Should i feel bad about doing this at work?

Ok, I know this is a ridiculous question but I just want others opinions.

I really didn't think about the fact that I have teased this married man at work several times. It sure doesn't help the fact that he teases me all the time. There isn't any touching involved at all and trust me there wouldn't be any inappropriate touching. Plus I'm always teasing my brothers and family. They've always teased me since I was little too.

But I know this guy loves his wife dearly. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't ever try anything. He is just a rather nice guy and I know every guy is different. I'm sure he is just being friendly plus that is what most guys do they tease and pick on each other. I just need to back off more since I am a woman.

If I was his wife I know for sure I wouldn't like seeing my man teasing another woman and seeing her tease him back. Or the other way around too.

And yes I do like this guy and might be over thinking things but I just don't want any thing bad to happen.

Please explain your answer and no harsh answers. I just want opinions.

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Imposturously_yours

11 years ago

Teasing is normal, my district manager teases me all the time, and she's married and I'm into guys. So in this case it's just hilarious, since nothing will ever happen anyway.

But I'm not sure I can say the same about your case, you guys are both straight and sounds like there's sexual tension going on there. It's not a good working environment and you might end up fucking up this guy's marriage. And that would be a shitty thing to do as a human being.

and this "brother & family" part.. eughh.. no comment. 0_0

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  The teasing doesn't exactly involve seduction in any means. It's more like picking on each other for stupid things we do there at work.
  
  But anyways just the thought of an affair makes me cringe truthfully. Yes I might like him but if he would ever think of doing anything "me, myself" I would never try. Why would I want something to happen with a married man when the same would happen to me too. Bunch a shit would happen, no thanks. Plus I would never think of this guy ever doing anything that far anyways. But yes, shit happens!
  
  Also I don't know about the family part. We have always picked on each other for stupid things we do, all the time. lol
  
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  - Imposturously_yours
    
    11 years ago
    
    Oh, then my bad, I mistook "teasing" as a purely sexual thing in this context.
    
    Well, as long as it's good, clean fun and I don't think it's harming anyone -why not?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      No, problem. :)
      
      Thats why I said I'm probably over thinking. I was just feeling bad the other day about it because I do actually respect people. I don't like the thought of leading guys on.
      
      Just need to do my job and work more professionally, then no worry. But picking on each other every once in a while still would be fun. ha
      
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Mando

11 years ago

Well "teasing" could be anything and innocuous But let's be straight because "teasing" can be flirting. And I don't think it is wise or appropriate to sexualize the workplace.

You don't have to be a prude, but frankly flirting is not fun nor appropriate for those who want boundaries and to maintain an environment of work relationships.

If you are so sure the teasing isn't sexual (i.e. flirting) then why are you getting uncomfortable?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I'm really not getting uncomfortable.
  
  I was having a bad day when I typed this. I was over thinking about a lot of shit.
  
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NothingxCrazy

11 years ago

I see nothing wrong with innocent teasing. As long as the intention is for nothing more than that. My family teases each other, and I tease my male coworkers here and there and they do it back. There is no touching either as there is nothing hurtful or mean. It's just something to help pass the time, I suppose. We're all friends and are in serious relationships so I see nothing wrong as long as it's all platonic.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

It's best to keep work professional and you'll never have to worry about crossing any lines.

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  11 years ago
  
  I agree 100%
  
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Sog

11 years ago

I think you need to be honest with yourself about what your motives actually are.

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myownopinions

11 years ago

I don't think you should feel bad, but then again, it depends on what kind of teasing you do. As long as it's not innappropriate and just on a platonic level, then you should be fine. Though if you are starting to feel uncomfortable, then maybe you should just back off a little (in a way that won't hurt the man's feelings of being friends).

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- myownopinions
  
  11 years ago
  
  *inappropriate
  
  Sorry for the mispell.
  
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howaminotmyself

11 years ago

Not all couples can do this freely and survive. Have you ever met the wife? How innocent is the teasing? It it teasing, or is it seducing? Maybe your guilt lies in that gray area.

Personally, this wouldn't bother me. I trust my husband. But my husband and I are not a typical couple. Women who are looking for something else tend to ignore me or become awkward. Women who are just "teasing" are friendly towards me. I also unconsciously "mark my territory" when he's chatting with someone I don't know by distracting him for a moment.

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NotFloydzie

11 years ago

It's normal and to be honest, teasing each other a little here and there can be fun. Or maybe I'm just too open minded. Try to have a limit or a line that you can't cross. You don't want to be dry but you don't want to get inappropriate either.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Trust me I don't go to far. It's just teases here and there. I wouldn't exactly say my teasing is flirtatious either.
  
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

Why you trying to steal someone else's candy cane you need to find your own.

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  11 years ago
  
  I'm not trying to steal anybody away, like I said up in my story.
  
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  - Terence_the_viking
    
    11 years ago
    
    So you don't wanna lick of the lollipop?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      No, that would just be wrong. He has a WIFE.
      
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      - Terence_the_viking
        
        11 years ago
        
        Oh ok have fun but don't lead him on men are week you have the power to manipulate him to sniff your panties.
        
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        11 years ago
        
        Fucking hell how did panty sniffing come into it noopie?lol
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        11 years ago
        
        I won't and if I would it would never be on purpose. He should see that he's not the only guy I talk to around him or the only guy I tease every once in a while. Besides it's him that teases me more than me teasing him. And it's more for stupid things I do at work sometimes. lol. I'm accident prone.
        
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squeallikeasacofpigs

11 years ago

Well....what a load of high school BS.

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  11 years ago
  
  Yes, you can say so.
  
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Should i feel bad about doing this at work?