Should i do it again?

Ok so about 3yrs ago I started hanging out with a co-worker and her husband. Soon after my girl friend and me started hooking up in front of her husband, they would have sex in front of me, and eventually he started to participate with us too, not completely though because his wife would get uncomfortable and kind of insecure if he showed too much interest in me. As time went by we got a little more comfortable with each other and we were having threesomes on a regular basis but my friend would sometimes get really jealous and there was a lot of drama we had to go through, and for me it was very uncomfortable because I would feel guilty even though it was never me who initiated anything (that was my first real experience with a girl.) So after a year of hanging out with them I went my own way because things were very stressful. Now almost 2yrs later I started working in the same place as her again and I really didn't expect her to talk to me but she went and gave me a hug as soon as she saw me and apologized for before and told me how different things are now. They are now swingers with a very open lifestyle and she claims to be completely secure about herself and her relationship. So now that I've been spending time with them again they have tried to initiate sex but I haven't been willing to. I told them I wasn't ready, but I really just didn't want to at all. I felt that after been sexually inactive for the past year I wanted something more "normal" like just be with one guy, even if it's casual, I've never been the long term relationship kind of girl. But now that I've been hearing their stories about things that they have done, and swinger clubs, and other details I started to feel a little interested. Also I found that they've been hanging out with a girl that we work with and it made feel jealous and suddenly I am interested in having fun with them. So is any of this at all normal?
I'm 22 years old, she's 27, and he's 30.

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Based on 85 votes (47 yes)
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Comments ( 16 )
  • Alaxett

    22 years old? That's way too young, you have life ahead of you. Do they wear protection every time?

    I'm only 23, and I'm definitely not gonna to do it early in my life. It would mean I'm gonna to lose my reputation with my peers and family, they will label me as a scum.

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  • Joyless

    I don't think I would you don't sound like your comfortable with it, maybe you should work out what it is you really want and don't go along with other people's ideas, but hey what do I know?

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    • I agree. Why do you have the regular relationships you want but have yet to have and then see if those guys are where you want to be. I doubt it. I think they are preying on your loneliness and inexperience.

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  • clockz71

    As someone who is 43, I would tell you to live your life. Don't worry about what you "should" do, just do what you want. As long as it hurts nobody - what's the real problem?

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  • k1d

    I would not. Obviously they cannot handle this pandora box of love you have open up for them.

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  • randypete

    go for it enjoy fuck your brains out

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  • YumInsanity

    dont listen to the nay-sayers, fuck everything as fast and aggressively as possible, dont you know your going to die one day?

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  • ladyday

    whatever floats your boat. if it feels good, do it!!

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  • Noldus

    I don't see anything wrong with hooking up with another couple, if everyone involved is comfortable with it. But when you say that you're not comfortable with it and you'd like to try to have "normal" sex again, I'm thinking that you should!

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  • alwaysquestioning

    Been in your shoes. If you see them/their "friends", then protect yourself physically...remember, herpes ain't talked about near as much as AIDS...or syphilis. Do your research, and don't be shy about being safe!

    And as far as the emotional component of all this: I agree with creampieguy and do_ob.

    DON'T BE AFRAID TO CUT SOMEONE TOXIC OUT OF YOUR LIFE. You will survive it! Be strong, and do what's best for you; don't be bullied into anything that feels wrong for you.

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  • creampieguy

    my wife and i have been in a relationship with another man for many years. she loves to share herself with two men. he and i have been bi with each other before i met my wife. we know many ,many couples who live in polygamous situations, they just dont advertise it. to many small minded people to deal with. go for sweetie. dont settle for anything less than exactly what you want.

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  • d0_0b

    Well, it all comes down to you deciding what you want.

    If you really don't want to hook up with them anymore because you want to have a 1 on 1 relationship, then be honest with them and don't blow smoke up their asses. If she doesn't understand, put it to her this way: She was insecure about it back then, had problems, now she's changed through the time that's passed. WHY is she granted the privelege of changing and you not?

    Times fly by, people change as people age.

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  • Capthotrock

    Totally normal. We should all have this kind of lifestyle and shag anything that moves and if it doesn't move, kick it till it does,,,then shag it. Most of us would gladly enter just such a situation with much gusto and highly charged sex.
    Just enjoy it while you can.

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    • stacy

      totaly normal but only if your up for it dont be pushed into it by the 3rd party if you are up for it then go and shag there arse off i would

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  • qwespol

    why don't u get a life and stop destroying other people's marriage, you good for nothing 3rd party

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