Should i continue to bang my ex part 2?

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Thanks for everyone's comments on my original post, I will not sleep with her again, I want to be fair to the girl that I had one date with. I set up another date for us next week. My new question is whether to tell the girls about each other? Some info about them is my ex girlfriend is still living at my house just because that her two children from a previous relationship are here too, I can't kick them out because of the fact that it would be unfair to the kids. My ex and I talked and we are free to see other people. I know that this is easier said than done as she might make things difficult if she knew I was back on the dating field.
And the new girl I'm going on the second date with, I don't want to scare her off by saying oh by the way I still provide and support for my ex girlfriend who I freshly broke up with, seperate rooms and all but I see her everyday.
I could see her dropping me if she wants to avoid the drama.
So my question is shoul I tell these girls about each other and when?

Tell the ex now 59
Tell the ex if things pick up with the new one? 51
Tell my new girl on our second date 45
Wait a while to tell my date, 50
Keep lying, I'm in too deep 48
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  • rin
    12 years ago

    It's more important to tell the new girl about your situation. She'll find out eventually right? and if not she'll wonder why you won't let her come over your place all the time.

    Tell the ex if your new GF is going to be coming over or if she might catch you two at home.

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  • chewy
    12 years ago

    So there is part 2 to this? this is like a movie hope they consider to make this silly master piece as one.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Tell them both.

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  • XxDancefortheDeadXx
    12 years ago

    Ask your ex to GTFO. Move on, it's not a real break up if she's still living with you. -.-

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    • Hmmaybe
      12 years ago

      Didn't you read the OP? The children must be considered, he's done the right thing by letting them stay until they can get a place of their own/ go to his ex's boyfriend's place when she gets a new boyfriend.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If I were you I'd keep my mouth shut!!

    It's only the 2nd date - you're not swearing undying love. By the time you get serious your ex should be gone anyway.

    Nor would I tell the ex in case she goes psycho - hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. She may try to spoil your fun and make no attempt to leave. Don't forget - she doesn't want you to be happy anymore, she's focussing on herself and her kids.

    Stay quiet until your new woman seems to be truly interested in you. Give it time - you don't have to tell your life story to everyone you meet.

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    • norm
      12 years ago

      Well put, Joy!

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  • Steve2.0
    8 years ago

    If you're banging her, she's not really your ex is she?

    Child, you are so stupid.

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  • Shnaz
    10 years ago

    Keep your mouth shut and your fly open.

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  • megadriver
    10 years ago

    Wish my ex-girlfriend would ring me up and say "We'll bang ok?"

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    Always be honest and forthcoming, however, get to know your new partner better before telling her.

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  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    I'd recommend full disclosure to both parties. It's easier in the long run, and truth is the most powerful ally you can ever have.

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    Like I said in the other poll, you need to tell them both about each other. I see what you're saying about bringing up drama too early with the new girl, but try to tell her as soon as possible - second or third date.

    Is your ex at least trying to find her own place? You can't just house them forever.

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  • Blah706blah
    12 years ago

    This is my poll:
    Am I supposed to put her out on the street?? I can't put two kids on the street, if it was just her I'd say get but. OT to the innocent children

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    • Darkoil
      12 years ago

      I would tell your ex that you are going on a date, she sort of may be expecting that you two will eventually end up together again due to the close proximity. In regards to the other girl it's probably better to tell her sooner than later cos that would be one akward converstaion if she one day randomly decides to come calling and your ex answers, if that happened it would actually look like you were trying to hide something. But then again it depends on whether you think it may go somewhere, if your just trying to get a quick shag then i wouldn't bother telling her.

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    • malkiot
      12 years ago

      Option 1: There are homes for mothers and their children. If there isn't on in your area go to option 2.

      Option 2: Ask her (firmly) to find a new appartment withing two or three weeks.

      Option 3: Ask her parents to put up with her.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You need to break COMPLETELY.

    This means the ex needs to move out. So she has kids - was she using you to support them? Using your relationship as rent?

    What's going to happen when you bring the new girl home? Will you ex like that? I mean in front of her kids? How's that going to play out.

    You are still going to dig yourself a hole unless you completely separate your households

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