Should i confess that i'm actually a girl?

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There's a friend I've been communicating with since January this year. We're not too close, but pretty alright. We're working on some project together and it's going pretty well. The only way we communicate is through MSN Messenger, so it's like an online-friend thing, in which we don't know the other's face, let alone voice.

I never explicitly told him or even hinted that I was a guy--He assumed it. But I played along with it, so I'm also to blame. It felt natural for me to play along because I've always pretended to be a guy in online games and all that. It also prevented unwanted attention, so I've always done it. In fact I am more comfortable as a dude on the internet than I am as a girl.

Thing is, I feel like it's gone for far too long. I mean, it's already September for goodness' sake. He still believes I'm a dude. Plus he has told me he's gynephobic. I don't think it should play too big of a role here, but I feel I should mention it anyway. I respect him a lot and I don't want him to think I've been deliberately lying about this for laughs.

Bottom line, should I go ahead and tell him I'm a girl? If so, how do I go about that? Or is it better if I leave things as they are?

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I honestly have no idea 31
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    wouldnt you laugh if he was a girl too

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    does it really matter if you tell him?

    i mean since you're not dating and may never meet... do the genitals between your legs matter for what you do with him?

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    I would think that somebody that he's been able to relate to and be at least compatible chatting, he mifht think, 'wow, I enjoy this person's company, added bonus, it's a girl, letz's date!'' assuming he's not gay or you 2 aren't already in a relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's best to come clean with a friend.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Say straight. You know that nobody will find you and steal your house down and kill your family just because you said you were a female human being. Seriously now, with no scientific words. Just say that you are a girl. Or even show him your Facebook/twitter/MSNprivatePage-thing/...
    It will be, somewhat, more pleasant, to work with somebody, if you, atleast, know what gender is.

    This is the list of what you can say about you:

    Your Nick - of course.
    Your Name - You can lie on that if you want.
    Your gender - I don't see what is the problem.
    Your Sexual interests - in case you are a lesbian :p
    Improvise then - see what you can share with him.

    For the record, he might be a girl, as you, just, as you, thinking: should I say this dude I am not a dude?

    So, cheers. - Me

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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    See this is one of the biggest bits of shit with the internet and stuff that really gets on my nerves, it's insane really. How could we have not even kniown what sex a person was that we'd been talking to sometimes for yrs - before ?
    Just shows what la la land the net really is I reckon.

    I say tell him , that's stuffs bs. I've had it happen myself , really pissed me off.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    If you are good friends, when you tell him that you're a girl he might stop being gynephobic.

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