Should i breakup with her??

Ive been going out with this wonderful girl from school for awhile now and were both same age. Everything was perfect til the day I realized I was way more in love with her than she was with me. we were at party at a friends house when I first said I loved her. She said I love you too but I think your going too fast. Ever since that day my feelings changed and I cant go back to what I felt before this happened. She noticed this and wants to know whats wrong but I cant tell her and i dont know what to do. Is it over? Should I break up with her? Is it normal my feeling changed liked this?

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Based on 62 votes (46 yes)
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Comments ( 19 )
  • SinnersAdvocate

    Well, if a girl has to tell you to slow down, then I'd think that you're going way too fast for her. You're probably just adjusting. But to break up with her for that just seems like you're jumping to conclusions too quickly... slightly over exaggerating it. Talk to her, a relationship needs communication. It won't do any good, if you don't talk to her.

    This is normal. Takes time to adjust.

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  • Silentnight

    You just need to give her time. She will come round, you just have to be patient with her feelings. Just because you love her to a certain level that she isn't at yet doesn't mean she will never get there. And the reason why you changed like that would have been because you weren't expecting that answer so it kind of hit you and took you back. And maybe a bit bummed at that too. But just talk to her and tell her what you're feeling and that there is no rush or pressure.

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  • BlondeBambi

    Yes, I agree with Chattic. You're going really fast I think. That's just a thing girls don't like. You should show her that you love her, but not too much. My boyfriend is pretty obsessive too, but that's allright because we're pretty long together now. Especially in the beginning of a relationship you have to get to know eachother better. She has to know you better. So when you get all over her, it won't work. If you give it some time, it will surely be ok.

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  • Chattic

    You're jumping into conclusions really fast, no bueno. If you believe shes the one then take it slowly because you can't just instinctly love somebody... Tell her what's going on with you because then shes gonna get mixed signs from you, resulting a negative solution... Communication and honesty is extremely important... Good luck! And btw you're perfectly fine dont stress about it.

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  • IrishPotato

    Don't break up with her, just sloooow down.

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  • denise1290

    Don't break up with her. She's just worried you're gonna ask her to marry you or something

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  • AtomicCollider

    It's completely normal. Just take it slow. My gf said the same thing to me and I'm adjusting.

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  • Devilsno1angel

    Talk to her about it see how she is feeling nw if uu keep quiet it will start arguements which is the last thing uu want gd luck x

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  • Ryan556

    I remember when one of my exs broke my heart when she said fuck off after I told her I loved her we were dating then

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  • snafu

    if you love someone you should be able to talk to them about anything

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  • plum6

    work for it man. I believe a guy should always be more into the woman than she is into him. It is a part of nature which forces men to 'conquer' and impress their love interest. Just keep trying!

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  • Ryan556

    No you shouldent break up with her just tell her that we'll I don't know but I think its wierd for her to say that maybe she thaught you were making a move

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  • Shackleford96

    No.

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  • RaNdOmPoPcOrN

    Don't

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  • thinkingaboutit

    yeah your in HS, right? You probably don't love her and are confused. She is smart and senses this. If she has to voice "you are going to fast" then you are probably going wayyyyy too fast. Take it the fuck easy pork chop. She hasn't regected you, and you will regret it when you see her all bubbly with some other guy because you broke up with her over some dumb shit.

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    • IrishPotato

      Being in HS doesn't necessarily mean you're incapeable of genuinly loving someone.

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      • thinkingaboutit

        he told he loved her. at a party. she was not feeling it. he does not have strong feelings for her anymore.

        not love.

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        • IrishPotato

          Not love indeed.

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      • Chaosmuffin

        But 90% of the time they are. Just like the couples who try and make it work when they graduate HS..

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