Should i give up on a real relationship if i am a possible sociopath?

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Reading the numerous articles about antisocial behavioral disorder and the multiple symptoms accompanied with it, it may be very possible that I am a sociopath. Given that they feel no real emotion or attachment to others I don't know if my desires for a lover are real or a ploy to lure a person into some sort of strange slavery. Honestly I don't really feel that much but I'd like to think that someone might be better off if they didn't get into a relationship with me.

Then again this may be another way of me trying to get some sort of attention or control of my situation. I just don't know. Is it normal?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago | pl

    If you were a true sociopath, you wouldn't question this or think there was anything wrong with you at all. You would just continue to use and manipulate people and enjoy doing so.

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    • TheLogicalJew
      13 years ago

      I wouldn't say that is necessarily true. If one knows that they are a sociopath, and knows the symptoms, etc., then I think it is quite possible and rational that they would as this question. But I am not an expert on such things, so I am sorry, I can't really give a proper yes or no to this one.
      All I can do is say the following: good luck.

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      • dappled
        13 years ago

        I have to admit, I'm basing my judgement solely on my dealings with a sociopath over the last five years. There may be different levels of sociopathy. Either way, you tell a sociopath that they're a sociopath and they'd see that as just another avenue to potentially exploit rather than an illness. It's a condition that scares the hell out of me. There is no reasoning with it and there is no cure.

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        • Andramelach
          13 years ago

          I asked this question feeling a compulsion to start a relationship with no sort of desire or feeling involved. Seeing the back lash and concern from this subject convinced me to halt my efforts because it is a strange idea to be a sociopath. As Dappled said, there may be different levels of the syndrome. More severe and sometimes lesser in some areas. I know the difference between right and wrong, but that is only based on observation.

          I don't neccessarily enjoy manipulation, but it affords me what I want. I don't exhibit all the symtoms of a sociopath, namely violent behavior. Its rather confusing at times feining emotion, I'm not entirely sure if it real or a fabrication of my mind.

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      • [Old Memory]
        13 years ago

        A sociopath would not care about if they were or weren't, they don't have the capacity to feel or care about whether their behaviour is right or wrong.

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  • lala85
    13 years ago

    Cool discussion and topic btw. People can not really blame you for being a sociopath, you didn't choose this. Knowing this though you can choose how to lead your life. The number of sociopaths is surprisingly high, and most of them do not turn to murder or crime. They end up leading a relatively normal life. If I was you I would try to do the best of what's given to you. Since there is very little feelings involve you are much more rational than most people. You can choose a partner that truly fulfills your needs and makes your life pleasant (since you can not really feel happiness, I guess).

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  • flyinhigh
    13 years ago

    I am glad to see someone else here thinks they are a sociopath. I sometimes worry about myself because I find joy in wrapping plants up in paper and setting them ablaze.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Your comment just goes to show how much of a sociopath your "not".

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      • flyinhigh
        13 years ago

        That was the point

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yep Dappled is correct you arent a sociopath.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Self diagnosis is always dangerous and people with Antisocial Personality Disorder are so diluted that they would never admit that they have it.

    You have. Which makes me think you don't have it. Don't worry. I've often worried if I was using those around me but our concern and self analysis proves we're still human.

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    Oh, thought it said psychopath. Less fun now:(

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    • welcome_to_nightmare
      13 years ago

      im a psychopath. well i figure i am seeing how i feel the exact same way but. sociapaths get morphed into numb, feelingless possible murderers by outside forces(like dexter i know its a tv show but wth he saw his mom get chainsawed up so he became the way he is e.g a sociapath) me i think i was born this way. and thats how you distinguish between the two.
      XXX

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      • Mr-Time
        13 years ago

        You are partly correct.
        It depends on what you want and how far along you are. A sociopath by definintion is someone who has lessened empathy and shallow emotions. They tend to be unnoticed by slightly self absorbed and callous to outsiders. Once you realize you have lessend empathy you can force yourself to feel or continue to deaden those things that make us weak. A pyschopath is the ultimate end of that path, someone without remorse or guilt. They live solely for themselves.

        Now it is dangerous to admit this to anyone except those you trust completely. People become scared or contemputeous of those they don't understand. So it is key to study "norms" and minic their emotions to hide yourself. I've had six years since i decided to start down the road. I am now completely free of guilt remorse and completely hidden.

        Some are born, some are made by chance but if you have the genes you can make yourself into a sociopath.

        However it is a dark and lonely path, only for the strongest of will. Do not undertake it unless you truly want it, if you try and fail you will be screwed up for a long time.

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    I don't think its true that people with this disorder necessarily feel nothing. Since many accounts have said they have become angry and lashed out in rage.

    If you can feel rage you feel emotions. I don't think people with this feel nothing at all but I think its very difficult for them to get any stimulation. So they do not get excited or happy as easily as other people might.

    I think it would be very difficult for a person with this disorder to have a proper relationship. Also having such a disorder does not necessarily make you a bad person. You can be a sociopath and not be a killer. the belief that all sociopaths are going to become criminals and harm a bunch of people is a misconception.

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  • demonic2782
    11 years ago

    Its normal and besides alot of people like that kind if thing its like a turn on for them

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  • Tumblr
    12 years ago

    Sherlock, is this you? Dude, you already live with John and he's put up with you thus far, so no, you shouldn't give up. Go for it!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    Mando's right. And I see it this way. You cared enough to write about it on isitnormal, you researched sociopathy, and for some reason this line right here that you mentioned,"Honestly I don't really feel that much but I'd like to think that someone might be better off if they didn't get into a relationship with me." shows me that you have some sympathy/empathy in secret that you might not really be consciously aware of. And that doesnt sound like a sign of a sociopath to me. Hun, you are not a sociopath, because a real sociopath probably wouldnt be out searching like this. They simply wouldnt care.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Obviously you arent a sociopath.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Yikes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    All I can do is refer the OP to Dappled's comment because it's the truth.

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  • Murasaki
    13 years ago

    I'm pretty screwed up, so I know what you're going through. Some days you just want to cut yourself off like a leper. The very fact you're thinking like this though shows me that you're not as bad as you think. don't shut yourself off - you're perfect the way you are.

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    • TheLogicalJew
      13 years ago

      ... I am not really sure that is a proper thing to say. And I am not sure that lepers behaved as such, of their own freewill.

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      • Murasaki
        13 years ago

        Helpful dude, helpful.

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