Should i get back with my ex girlfriend?

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From what I read, the only reason you wanted her back was because you experienced some nostalgia. That's also what gets me every time...the loneliness creeps in and even though you left with good reason, you abandon all reason, for a small piece of warmth in the hope things will be different this time. The only way it can be, is for something to have changed in you or her, to deal with conflict better and to be committed to making things work. Only you can judge that.

'Flames to dust
Lovers to friends
Why do all good things come to an end?'

Generally speaking, people break up for a reason. The reason you broke up wasn't the text spat, but lots of things that came before that. If the relationship had a solid foundation, you would have both felt motivated to work through whatever the issue was that caused the tiff. If you'd both had good communication skills and were emotionally mature, the end wouldn't have happened the way it did.

It is possible for peoples' perspectives and priorities to shift over a period of a few years, particularly if they're young. I suggest you think back through the things she did that annoyed you, and try to honestly assess if you're more capable of dealing with those now. Then consider your traits and behaviours that irked her, and think about whether you honestly believe you'd still act that way now you're a few years older. Most importantly, think about whether your communication skills are better now, and if you're in a place where you're interested in committing and really working hard to get through the rough spots all relationships go through.

Bear in mind that it's always difficult to look back on old relationships with total objectivity. The passage of time tends to smooth out the bad bits and make the nice bits a little shinier.

Getting together again solely based on the fact that she looks good seems to me pretty shallow and probably unlikely to lead to anything good. The fact that you say you'd be "crushed" if she refused to see you again also isn't a good sign, since it suggests you're very insecure, and insecurity usually results in fraught, unhappy relationships.

What you did when you switched your phone off and refused to talk to her the next day is called stonewalling. It's a toxic behaviour which can shade into manipulation. If that was your typical way of dealing with issues in the relationship, then it's not surprising it ended. If that's still how you deal with problems in a relationship, then you're always going to have problems.

I don't think there'd be any harm in you asking to meet up for a coffee or lunch on a "It would be nice to catch up with you" basis, but try not to let your expectations get too high. If you really would be devastated if she declined, then you shouldn't ask, and you should focus on figuring out how you can increase your self-esteem. If you are one of those guys who has problems engaging with emotional issues in a relationship and resorts to stonewalling (and lots of guys do this, particularly when they're young), then I suggest you should work on that too.

https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/communication/stonewalling

Have a coffee or a drink with her and suss out how she feels before you get your hopes up.

Sorry dude, but I can’t think of a single person this has worked out for. Maybe you’ll be the exception, but you might be in for more pain. I’d probably keep looking forward and not back.

I say things would end the same way again.

That's what my own and others' experience has taught me... but who knows, you might be an exception to the rule. What was the reason for the breakup? I mean, you mention it getting rocky but that's such a broad term.