Should i continue to be real or try to be nice despite my judgement?

Be both. It's possible to be kind and stay true to what you feel.

To me the best (superior?) human being is the one who handles his conflicts with directness yet bares no one any hatred but love instead.

In life, you don't need everyone to love you, all you need are a few good friends because most people out there aren't genuinely interested in you. I'm a very straight-forward person myself, but despite that you can't always be like that to people.

It's not good to always be straight-forward to people, and I'll give you an example. Let's say that you're going out with two friends and they want to go out to eat Denny's, but you say you don't like it, and then they suggest IHOP, and you don't like that either, and then finally you like the 10th suggestion they give and you go along with it. When you get to the restaurant, you tell your friends, " I don't like the way that waitress is looking at me. We should leave ". Then you and your friends leave and find another restaurant and then you say, " The food here is 20 cents more expensive then Dennys! We should go back to Dennys instead. "

Do you see why it's not good to be completely honest? Becauses sometimes you can get carried away, and it's being narrow-minded. You're not allowing yourself to be open to suggestions and not only that, you're also being inflexible.

Part of being friends with people, is exchanging ideas and being open to them. It has to be a two-way street, otherwise your friendship will not last longterm. It's only fair that if your friends are willing to do things with you, that you do things with them, even if you don't like it, as long as it's not unethical.

Don't forget that everyone has flaw, including yourself. I hope your not mistakening being honest for being hurtful. You might not realize it but you might intentionally mean to be rude. Forexample, you can say she's ugly because you secretly want to hurt her but its conviently is the truth. You use honestly as an excuse.

And these honest people, you say you respect. Did they ever say something honest that hurt your feelings? And would you honestly want to hang out with these honest people?

Dont mistaken Honest gal for a HATER.

Besides,
You have to be fake sooner or later. You have to be fake to authority figures and your boss or else your jobless or in jail. No boss is going to accept complete honestly.

Most people end up as shit anyways. Those on bottom usually cant handle being on top. Those who are on top are often arrogant and treat everyone else like shit. So eventually you are going to lose a friend.

You just learn to live with it. I have befriended many people with no friends, were socially awkward and never dated. The minute they got a girlfriend/boyfriend they became jerks and abandon all the real friends they had for superficial ones. So most friends have a expiration date.

It's not called being "honest" when you are rudely disrespecting someone based off of your perception of them, and it is not being "real" either. It's being rude and hurtful to act like you can just treat people however you want, you're not superior to them.

I can't stand it when people I don't know do that to me, especially when they are friends with one of my friends. I just sit there and take it with a smile, because out of RESPECT to my friend, I will not start a fight that will put my friend in a situation in which she must chose sides. I am usually cool to those people, regardless of how they treat me, and I'm betting you've been "real" to a few people like me.

oh have 2 sht brb lol

truth dude u always bring out the good once u tell them the bad side

I say that you should be real as long as you don't come across as bitchy

forget about that friend of yours and focus on bettering yourself first.

I trust no one

There's a Bible verse where some guy tries to remove a speck of dirt from his brother's eye, not realizing that he has a whole log of dirt in his eye! Check the things you could change about yourself before bothering about your brother's problems. Check yourself before you wreck yourself, in the famous hip-hop trope. Everyone has their own problems, but only you can change yours. In this I'm not accusing you of "having problems," but admonishing you to raise the bar.

Also, find the right friends. Look for people you admire as being better than you in many respects. Think of those people you know who you always liked but never hung out with. Once you do, spend as much time with them as you can. Help them and fight for them with your life. Whatever you have is their's and vice versa (within reason). If you can, don't think about girls: they flock as soon as you're ready. Talk to them and try to get them, but not too hard. NEVER worry about what bitch N*gga's chirp about. If they hate then let them hate and watch the money pile up. Take pride in your haters. Focus on your goals and passions.

BY FAR THE MOST IMPORTANT - BE HAPPY :) BE POSITIVE, IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY :) keep being real but focus your intelligent, critical eye on what's GOOD and only on what's bad when you're trying to change or help the bad situation. If friends bring up bad in conversation, stay real and say how you feel, but try to keep pressing everything, your mind, body, and spirit, towards the great goodness in the world.
LOVE :)

You don't need lots of friends. Just keep doing what you're doing and you won't have to deal with people you don't care for.