Should i call her?

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I was dating this girl for about six months. Things were going okay, but not great. We went out together on New Years but I didn't really have a good time with her friends. I felt like an outsider and didn't think she was being very inclusive.

After that I was kind of angry and didn't really feel like seeing her for a while. I decided to stop texting her like I usually do. I figured I could have some time to cool off and she would eventually reach out to me and then we could talk about all these things and I could decide if I wanted to continue to see her.

But she never did. I haven't seen her or spoken to her since New Years Day when I got home.

Sometimes I think that she had always wanted to get rid of me and this was her passive aggressive way of carrying it out. But then other times I think maybe she was sorry for what happened and was just too upset to reach back out to me.

I do wonder how she's doing but I don't know if it's better for me to just try to forget all about this or try to contact her again and see what happens.

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    I don't understand why people are siding with your side of this story. Especially seeing the "as I usually do" line.

    I think you are an immature brat that wants everything to go your way and if it doesn't go that way you throw a fit and think she will come crawling back to you every time you decide to go off the radar by refusing to talk to her.

    Women get sick of that shit very quickly.

    I think she finally decided that you are just too much of a hassle.

    Besides, it's not her job or duty to be inclusive. Grow a sack and just talk to people.

    You have given very little information as to the whole "she was just waiting for the most opportune time to dump me" crap. She turned her back on you because you turned your back on her first. Usually that's how things work in a western gun fight.

    Call her if you want. But don't throw another fit if she goes guns blazing on your ass.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      By "like I usually do" I meant that I usually text her under normal circumstances. I never stopped texting her before this.

      I didn't refuse to talk to her, I just wanted to see if she would ever text me on her own initiative. It was always me pinging her first anyway.

      If she did decide to text me I would have responded. But she didn't.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I don't see why you would bother to contact her. Do you really want to settle for okay, but not great?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    It's cute that you wonder if you should call her, but she's probably not worth the trouble.

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    If she hasn't contacted you by now she's probably moved on to a new guy. So be prepared for that at least.

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  • woodchuckgra
    9 years ago

    All of these comments are self serving, there is a deciding factor that is being over looked. It is if you like her to the extent that you feel she may be the ONE... OK I have 2 anecdotes to relay, first I had partner that I really really liked and he got mad at me dropped me off and sped away. After a week, I being a not particularly sensitive male did not reach out for a week missed him, sent a card expressing as much. He called me as soon as he got the card and we were together until I moved to Texas. Now flip side I was dating a guy I met in Texas, missed the signs, had a fight did not call for a few days and when I did his roommate informed me he had committed suicide after our fight, I realized that I was the straw that broke the camel's back. Take it how you want to take it, but I feel that it is better to suck it up and be the bigger person. See how things progress, if not, break up for real and be sure you don't regret letting the ONE get away because of pride.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    9 years ago

    Call her.

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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    I think it's immature that you got upset and didn't vocalize how you felt that night. YOU were the one being passive aggressive by not calling her because (you may have imagined) she upset you.

    She might have thought you were fine at night or felt that you would have jumped into the conversation yourself. She may have wanted to get rid of you: it's speculation.

    You can call her to see how things are, but I do find it suspect that she hasn't tried to contact you in any way. Maybe she got tired of your (possible) insecurities. By what you displayed, you would seem annoying to deal with.

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you can do better for yourself.

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