Should i give up on him?

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I recently started talking to someone I met through an online dating site. We started texting/talking on the phone for a couple days, then he told me that he doesn't enjoy texting or talking through the phone. We both live in the same state, but he went to his visit his parents for a couple weeks, which is about 4 states away from me. Even now, we only send a couple of texts to each other everyday. He said that he rather talk to someone in person, which I completely understand and I realize that he said he doesn't enjoy talking through the phone, but if he isn't putting much effort into even trying to speak to me, then why should I bother trying to talk to him. Should I just give up on him or am I just not being understanding?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I wouldn't put much energy into someone like him. He might be dropping hints if he's too much of a coward to admit that he's just not that into you. I could be wrong but that's my two cents.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    If you're the one putting in all the effort, then forget about him. He's probably not interested.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    I don't wish to sound harsh, but this is IIN, not 'general dating advice.com'. This isn't really an Is It Normal question.

    Maybe I'm alone in thinking this (and maybe I'll get all thumbed down for it), but I feel like if you dilute the point of this site down into advice for anything and everything, the USP is lost. It might as well be Yahoo Answers.

    Wondering if it's normal the guy you are flirting with doesn't like texting? Fair enough.

    Wondering if you should give up on the guy you are flirting with? Not an Is It Normal question.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    It depends how you feel. I've liked guys who put no effort in and i've tried and tried and in the ends its been a waste of my time :/.
    Maybe wait until he gets back, and go and see him in person like he wanted? then take it from there :)

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  • bfus
    9 years ago

    You haven't even met yet. Why write him off? Why don't you set something up for when he gets back so you guys can go on a date and actually meet each other, that way you will have a chance to know whether you're a good match?

    I don't like texting either, it is hard for me to keep up with the back and forth when I'm distracted doing other things. I rarely send more than a couple of texts each day to anyone at all. So, there is a good chance he is telling you the truth about not liking the phone and that he wants to meet in person, but can't since he is still out of town. I wouldn't write him off as disinterested

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  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    Woah ho ho this sounds just like my ex. Are you dating my ex!? My ex used to say this and tell me how he didn't like to talk much on the phone and never made time to do so. We were about 3 hours apart from each other and he said he'd much rather me just hang out with him so we could talk in person but he knew we'd only get to do so once or twice a month. It ended when he randomly left me and never text me again. I hate to break it to you but I think it's safe to say this guy is NOT interested. You should move on immediately before you get more hurt. A guy should give you his time and the "not wanting to talk on the phone" is just an excuse. I've heard it before even in other relationships that weren't my own and it's not good news my dear.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    He either doesn't want to continue the online relationship because he isn't all that interested, or he's hinting to wanting to meet up.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      that was my thought, depending on how he wording it, he either not that interested or he more interested in sex and not much else

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