Should i forget him ?

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I have a really poor boyfriend he wasnt poor when I first dated him.I have been helping him for a while till I have no money.I am poor as him because of him and because I loved him.I found a job finally that my parents accept,because they always wont let me even thought I really need it to help him.They don't know him because I don't tell them about him because they are religious they would want us to get married and he is poor then they will not even give him a chance.My boyfriend had a really hard life he lost both of his parents he has no home he lives with his aunt.He wont be accepted to work because of his nationality.He can't work because he is sick he needs surgery.I paid almost all the cost,still need more,till I have no money no phone units and my parents are poor too.My boyfriend gets angry fast at everything.I am now upset with him.I see that I am waisting my time with someone that doesnt respect me.I am soooooooooooo saaaaaaaad.I see that my cousins are getting married to the ones they love and they are rich and happy.And I get to waist my time with someone that can't marry me.But I keep remembering my bf is a good person and how much he was beside me and that he loves me.But I just feel very sad.He doesnt have enough money to call me.Am I suppose to let him die !I am tired I tell no one because he is poor.I tell no one cuz I dont want him to be ashamed that he had 2 take money from me.What am I supposed to do?Is it Normal to help him ?Should I forget him ?

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    they're religious but wouldn't accept him just b/c of his social status? gotta love religion!

    if you "forget him" you actually probably never will forget him. more than likely, you'd regret it for the rest of your days. sometimes you gotta go with your heart and fuck what your brain and others tell you.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Never doubt the hypocrisy of those that call themselves "church going folk".

      Let he who is without sin cast the first stone!

      Judge not lest ye be judged!

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    • Britney_18
      12 years ago

      U are Right I should follow only what I think is right I should listen to no one else .

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    • Britney_18
      12 years ago

      They are religious they don't like me going out with him.They wont accept his social status cuz if he is poor then how are we gonna live?They expect a person that owns a house and has a perfect job... What they expect is best for me.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    Why cant he work? Is his nationality lazy twat by any chance?

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    • Britney_18
      12 years ago

      In our country there is discrimination to the people of his nationality and by law they do not have the right to posses a house or a car... and they dont have the right in some jobs.

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  • Britney_18
    12 years ago

    Thanks Everybody for the comments.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I think it is highly unlikely that he will die if you stop supporting him. You can only be responsible for yourself - you are not married to him.

    Move on and let him find another fool to finance him. I think that you are very young and are being manipulated.

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    • Chillpill
      12 years ago

      That's exactly the impression I got as well! I mean who doesn't even have money for a phone call? And why would he get angry at the one person who's trying to help him and sacrificing her own needs and happiness in the process? OP, this does not look like a relationship worth pursuing!

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    If your family was as religious as you say they are, wouldn't they accept him anyway whether he were poor or not? And you said he doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect you, why do you wanna be with someone like that?

    Something tells me that the situation that hes in is whats keeping you around. I think you feel more bad for him than anything close to love. I think you need to think it over, and try to block out those around you, and ask yourself one more time if you really love him. If you find that you really do love him, you have to get him up off his ass to find a job. Make him work at a gas station, mc donalds, anything. There's gotta be a place that will hire him. I've never heard of places turning people away because of their nationality. Then again, maybe they do, I don't know with this world anymore. But I have heard of moochers. Theres gotta be something he can do.

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    • Britney_18
      12 years ago

      He loves me a lot but what he is going thru is making him angry.He didnt mean it we had a fight I haven't been talking 2 him for 3 days but we're back again.He appoligised he promised me never to talk to me that way.we went out had a good time.What is making me doughtful of loving him is how much I sacrificed it is making me tired.He promises me that when he finds a job he will be so generous to me.

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  • ThisIsNotAUsername
    12 years ago

    Love has no boundaries.

    'Through rich and through poor. Sickness, and in health'.

    If you're doubting your relationship now due to his situation and health, then you should doubt your want to get married.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Yeh and on what planet do you live on?? I wanna go there and see it. Is there a name for it? Let me guess, la la land?

      Love has no boundaries. Rich and poor, sickness and in health.

      Gimme a break.

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      • ThisIsNotAUsername
        12 years ago

        You've probably never heard of it, cold hearted people aren't allowed to live there. Sorry.

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          So you actually live on another planet then?

          Remember your medication needs to be taken EVERY day, not just when you feel like it. Trust me its for everyone's benefit, not just you.

          Love has no boundaries. That's funny.

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          • ThisIsNotAUsername
            12 years ago

            I do live on another planet and I do take medication everyday for I suffer with depression. So you're right, is it for both mine and everyone elses benefit that I take them. Thank you for reassuring me of that.

            Love doesn't have any boundaries. It only has boundaries is we put them there.

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              We all suffer with depression, except its not called that, its called "life".

              The anti-depressants you take wont make much of a difference, I know, I have taken just about all of them at one time or another.

              In the end you either live with it or not. Besides one way or another the ride ends for all of us one day.

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