Should i end contact with my mom?
I had a big event last week -- pinnacle of my career when I was awarded a medal. It meant a lot to me and I was invited to a very posh awards ceremony where I was allowed just one guest. I've always had a difficult relationship with my mum, but invited her along in the hope of pleasing her and finally doing something 'good'. The night before, she went into a rage that I hadn't arranged the train times sufficiently in advance. That was it, nothing more. Hard to believe I know. So she refused to attend and went on to send me over 25 abusive messages telling me I ruined her day, I'm selfish, I'm inconsiderate, etc etc. Then, she put a post of herself on Facebook in her hat and clothes for the event, with a photo of the venue saying how sad she was she wasn't going. Everyone must think I am the most terrible daughter ever and I feel embarrassed and ashamed. She's never seemed to like me since birth, constantly punishing me and attacking me, then blaming me for pretty much everything. There seems so much hate in her. It's like she can't see anything good in me, and she twists even the good things into something bad. I still love her in spite of everything, but I know she's never going to change. She had me when she was 16 so I guess she never bonded with me (I'm 50 now). I know most normal people will say "talk to her and try to resolve it" but it's not like talking to a normal person. All I get from her is abuse, vindictiveness and blame. She's more concerned with blaming me than resolving things. Do I walk away, or should I continue to put up with it as she's my mother? Please vote 'normal' to end contact and 'not normal' for me to keep trying.