Should i even give this a try?
Sorry about the long story, but anyways, I got into a gay relationship with a guy a few years ago, fell deeply in love with him (I was the 'man' in the relationship), but increasingly frequent and intense arguments necessitated our breakup three summers ago.
A bit over a year ago he came back into my life and things seemed to be going well, then he dropped a HUGE bombshell on me and told me he felt that he was really a girl. I was shocked but not altogether surprised, and agreed to give a relationship a try anyways because I still loved him deeply.
We were together for about a year, went on vacations and spent massive amounts of time together but our relationship was once again plagued with intense arguments, though we always got through them. She started hormone replacement therapy and got breast implants, dyed her hair platinum blonde and began to dress in revealing clothing, wearing lots of makeup and perfecting a flirtatious, hyper-feminine persona that fooled almost everyone she met into thinking she was born female (though most who knew her knew she was transgender).
Over time, however, she began to notice that I wasn't as attracted to her as when she was a male (I became reluctant to kiss her, and she had a hard time turning me on), and eventually it came to be a point of contention between us. She has her own house on campus at the college she attends, so I would drive up and stay with her for weeks at a time (her college is two hours away from our hometown).
A few months ago, while she was home for a few days, she came over and we had a long talk about the issues between us, most importantly the fact that I wasn't fully attracted to her as a female, and it ultimately resulted in me ending the relationship. It wasn't an angry break-up, but it was obviously very sad and upsetting for both of us.
A few days ago she called me and told me that she had had a sexual encounter with one of the girls in her circle of friends, and that this, among other things, was causing her to heavily consider de-transitioning.
One of the main reasons I had broken up with her was because I didn't think it was fair to her for me to stay in a relationship with her if I wasn't fully attracted to her and able to give her the full amount of love and attention that other guys who actually wanted her as she was could. She's coming home for Christmas break and wants to see (and have sex with) me, and possibly rekindle the relationship.
Should I even give this a try?
| Yes, give it a try | 3 | |
| No, leave it alone | 15 |