Should i come out at a christian school

I go to a school that is very religious (Christian is part of the schools name) and I've recently admitted to myself that I'm bisexual. I don't consider myself a Christian (I've tried but it's just not for me) but a lot of the other kids in my classes are very strong believers. I want to be open about my sexuality but I'm worried about losing the only friends I have at school. None of them are that close to me and I have other friends outside of school who know and accept me but it would be nice to have someone I can talk to between classes. What should I do?

come out to everyone 15
Tell one or two people 8
Don't tell anyone 10
Come out to a teacher/Guidence counseller 11
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  • sega31098

    If they truly are Christian they won't judge you or spite you. They may not agree with homosexual activity, but they should not treat you worse for being bi. Come out to everyone and if they start treating you like crap you can expose them for the hypocrites they are.

    P.S. Make sure you are secure enough, and I cannot guarantee that this won't impact you negatively.

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  • college

    If you feel you have to talk to someone about your sexuality, I would suggest telling someone you trust (whether they're in your school or not). Otherwise, if you think the reaction will be negative, I wouldn't tell anyone. If you get bullied it could hurt you emotionally. If they dislike that you're bisexual, there's a chance they may attack you physically. That certainly not worth it. Straight people don't have to "come out", so you shouldn't be pressured to either.

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  • myownopinions

    I'd like to say that you should go ahead and let your true self be known and just ignore the people who will start acting differently about you. But the more realistic part of me knows that this will probably be a bad idea.

    I guess it just depends on whether you see your peers as accepting people. I'd suggesting only telling people you are extremely comfortable with who you fell like won't betray you if you tell them 'cause, let's face it, people can be mean and judgmental and if you tell too many people, you may just be bullied or ridiculed.

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  • sweetwisteria

    I was in this same situation a few years ago. Don't pretend like you're straight- that just gets depressing. Don't lie if they ask you straight out (heh), but don't bring it up on your own. Sadly, it's still very dangerous to be "out" today, especially around very religous people. It's not even the homophobes you have to look out for; it's the ones who think they can "save" you.
    I understand the longing you feel to come out: we've all felt it. But I would suggest you avoid the fallout of coming out in a potentially hostile enviornment.

    Good luck, whatever you decide. :)

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  • ScooterNyne

    It's up to you. But if people at your school can't accept you for who you are then they are worthless. Don't even worry about them.

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  • Konamikode

    I don't personally find it necessary to tell all the people in my school that I'm bisexual cause we have a very small school and only few ones are accepting towards LGBT-community. But if the topic comes up I won't deny it either. So what ever feels the most comfortable choise to you is the right one. You should bring the topic to the table, about sexulity and observe their reactions. You'll definatly notice peoples true selfs when talking about something so intimate like that, if they are completely fine with their selves and others sexual orientations you'll know they are the right people to talk about the subject. This way you'll more likely avoid awkward and on the worst case hatred filled conversations with the wrong people.:D

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  • thisisme23

    The reason I'd like to have a friend a school who knows is so I can talk to him/her about stuff like girls I have crushes on that are at the school (its kind of hard talking about someone that the other person has never met), I understand that I probably wont find another LGBT there and I don't want to replace my friends (even if I did my school is really small so my friends are basically everyone in my grade)really being openly out would be more of a luxury. Thank you all for your opinions, I think I'll not tell anyone unless they ask but I might tell this one guy (he is not crazy religious and is a pretty good friend).

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  • confusedabit

    i recently came out to my one best friend ever as being bysexual it really helps getting it off your chest so if u have that one friend then tell them

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  • GreyWulfen

    If they don't like you for being bi, they are hypocrites and not true christians. Also, since being bisexual is the most common of all sexual orientations, I don't see why anyone should be against it - most of them are bisexual by themselves.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Alright I have nothing against homosexuality but if you are attending christian/Catholic school I would say no. Also if you are not planning on dating someone what exactly are you planning on talking about? I mean you could have normal interests and BE GAY so I don't see what the issue here is. I would say to stay quiet and not talk about it. You seem to believe your interests and social actions MUST revolve around your homosexuality when in reality it doesn't. Also if you are trying to find "Gay" Christians you are probobly barking up the wrong tree. Since either they are going to be quiet about it or not agree with it. So I really am not understanding the point of you coming out at all. In the end it is up to you. I just do not understand what you are trying to accomplish by this. Do you have an issue with the friends you have now? Did you want new gay friends? How is coming out going to get you more friends?

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