Should i keep him locked for longer?

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Last summer I found out my husband was having an affair. I was devastated and wanted a divorce, he pleaded and begged me to stay together, he was quite pathetic really. But he said he would do anything to stay together. Before we were married I had a boyfriend who was into chastity, not my thing at the time and we split up. It made me think of him though, he could never have cheated in one of those things. So I gave my husband an ultimatum, if he wanted to be with me he would need to wear a chastity cage every day for work. He winned and sobbed a lot about the idea but I would not back down it was the cage or divorce. He agreed to try it and we ordered one. He hatted it and constantly winned about having to sit to pee. Don’t understand the problem I’ve been sitting to pee all my life so no sympathy there. In the end he accepted his fate we would lock it on every morning and I kept the key and released him when he got home each evening. I found it a bit of a chore though so when we went back to work after the Christmas break I told him I was leaving it on him until the weekend. He went mad about it but I told him it was a hassle keep putting it on and off so he could live with it or we go back to the divorce option. We didn’t often have sex during the week so I figured his little toy didn’t need to come out. What I have now noticed is when we do have sex it is much better he ravishes me like when we were young and first in love. I have decided I want to take this further I want to keep him locked for longer periods. He doesn’t know this yet, I know he will be mad about it but I am determined to give it a go. The thing is am I being mean, we have much better sex these days and I have even got him to give me mid week orgasms a few times while he is locked up. But I just want to push the boundaries I am having fun and would like to see if it could be even better. I might even push him into wearing girly panties.

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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

Don’t know if anyone will see this as thread is over a week old. Anyway I didn’t let him out last weekend and he won’t be coming out this weekend either. But I bought him some panties to wear. I told him if he wears them every day for the rest of the week and all next week he can come out to play next weekend. He went off this morning in a pretty pink pair. He didn’t complain as much as I thought he might, he seems to be starting to accept his new status in our marriage.

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McBean

5 years ago

Your husband is dumb, and you're a sick piece of work.

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rayb12

5 years ago

You are validating your poor treatment of him by his poor treatment of you and his willingness to submit to it.

I would call your behavior childish but most children are not this illogical in their reasoning.

I understand very well that many couples enjoy chastity play and I have no judgement towards those who choose this for their mutual enjoyment.

To inflict this on someone as an ultimatum is morally reprehensible and frankly makes me assume you are a quite boring person.

Hopefully you can develop to a place where you learn the satisfaction of a relationship in which you are not locking your partners genitals in a cage against their wishes.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  It’s not exactly against his wishes. I’ve told him over and over we should get a divorce. I can’t keep fighting him over it though so I have told him as long as he stays with me the cage stays. Meanwhile I will take advantage of the situation as I don’t know what else to do about it
  
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

I find it strange you are all saying I should divorce him. He’s welcome to have a divorce, I even wanted a divorce at the start. The only reason we never got one is because he begged me to stay together. once I got over the shock and pulled myself together I agreed to stay with him providing it was on my terms. I can not be with a man I don’t trust, the only way I can trust him is with the chastity device. But that became a chore putting it on and off so I decided leave it on. If he doesn’t like it the divorce is still an option

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- Pussy_Destroyer_69
  
  5 years ago
  
  I don't want to be rude or anything but I'm starting to understand him. You sound like every thing you two do is planned to the detail, that there's no room to breath. The perfect couple of course. But he cracked under the pressure.
  
  I can't understand you really. Every time you write something is to say that he begged to stay with you and that you could divorce. Why you don't do it then? Why he doesn't do it then? If you wanted him to suffer you could have find any way, but you choose this one. You still love each other. Why do you keep hurting him? I don't know ma'am, I wasn't there so don't listen to me but you should try to reflect about the happenings in your relationship. Do you have common project or something like that? That tends to help.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    5 years ago
    
    I understand what you are saying, and we did have a great marriage or so I thought. But I was wrong, it was not as good as it seemed or he wouldn’t have had an affair. It broke me when I found out, so I had to rebuild my life. But it can’t be how it was because my feelings have changed, plus it was obviously no good for him anyway, if it was he wouldn’t have had an affair.
    
    The new version of our marriage is to protect me, I don’t want to punish him I’ve moved on from those feelings. Maybe a fresh start would be best, but he begged me to stay together. I still love him but not the way I did. So I see it like this, our current arrangement is me calling the shots. I’ve hardened up and made our marriage all about what I want. From my point of view that’s great, I’ve still got my friends and I’ve made some new ones. At the weekends, when I want it, I have better sex with my husband than we’ve had in years. I even get to have some great orgasms during the week, without the mess of him cuming everywhere. It’s a great sleeping remedy I never discovered before, but I recommend it to all the ladies out there. So why would I want a divorce now, the marriage I have is actually better than before in some ways. But if he feels it’s not good for him we can end it. But he chooses to stay together, I don’t really even understand why he makes that choice but he does.
    
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curious-bunny

5 years ago

Eh fuck him, I woulda left the piece of shit and used the affair agaisnt him in court to divorce rape him, if it's a casual divorce just isn't love I would never do that but of you cheat well that destroys trust and mist likly means they lied to me, and honesty and trust is something o cherish above everything else so yea I would be pissed and divorce rape him

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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

I didn’t let myself go, I have always eaten a healthy diet and kept a good figure. We also had a regular sex life which is one of the things I found made it hard to understand his affair. I always enjoyed spending time with my husband. We used to go dancing together, weekends away quite often, go out for meals, cinema etc holidays abroad a couple of times a year. My friends used to tell me I was lucky to have such a great marriage. I don’t know why he did what he did and he says he doesn’t know either. He tries to blame her but it’s his dick and he chose to put it in her and she chose to let him, so they are both guilty. When he broke our marriage we stopped going dancing, although he did say the other day we should go back. We stopped going out doing stuff and we haven’t been away since it all happened. But we are getting there I thought we might book a weekend soon. But it’s like I have built this new life to run alongside my marriage. If things work out I can have both if not I still have my new interests. So now it’s up to him, he broke it so he must fix it if it’s still what he wants. The difference is I have added in some new rules.

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- nikkiclaire
  
  5 years ago
  
  Do him a favor and divorce. You sound like a bitter shrew who will never let it go.
  
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Pussy_Destroyer_69

5 years ago

The policy I have is compensating a cheating with a trio if is one time and something more like you if it's more than one. It's no the best solution tho. He will end up hating you, specially if he's dominant. Have you tried to telling this to him? Maybe he likes the idea.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  If he ends up hating me that’s his choice he can still have a divorce if he wants. Since all the business with his affair I have adopted a new outlook on life. Before I would have done anything for him and always used to put him first, but he broke me. But with support from my girl friends I put myself back together, now I live for me. I feel like I have a new lease of life, I have joined a gym and have been going to nightschool once a week for a photography class. Add that to our new sex life routines and I am loving my life like never before. So he has a choice he can be with me on my terms or he can go his own way. If he goes maybe I will meet somebody new or maybe not. I have been chatted up and even asked on a date, which I declined, I will not cheat I’m not like him, but if he chooses to go then who knows.
  
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  - nikkiclaire
    
    5 years ago
    
    So you joined a gym and started classes after he cheated?
    
    Perhaps the reason he cheated in the first place is you let yourself go.
    
    Who can blame him. I'd choose divorce if I was him.
    
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    - Pussy_Destroyer_69
      
      5 years ago
      
      Yea. She sounds like a chore.
      
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