Should i have sex with him?

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I have a boyfriend, named Michael. I love him very much. We've been on and off for about one year, and we finally realized how much we loved eachother, said I love you, and have been together for four months (it's much more intricate than I'm making it.) Anyway, he says he's really ready for sex. He tells me he wants to have sex with me, and he gave me a condom. I want to have sex with him so badly, but I know the risks that follow after sex. I'm not afraid of the pain or feeling, I'm more concerned about the consequences. If sex didn't come with any, I wouldn't even be asking this question. But, tell me, is it normal to be hesitant to have sex with him? I love him so much, and I know he'd stay with me afterwards, but having sex is a big thing to me, it's not as simplistic as TV shows make it. I want it to be special and beautiful. Should I do it? Is it normal to be hesitant about sex?

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Based on 8 votes (7 yes)
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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I wish more people were like you. You only ever lose your virginity once. If nothing else, make it special.

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  • RubyCane
    13 years ago

    "having sex is a big thing to me, it's not as simplistic as TV shows make it"... At last, a person who can actually think!!! The first time is as serious as you feel it is, later on in your life you will be more relaxed in the idea, though. I would strongly suggest you keep your "first time" for someone really special, someone who will care about you and treat you with respect! If you think you are psychologicaly ready for that, go for it. But don't rush it, this happens only once in a lifetime and creates a very strong and vivid memory... Make this memory as sweet and special as possible! If somebody is meant to be your first lover, you'll just feel it, sense it, you won't even be asking others... ;)

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  • babaG
    13 years ago

    Sex isn't as special as it's cracked up to be. It feels damn good, if youre ready and comfortable, and it sucks if you arent.

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    What are you talking about... What consequences? Is sex, not rocket science

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  • justsomgirl
    13 years ago

    If you need to ask if you're ready, you're probably not. As dappled said, it's good that you're not just jumping into it. Too many young people do that these days and as you said, sex is not as simple as tv makes it....especially when you're younger and it's your first time.

    You'll know when you're ready. And when you are, you won't need to ask others.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    The fact you are asking this question shows maybe you are having doubts and perhaps yet shouldn't. When you choose to, take it slow and use contraception. If he loves you that much he will wait till you are ready. Also don't expect it to be mind blowing the first time as you will probably be disappointed. Like anything, sex takes time to master.

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