Should i have said something?

I work in retail, and once in a while I get a parent who is super aggressive towards their kids, to the point where I know they're scared. Today, I had a kid/pre-teen knock over something in my store (which happens pretty frequently, I do it myself) and he said "I'm going to hurt you if you do that shit again." I was stunned, and everyone else in the store seemed pretty shocked. I wanted to say something, but I'm not sure it was my place/I don't want to get fired (although I don't think I would have been). Should I have said something?

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  • Iszzy123

    You should of told the parents why wait beat his ass now then throw them a belt also tell them about your deal for back to school

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  • dimwitted

    You are there to do a job and not play counselor.

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    • See, I don't understand that mentality. It lacks empathy. It's quite difficult to just stand by and watch a kid with a potentially harmful situation and not think anything of it.

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      • zarabell

        maybe there is no correct answer. . we will all think something of it! as long as we see it, but the "normal" thing is to do nothing, unfortunately. there are infinite strangers in the world, and our unifying feature might be that we don't want no unwanted trouble. this makes life easier, but also allows some people to be cruel and go down life without having to change.
        now, change is not always for the better.. if you had said something to the parent, it might have made him treat the kid even worse. like ofc, we would hope people are not that stupid, mean-spirited, etc, but you never know. it ain't easy to see the error of your ways, and it's much harder to act in order to be better (especially if it is recommended by a frigkin stranger) most people would just assume they've done nothing wrong. they are the victim, and who the fuck are you to say something when you have no idea what is going on in their lives?? you think you understand the situation, just by seeing a moment??? basically, there is no correct answer. nothing one must do in order to help in such a situation.
        I could suggest a couple of ideal-like options tho:
        1) try to draw the attention to yourself. maybe approach the parent for something unrelated, or if you're nearby pick up what has fallen and laugh. say it happens all the time. maybe knock something off yourself, if you're being extreme. just do something.
        2) approach the parent about it. but try to be understanding. hold empathy not only for the kid but the parent too, considering that abusers are usually also in pain if they are hurting someone important to them. of course it is their fault, but being understanding and warm will make it easier to approach them, and should allow them to listen to your words (hopefully words of wisdom, about peace and love or something, or how we're all blessed-)
        3) just run away. if you dont like the situation, you can run away, and that would draw some heads too so why not.

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    • gaz3912

      BOSSY.

      ARE YOUR KIDS PERFECT LITTLE ANGELS OR DON'T YOU HAVE ANY.

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      • dimwitted

        Daaaaamn. Calm the F* down.

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      • gaz3912

        I KNOW IT WAS AN ADULT TALKING TO A KID BUT ADULTS WERE ONCE KIDS. IN THIS CASE, YOU COULD NOT WIN UNLESS YOU WERE WILLING TO COP A POTENTIAL MOUTHFUL FROM THE ADULT. PERHAPS IT WAS JUST AN ACCIDENT, YOU SAID, YOU KNOCK THINGS OVER TOO. IS THE STORE CLUTTERED? IS THERE NOT A LOT OF ROOM TO MOVE? OR WAS IT JUST CROWDED.

        HOW DID THE CHILD REACT, SEEM FRIGHTENED?

        BTW. SHOPPING WITH KIDS IS A NIGHTMARE.

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        • The child seemed frightened. As I said, he was a pre-teen, and he seemed fairly mature. The store isn't cluttered, but there are definitely things you could by accidentally run into.

          The child quickly went quiet and I could tell he was very uncomfortable.

          My perspective is if that's what the parent says in public, what does he do when he's not in public?

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    I don't think you should have. That's just not your business.

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    • Okay it doesn't personally affect me, but what about that kid? Just because "it isn't my business" doesn't mean I shouldn't care.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        It's not up for you to judge the parenting of others unless it's child abuse. The vague threat of violence made does not constitute abuse to the point where I think you should intervene. Its not that you shouldn't care, it's that you shouldn't care enough to stand up his mother in public. What would you have said anyways out of curiosity?

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        • I probably would have asked the family if they were alright and seen if I could have gotten any sign from the child. Then I would have discretely called security.

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            Who else from the family was there? Discretely calling security sounds like an excellent idea. Make it someone else business who's job is actually that sorta thing.

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            • It was just the father and his son. And yeah, I wouldn't have wanted to risk them leaving before security arrived though.

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        • Orphan

          Yes she threatened the kid. She said she was gonna hurt him, to her own kid. People spend the night in jail just for threatening to kill an other adult.

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        • gaz3912

          WE ALL MAKE JUDGEMENTS EVERY DAY. GOOD MANNERS, COURTESY ETC. COST NOTHING.

          SEE MY COMMENTS ABOVE, IF YOU CAN BE BOTHERED.

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            I'll pass.

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        • GaelicPotato

          He described child abuse.

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            I don't think he did.

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            • GaelicPotato

              Sounds like it.

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    • GaelicPotato

      No.

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