Should i hookup with him if i know he’s taking advantage of me?

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So I’m hooking up with this guy at school. He’s my first hookup and we’ve hooked up a few times but I’m still pretty new to the experience, and we’ve done most things except for sex, which I’m not ready for yet. He’s kinda popular in school and I’m in the middle and I know that I’m not that special to him. However I like the attention he gives me and he makes me feel special even though I know I’m not. I want to do stuff with him because it’s pretty fun but I know he’s taking advantage of me. My issue is that I want to hookup with him but I also want to be special. So my question is, what should I do if I want to do it but feel bad because I’m not popular and think he’s taking advantage of me?

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  • LloydAsher
    4 years ago

    Isnt that the point of a hookup? A hookup is informal way to have sex. If you want to go the formal route you go get an actual boyfriend then it becomes special. The guy is just going through the routine to get sex, dont hold it against him its literally what every highschool guy wants to do.

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yes exactly. OP you are indecisive. Either choose the hookup type life or the special-feeling get less sex but have one close relationship route. If you chose the latter then respectfully rid your life of this man. If not, continue to have fun with him, just don't want to feel special, and have hook ups all the time, it is impossible by definition. Decide mate!

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        4 years ago

        Thank you for telling me this! I’m pretty new to the whole hookup thing and I didn’t really understand what’s it’s supposed to be like, so thank you for explaining it. I think I’ll continue to hookup with him because its fun!

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Yes I agree. I am a guy and hook ups are fun. No super stressful and emotional relationship drama, just plain old good sex. Have fun mate just don't get pregnant.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thank you for the explanation!

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      • LloydAsher
        4 years ago

        In the future dont feel bad about this experience since you just wanted to have fun. When you find your special someone it's going to feel amazing either way.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    Popular people dont care about who is and isnt popular. They dont even think about it. Atleast not in my school. I was really well known but I never would think "shes not popular enough" i was more worried about how she looked.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thanks for sharing your perspective! I’m kind of insecure about my looks, so I think that may play a part in my problem. I know I’m not the prettiest girl but I’m definitely above average and I have a nice body. I know that he sexts other people through Snapchat but he doesn’t hook up with them in person like he does with me. What do you think this means?

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        4 years ago

        It just means hes a guy. Guys like sex. Are yall dating?

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  • IrishPotato
    4 years ago

    No

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Do it only if you really want to. That's it. Besides,it's not taking advantage if you're on board with it.

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