Should i break up with my partner?

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So we been dating for 2 months. I met thier parents they said they would never want to meet mine. Understably as my family for the most if horrible and hates me. It seemed to all go well till recently there was a schedule change and now we never get to see each other. They are always too busy on thier off days to even hang out on my work days even after work. So we barely see each other and honestly feels like I dont really have a partner. I mean they are still helping me with stuff I need. I trying not to sound needy or clingy but honestly I am questioning the purpose in us dating anymore at this piont. Am I over thinking this?

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Based on 18 votes (9 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    So, doesn't want to meet your parents, couldn't be bothered with you on days off, and leaves you feeling like you have no partner at all.

    ...and you're still dating this person because...?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I mean my parents kind of disowned me. I met thiers.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Well, that point was the least important, anyway, and I'm sorry your parents did that to you. Think about the other two points, though. This relationship sounds doomed, I'm sorry to say.

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    It doesn't sound great. You should talk to your partner about how you feel and see if you can find some kind of solution. Otherwise break up. There is no worse lonliness than being with someone who makes you feel alone.

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  • Crazy-w-99
    4 years ago

    Break up.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    It seems clear that you're not getting what you need out of the relationship, while the other person doesn't feel any great need to spend time with you.

    If two people aren't willing to make the effort to regularly spend time together alone as well as staying in regular contact when they have to be apart, it's hard for me to see how that could be called a romantic relationship. It sounds more like what I'd call friendship.

    You're not over-thinking this; you feel what you feel, and your perceptions are what they are. If you don't feel you can honestly express your feelings to the other person and you have no confidence that they will work with you to improve things, then it sounds to me like the relationship has come to an end.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      UPDATE: I broke up with them. They said they wanted to talk about it for closure I told them to deal with it becuase I didn't want to talk.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    It depends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      On what? That isnt a real awnser.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Well, if your partner doesn't want to meet your family, because they are awful people who were abusive toward you, I think it's understandable. However, I kinda think that impractical, because there might end up being any manner of unforeseen circumstances on which your partner might have to meet your family.

        My knee jerk reaction when I first read the first sentence of your post was that it wasn't a good sign, and I was kinda thinking, oh Hell no.

        I do think it's rather concerning that ya'll aren't seeing as much of each as ya'll used to initially. However, I don't really feel comfortable telling you what to do on this.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          I mean no becuase I dont see my family so.

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            Well, then that takes care of that concern.

            I hope you guys sort out the scheduling business.

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