Should i keep him after this?

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This new-years eve was very bad for me.. I celebrated it with my boyfriend, and when we both were a little drunk, i asked him if he had ever cheated on me (everyone gets honest when they're drunk). He then told me that he had kissed a girl at a party 2-3 months ago, but it didn't mean anything to him, and he was planning to tell me.. I was so upset, and didn't know what to do. But the next day, I tried to act normal and tried to get over it. But at the evening the next day, I asked if the kiss lasted long. Then he said; "not the first one".. He THEN told me they had kissed for like 7 times, and that he tried to take her bra off, but his friends stopped him.

I have been in a relationship with him for almost 2 years, and I have no idea what I should do..! I love him, and I know that he gets like that when he's drunk, and that he wasn't planning to do something like that to me on purpose. Should I forgive him, or what.. I'm so hurt right now, but still; I have never met someone who loves me as much as he do. If I leave him, I'm afraid I won't ever find someone like him again.

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  • Moonbow
    12 years ago

    Forget it, he was drunk. People do stupid things when they're drunk that they wouldn't do when they'r sober. But keep a close watch on him and try to limit his drinking.

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    You should leave him and hope that you don't find someone like him ever again.

    Kissing a girl once could be a lapse in judgment. Kissing her seven times and trying to take her bra off is a little bit beyond a tolerable mistake.

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  • emotionalwreck4ever
    12 years ago

    i would leave him before he does it again, or control him and dont let him go to parties lol, better to leave him now before yuu get more attached and its gonna be harder to let go.

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  • needadvice
    12 years ago

    It might be hard. but i would leave him. hope everything works out for you, stay strong!

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  • Charmo
    12 years ago

    If he loved you, he would realize that he is prone to making these kinds of mistakes when drunk and learn to drink in moderation and stay sober. But according to your story, he still drinks without thinking of the consequences. I say dump him.

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  • amc93
    12 years ago

    You shoul leave him :s because it wasn't just one time and also if everytime he gets drunk he'll problably do it i wouldn't trust him. If my bf would do that to me i would leave him is not just that he kisses someone else he also gets drunk and you don't know how far he'll get if his friends don't stop them. I'm sure you'll find someone who loves you maybe even more than he does and respects you (but i don't think he loves that much, cuz if he did he wouldn't do that)

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  • chatter289
    12 years ago

    oh deary. Honey, your bf would have slept with that girl if his 'friends' had not stopped him... so.. in the future.. whats going to happen then? Dont think about the 'now' think about what will happen.

    Love is love but its blinding as fuck.. re consider what you want, and if you are willing to face a potential heartache in the future....

    And trust me, you will find someone who will love you MORE than he does, if he loved you as much no amount of alcohol should blinden that love.. true colours come out when alcohol is in the system as you obviosly stated... so, what is it sayng? when he is sober he is 'putting on an act' and when he is drunk its the 'real him'?

    For a second... cast love aside, and think rationally.. not with love.

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  • KuhnLover
    12 years ago

    I hate how ppl try and blame these bad decisions on drinking. Don't blame the alcohol! I completely agree with InsanityArtist. Give him another shot. Evryone deserves a second chance.

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    Wait... they kissed seven times on separate occasions? Or on the same drunken night? Seven different times is obviously inexcusable. If it was one awfully drunken night, that may change things depending on how understanding you are of cheating.

    Either way, this is something that we can't answer for you. We can tell you what WE would do, but we couldn't possibly tell you what you "should" do. That's up to you, as to whether you believe that this was just a one-time lapse in judgment, as well as whether you can forgive him for it.

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    • confused---1995
      12 years ago

      I know it's a question you can't answer for me, I just needed a little advice from other people. Because my feelings are going wild, and I am so confused right now. And "fortunately" it was seven times on the same drunken night, not on separate occasions. I even messaged this girl and asked her about it, but she just said she had never met or heard about him.. Any way, thanks for the comments, it really helped.

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  • lolzspunkh
    12 years ago

    I know this problem myself. My 2 ex boyfriends was together with lots of girls while they where with me. So I kinda know your situation. My experience is that they will keep doing it. maybe not a couple of months after, but when they have gaind your trust they fuck it up again.. I know you love him. but I think you should leave him.

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  • InsanityArtist98
    12 years ago

    That's a pretty hard decision to make. I had a boyfriend who did the same thing and tried giving him another shot but he just did it again. My advise if you really care about him this much and think you can trust him again then give him another shot if he does it again. I would leave him.

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