since I was two and ever since then I spent only Wednesdays with my dad until I said I wanted to spend more time with him ( when I was about 12) so then I did a week at mums and a week at dads until I left home. But, speaking from experience, he'll change his mind, there were times I wanted to loves at dads and vice versa, but you have a very open mind, I wished my mum was like that when I was younger, it took a lot to get to be able to see dad more often.
The week thing was a hassle, but overall I found it the best...I guess it depends on circumstances and what works best for you... Heck it took 10 years to find out what was best in my family :)
Good luck, I hoped this helped (sorry if it was a bit long)
If the father is responsible enough, then yeah, sure. Talk to him about it, and see what you guys can do.
She didn't say there was a law. Normally, the moms' do get the children unless they are unstable.