Should i give my ex-gf a chance?

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I had been with this girl for almost 2 years. In the meantime I was approved for a scholarship and went to study abroad, and we both agreed to keep it a long distance relationship.

Right. After the first semester I got back into my country and met up with her. She then told me that she wanted to experience something new and have more sex with other guys (lolwhat?). Given my personality, I couldn't stand that. So in order not to get mad and nasty, I deleted her phone number in front of her, got up and left without saying a word.

Then we had a short text chat (she insisted, although I hate texting), in which I told her: 'get out of my life and do whatever you like'.

I am very strict when it comes to relationships. But should I give her another chance?

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  • Acerbic
    11 years ago

    That's not exactly a yes or no question.
    You stated that you're both college-age; that's still pretty young. The way she said that she didn't want to be tied down to one person at such a young age may have been inappropriate, but that's what she was saying, and it was probably for the best that she told you up-front instead of 'leading you on' or dragging it out, although the way she said it seems insensitive to me.
    Honestly, it usually is best for young people to experience a variety of things with different people and have the kind of fun you can only have when you're unattached before you think of being tied down to one person. It gets it 'all out of your system' before you're ready for real commitment.
    Yet, your point is also equally valid. You were rightfully upset that someone you cared about was leaving you, and even though her reason seems to have had nothing to do with you personally, anyone would feel hurt in that situation.
    How long ago was this? If it wasn't a reasonable amount of time or you don't know if she's actually changed her mind, then I'd be a little cautious of her for a while until you figure out what she intends for the two of you. If you do want to try to work things out, the best advice I could give would be to take it slow without pressure on either of you for things to go back to the way they were quickly- just see where things naturally go with the two of you without expecting too much too soon. Ultimately, only you know her and how you feel about her now.
    Best wishes.
    ACE

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  • pixie_dust
    11 years ago

    At least she tried to be open and honest about it instead of doing it all behind ur back

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Hell no! Dump that scum bag slut. People like that NEVER change. I don't think you handled anything childishly at all. You simply walked away. You shouldn't want to even be around someone that destroyed your entire relationship just because she wants to fuck a bunch of dudes.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      A girl who wants to experience different people before being committed to one person for the rest of her life is automatically a slut?

      What if she had never been with anyone else? Or had very little experience? Would you really want to commit the rest of your life to *one* thing without having a chance to see what's out there?

      People change. She didn't sleep around, didn't go behind his back, she was honest with him.

      It's a shitty situation of course, but she didn't do anything wrong. Better to dump him than continue into a relationship she wasn't certain of, which would have caused far more problems later down the line.

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    • Sleazoid
      11 years ago

      ^
      Amen.

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    Give her another chance at what? Being your girlfriend or being treated like a human being? It seems to me that just because she doesn't want to date you doesn't mean that she wants to be out of your life.

    I think you handled that situation very childishly.

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  • Sleazoid
    11 years ago

    Sounds to me like she had a bit of fun while you were away and wasn't quite ready to stop when you came back, so she simply told you the truth. At least she told you the truth (lol?). I wouldn't take her back. She sounds like a slut, not to be disrespectful but she literally came out and told you she wanted more dick. People like that don't change. If you guys went farther and got married and she saw someone she wanted to fuck, you can bet your finest horse she'd feed you some bullshit like, "I'm sorry I just need some time to think about what I really want." Then you'll delete her from your life, in which she'll spam call you and try to keep you at arms length just in case the other guy's dick wasn't big enough. Yeah, sounds just like that. Although it is ultimately your decision, I wouldn't deal with that type of merry go round. I can see why she agreed to keep it long distance. She was using you from the start.

    But wait a damn minute....Did you just say you got a scholarship.....to study abroad? Fucking other guys while keeping you close because of your future. This species of bitch knows exactly what she's doing. Dude, get your shit together. Dafuq you trying to mend shit up with a cumdump like her for? You're gonna be getting tail thrown at you from all directions. You can definitely come across a self respecting real woman to eventually settle with. Be glad that you found out about that bitch asap.

    I humbly wish you all the best.

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