Should i go?

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I'm a shy introverted girl. I don't like drinking. And I've never been round town. But in a way I want to, to prove a point that I've done it. My only friend and she's not an amazing one, 21st birthday is coming up, she has invited me to a meal then round town.... I'm nervous and I won't know anyone, I have to let her know tomorrow if I'm going or not. I'm shit with people specially who I don't know, I don't like drinking, I'm self conscious, and I just feel so out of place.
I'm trying to push my mind into it. Should I or not?

And if I should any advice on how to be with people? Drinking ?
I mean I don't have to stay too late do I? I'm up early the next day for work anyway. I don't have to drink either do I?

Yes 10
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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    We did this already. You need to start making decisions for yourself. If you have to leave early for work, you leave early. If you don't want to drink, don't. People would respect you less if you just hung out for the sake of hanging out and didn't enjoy yourself.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    8 years ago

    Do what you feel will make you happiest, but, being someone who shies away at the slightest hint of anything social ( despite not wanting to ) I have done social things outside my comfort zone that I was unsure of and each time I've been glad I've gone :)

    And drinking helps, but don't do it if you don't want to, plus you could just say the truth, you can't stay too long because you've got work in the morning, either way I hope it works out for you :)

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    It kind of sounds like you have social anxiety. You shouldn't be freaking out so much about a social situation.
    Just get yourself back out there and that nervous feeling will fade

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    As an introvert myself, I can say that drinking helps me be more sociable. Otherwise, I can't tell you how to be more social. If you really don't want to drink, then don't.

    I say go because it will mean something to your friend that you showed up. Even if you have to leave early. I also feel life is about experiencing things, so take advantage of the opportunity. If you go with a positive attitude it might actually turn out to be a great time.

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  • megadriver
    8 years ago

    Risk it. You'll never know what it's like if you don't do something.
    If you sit about and wait for someone to dictate your moves, you won't enjoy life. So start enjoying your decisions. Not talking about drinking. Be careful, you don't wanna end up collecting memories from friends, a cooked wiener schnitzel (whilst drunk) and with your room completely rearranged. Been there, done that.
    But do have fun XD

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    If your friend wants you to join her on her 21st 'around town' why wouldn't you want to go? This is a one time special day, and there is doubt that you should go?
    That does show something about how much you value this friendship, I guess.

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  • JD777
    8 years ago

    Do what I do when I need to go to business receptions but don't want to stay when everyone is getting trashed. Have your own way home. Show up at a proper time, but if you can, make it 30 minutes after they start (don't be late for the start of dinner). Hang for dinner and maybe one drink afterwards (make it a soda with lime or something non-alc). Talk to several people, especially your friend. Make a quiet exit after you say your last "happy birthday" to your friend.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    Ever watch the Jim Carrey movie, Yes Man?

    ...

    Anyway.. I'm not an introvert by any stretch of the imagination. My advice to you, right now, would be two things:

    Short term: give your phone to her and let her read this question you just posted. Then go out with her.

    Long term: NEVER change yourself to fit in with the people around you. Do your own thing. Be you

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    • chained_rage
      8 years ago

      Maybe just edit out the bit where you say "and she's not an amazing one" before letting her read your post

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      • chained_rage
        8 years ago

        Oh, and wear a nice skirt with fashionable leggings that go with it and a white shirt.. maybe a red cardigan over it.. wear your hair loose. There is never a good enough excuse for a woman to wear a ponytail. And some nice boots..i suggest a stylish 2inch heel

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        • chained_rage
          8 years ago

          Oh oh, and remember to get her two presents. A small, either funny or sentimental trinket, and a gift card or something.

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          • chained_rage
            8 years ago

            And don't sit there and fidget with your hands or pull on those weird hard skin next to your nails.
            Just try and look the people in their eyes and let them talk about themselves. That's the easiest thing to do

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            • chained_rage
              8 years ago

              Maybe make conversation with some funny puns. Somehow you seem smart enough to be able to do it. Just don't overdo it

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