Should i end this?

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Recently I found out my boyfriend has been flirting with other girls online. I asked him about it and he just made a bunch of excuses and then told me that it was just because he 'wasn't thinking clearly' or 'he thought I was going to leave him.' This isn't the first time either. We've been dating for about four years. Every single year something like this has come up. Year 1: cheated on me with a coworker. Year 2: sent me an I love you text meant for someone else. Year 3: flirting with girls he met at a party two years back. And now this. I love him and he swears up and down that he loves me and I'm his whole world he just gets scared sometimes because this is his first real relationship. Every time I start to trust him this shit happens. Is it finally time for me to tell him goodbye or do I give him one last chance?

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago | pl

    Good god why do you even have to ask? Get out of there.

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    • sandnigga
      7 years ago

      its funner if she test him first ;D lol

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        I don't know I think being in a shitty relationship for years is really sad. I'd just get out of there.

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        • sandnigga
          7 years ago

          whats the fun in that? lol

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          • mysistersshadow
            7 years ago

            I'm not into revenge and all that I'd have been gone after he cheated in the first year. Cheaters don't ever seem to change.

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            • sandnigga
              7 years ago

              no no testing isnt revenge. she never said her boyfriend has currently cheated on her. only in the past

              i just wanna see if he's willing to cheat on her. the relationship might be over anyway. might as well put him up to the test

              and do you think doing nothing is going to change a cheater? lol cheaters have to learn the hard way.
              sometimes thats what it takes for a person

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Forgiving him the first time was admirable and there are certainly no perfect relationships. Sadly, he doesen't seem to be learning anything.
    At this point the only way for him to change is to see the consequences of his actions. You deserve someone you can trust, and he apparently can't be that for you - He's taking you for granted and is not being honest. So even if you love him the best way to help him grow up is to end it.

    Some people do whatever selfish thing they can get away with, but that is not love, that's just exploitation.

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  • wigz
    7 years ago

    It sounds like he has an issue causing him to crave/get off on attention from other women. He is engaging in risky behavior, he is unable or unwilling to stop cultivating inappropriate relationships. If that's the case, he basically needs therapy to give him tools to nip these situations in the bud and to stop seeking inappropriate attention. See, it's one thing to find a coworker hot (perfectly normal) but it's quite another to foster a relationship with them especially knowing you have poor self-control. Some people don't say 'hey, this is wrong...walk away' at the first hint of flirting. They go along with it and it ends up going too far. That's a big problem.

    I'd say if he agrees that he has a problem and is willing to get therapy then it could work out if he takes it seriously. I doubt anything will change though if he refuses to get help.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    7 years ago

    Jeesuuuuus, if my boyfriend ever cheated on me, he would have to work very hard for it, he hasn't exactly been doing so right? Break up with him, already. It will be hard but it's seriously not worth it, you dont wanna marry a person who treats you like this, i feel so sorry, you do not deserve this. you'll end up realising he wasn't hte one and you can do much better <3

    (ive read that you should wait, WAIT FOR WHAT? He fucking cheated 4 years ago and he still does weird stuff... jeez)

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  • Anesthesia
    7 years ago

    Don't end it, end HIM.

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    • JustAegis
      7 years ago

      Go big or go home.

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    • Azaman
      7 years ago

      Damn, harsh.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    first of all, theres nothing wrong with him saying "i love you" to another girl if its socially meant.

    you just cant be jealous, which i know may be hard to do, but your boyfriend should be allowed to have other girls as friends

    the flirting is iffy, i probaley wouldnt like it either though

    depends on how hes flirting though

    well i dont think the relationship sounds like too much trouble right now, could get worse, who knows, but its really up to you

    i would wait and see if anything else happens. you could even test him if you really want ;D haha
    have a girlfriend of yours try to have sex with him, and see if he gets into bed with her, of course not actually have sex though

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    Give him another chance.

    Boys will be Boys...he just being a normal guy, its harmless

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