Should i call it off?

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So i've been dating this guy for 5 months now. To tell the truth i've never loved anyone as much as I love him. I'm a very independent person and usually I get freaked out by commitment and run away, but this time I just couldn't. As soon as I started dating him my whole world became him. I left my friends, school, pretty much everything behind. He became the best thing that had ever happened to me, i've never been so happy in my life. He's a very needy person, needs constant care and attention and it bothered me at times but I just went with the flow. It was a very very intense and passionate relationship, but lately we have kinda grown apart. We just don't have fun as we did before and we're trying to avoid the situation and it is certainly not right. I have visualized all my life with him and i don't know if I could live without him. But still, i've been crying every single night for the last week because of it. I truly love him and i'm afraid I won't know who I am if I break up with him, and i'm also scared of how he'll take it since he has a suicide attempt background.

My question is, is this one of those relationship crisis that every couple goes through? Or should I call it off and finish with the suffering?

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Based on 39 votes (18 yes)
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  • ClevehNinja
    15 years ago

    Sounds like hes a whiny bitch. And also, 5 months? Thats all? You threw away everything for a guy that quick? You should recheck your life, you always come first, then friends, then the other.

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  • hallo101
    14 years ago

    look at the first reason why you loved him in the first place, it was his looks right? well u got to know him more. he is needy, simply talk about that, in time he will change

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  • activecatcow
    15 years ago

    Yes. Do it now before you get into it anymore.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    No, not normal. Infatuation. Dependency. Isolation. Neediness. Intensity. Drama. Emotional blackmail. That's not love. That's just sick & B S. Go back to your real world and leave the guy a business card for a shrink.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    It is like anything. THE NEW HAS WORN OFF. you licked the red off the lolie pop and threw it in the dirt. I have definatly noticed this with my failed marriage. I was having fun dating and screwing around but when it became serious, I would rather be back with my ex wife. Silly I know. Oh what is you age.

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  • MapleSyrup
    15 years ago

    If you stated your age it would be easier to answer... but really 5 months is nothing at all. Perhaps give it more time and see where things go. If you still feel miserable well then it isnt much of a relationship is it.

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    • zitface
      15 years ago

      just play along the situation. dont break up. see where this all is going. maybe it'll get better
      u seem like a really nice girl. not like my girl. i helped her wen she was alone. and wen she got everyone, she dumped me, that bitch

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  • pringletot2
    15 years ago

    U shuldnt hav given up your friends for him. Friends before boyfriend. You need your own friends. If you truly love him then stay with him. And no guys shuldn't be needy, but as he is, then your choice if it's better to stay or leave, I can't advise on that unless u say how needy he is. Like if you have to be there for him 24/7 then that's a bit much.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    guys shouldn't be needy

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    Your fist mistake was giving up your friends and your life for him. Everyone has to have a bit of independance. As far as his suicidal tendancies go how is he gonna look after you the first sign of trouble and youll find him swinging from the ceiling. Get rid of his pathetic arse and find someone who is stable or youll be left with no friends and no life and insurance policies dont pay out on suicide just thought Id let you know

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  • moondragon
    15 years ago

    you can't experience the good without the bad. sometimes the bad makes the good better! you need to talk to him tell him what you are feeling and try to work it out. Try before you decide to cut it off. and if you do break up with him talk it out with him to see if you both want to break up. maybe he has just had some rough family times or who knows what or maybe its just the point in your relationship where things start to mellow down and you both think it is that you guys aren't meant to be together maybe but most relationships need work. if you want a successful relationship you have to put effort into it! FIGHT, KEEP IT UP!!! and good luck!

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