Should i leave my husband?

I really don't think the fate of your marriage should be left up to internet strangers, particularly on a site full of trolls.

I can't totally understand why you're unhappy. He sounds like he's being completely unreasonable. But you need to talk things through with him, see if you can fix it. If there's no chance of improvement, then you should consider your options, one of which would be divorce.

My husband was somewhat like who you describe.

We both worked but I worked more than him, took more classes than him, paid more of the bills than he did and had to do most of the grocery shopping, errands etc. I told him how to get a better paying job (in my company, all you really have to do is ask) but he would never even talk to his boss. What made matters worse is that after bills, he should not have had as little as he said he did and I worked as often as I could to reduce his expenses.

He hardly lifted a finger to do the housework (so I was stuck with most of it because he has really, really low standards for cleanliness) and a couple of weeks in he already got written up for falling asleep at work. Every time I would try to bring it up to him, it would end in a huge argument with him saying that he would change but never doing so. I got so tired of feeling unappreciated.

So my advice to you, because everyone is different... bring it up to him. Tell him that you can't be the only person in the household bringing in income. Tell him that sitting on the computer day in and day out is not how you run a successful online business. Tell him to get some financial aid (fafsa.gov is where you can apply for a government grant) and go to school and take some business classes.

Tell him that either he'd better do some footwork to get his business started or that he'd better find a job to do until he kicks off that business to begin with. I don't care what he thinks he knows about online businesses, you can not can not can not start one just by sitting on your ass and being good with computers.

How about couples counseling?

If he's too lazy to do housework I can't see him being self-employed.

People think it's easy, you're the boss so do what you want, etc but that's not how it works, not in a successful situation anyway.

You should be working A LOT harder for your own business than you do when working for someone & sometimes it takes years of this before you start to grow & make good money.

In the meantime smart people are generally working for someone else until their own business is established & providing ample income or their time needed outweighs their time available.

I think your husband is just using this as an excuse to be lazy...

I don't think you should do something as drastic as leaving your husband because he's inbetween jobs and seems lazy to you. I mean, we're all alittle lazy every now and then right? I'm not saying you should condone his behaviour, but atleast talk to him about it and see if he's willing to make more of an effort.

I do think its kind of messed up that you're a woman who's working her ass off to support her husband. Maybe I'm biased, but I think it should kind of be the other way around, if he's financially equipped to support you and is okay with doing so. Not saying all women should stay at home, just saying if one of the parties in a relationship is going to be a home maker, it should be a women.

Anyway, like I said, talk to him and see if he is willing to change and help out. I do know how difficult it can be when you're looking for work and everyone gets frustrated at you and assumes you're lazy just because you haven't found one yet. Make sure he is actually looking, though.

I think you guys need a sit-down talk and if not, counseling. If that doesn't help after several attempts, I'd only then say it's reasonable to break it off. It's unfortunate but sometimes people don't get any better and it is good for both people in the long run. You shouldn't be pulling nearly all the weight while he just sits and does nothing, that's ridiculous.