Should i call her? iin?

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I miss my friend. I was having health problems and with the stress, I stopped talking. There wasn't anything to say. I was depressed and didn't need the pressure of having to explain myself and she would have needled me for an explanation. It has been a long time since I have heard from her. I want to call her up and tell her miss her but I am ashamed for letting it go this long. She probably hates me at this point. Can a friendship be saved when a lot of time has passed? I think of calling her up all of the time.

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  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    Yes! Call her! True friends stay friends no matter how much time has passed.

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago

    Triple yes, you have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario is you end up exactly where you are now.

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  • TareBear20
    8 years ago

    I think you should call her. Real friendships stand the test of time, even if that means a complete absence of both sides for long periods of time. Good friends can pickup where they left off, even if they haven't spoken in weeks, months or even years. Has it occurred to you that she may also be depressed and going through problems that keep her silent as well? I'm sure she'll understand why she hasn't heard from you and be glad that you called. :)

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    She'll be over the moon just to hear your voice. You'd be surprised at how forgiving friends can be in that situation. If she's at all upset that it took you so long, that will be completely overshadowed by how glad she is to hear from you. And absence always makes the heart grow fonder anyway.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Time is of no consequence to a real friendship. Because of my traveling lifestyle it was often many years between face to face visits with my closest friends. No email or cell phones either (really!).
    It didn't matter. In seconds we were back in our stride as friends, sharing the experiences we'd each had while apart.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    Double yes.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    Go for it! The great thing about a true friendship is they can go long periods of time without speaking to each other at all. It's pretty amazing.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    Yes went through the same thing! If she was your true friend she will accept your apology and just be happy to see you again.

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  • Twickers
    8 years ago

    What do you have to lose by calling her? Nothing.

    What do you have to lose by not calling her? Everything.

    If the friendship meant ANYTHING to you, you'll call.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Call or write or email her & tell her what's been going on for you: what have you got to lose?

    I'm wondering why she hasn't contacted you if she's a good friend? Did she know you were depressed?

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