Should i go to see an old friend, and perhaps become much more?

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My oldest friend in the world contacted me the other day. We truly love each other and know each other back and for, but we haven't seen each other in a decade. But before that, we were constant companions for over two decades. He's in love with me. It's something that we both always knew, but neither of us would take it there back then. When he says it, it's not creepy, it's sincere. I love him too, but I am scared. I've gotten really good at staying out of love. I've done a real good job protecting my independence from anyone, this could be risky. There are so many things that can go wrong. He wants me to visit him in a month. I want to visit him. I love the lovely things he says, but they do put me in a 'deer in the headlight' mode sometimes. What should I do?

I stay home and be safe about this, because it could go so badly. 2
I go, but with reservations and some protective wall. No one gets hurt 6
I go, and throw caution to the wind, come what may 6
I am just overthinking this, it's not a big deal. 12
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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Anything in life can go badly, but your own protective walls will hurt you more than anything outside them ever could because of all the regrets you'll have.

    Good love does not stop you from being independent. Love should add to your life not take away from it.

    Also, tell him what you feel before you meet. Then he'll be understanding if you do feel uncomfortable and it'll be less awkward. No need for protective walls :)

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    • dom180
      10 years ago

      Could the person who thumbed me down mind explaining why they did that? Being thumbed down doesn't usually mean anything to me, but this time I really believe I gave the OP the words they need to hear to help them make the best choice for them. I can't think of anything stupid in what I said.

      OP. If you want to visit him, you shouldn't let the fear or the worry hold you back. I know it might be scary, but life has to have risks in it or you will die with one more regret than you needed to have.

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      • Self
        10 years ago

        I really appreciate your words and the time you took to give send them. Thank you.

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        • Self
          10 years ago

          *took the time to give and send them.

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  • sunnymom
    10 years ago

    If you are ready for a partner, go.

    If not ready for a partner, don't go.

    If you don't go, he may move on.

    If you go, you may wish he had moved on.

    Trust your gut.

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  • noid
    10 years ago

    If you're happy with your life as it is stay home.

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