Should i break up with my boyfriend via text message?

31 Comments

I want to break up with my boyfriend because he has lied to me and he broke his promises. I don't want to do it in person because he has REALLY BIG anger issues and I'm afraid he might lash out at me, and I don't want to call him and deal with all of the awkward stuff (plus he might yell at me). I realize if I do this, it makes me a coward, but i don't care as long I break up with him in the end. Is it OK if I break up with him via text message? Or should I break up with him in person or by call?

Yes, it's OK if you text him 23
No, do it in person 15
No, call him 9
Ya, I guess it's OK 7
IDK 2
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 31 )
  • i-am-froot?
    7 years ago | pl

    Since it sounds like it's a more a serious relationship, the better way to completely end it would be to do it in person. For closure and all.

    HOWEVER because of his anger issues, you should definitely try and do this in a public place. (Like a coffeeshop or something)

    You haven't given us enough details to show the extent of his anger issues. If he has hit you or really does scare you, then no one would blame you for foregoing the typical breakup procedure.

    Stay safe!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    6
    6
  • CheyChey
    7 years ago

    If you do not feel safe break up via text it's fine since he has anger issues, most people say its cowardly but in this day and age texting IS a proper way to break up. I broke up with my bf via text and he called me a coward, I could have called but I know myself and would never had been able to fully explain my reasons, would have gotten tongue tied. He was very manipulative as well so in person would have been a bad idea. It's okay to feel you "owe" him a better break up but my bf lied to me and broke promises as well so in fact fuck him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    That doesn't make you a coward, you're at least verbally breaking up with him and confronting him,
    with your feelings and allowing him an opportunity to express his.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
      -
    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      How is a text verbal?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • _Jesus_
        7 years ago

        When the other person reads it out loud

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
      • Fall_leaves
        7 years ago

        If she called him

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • _Jesus_
          7 years ago

          You are beautiful. I would definitely bang you.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • Fall_leaves
            7 years ago

            Thanks jesus, I'll see you Sunday.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • _Jesus_
              7 years ago

              Can't wait. I'll trim. Just for you.. because you are hot.. for a red head

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    prob better in person but if he has anger issues text is ok

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • _Jesus_
    7 years ago

    Break up via text. This seems like the best choice in your circumstance. You are obviously scared of this person. So keep safe and do it via text.
    You don't "owe" this person anything.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Buttzilla
    7 years ago

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/12/text-breakup-_n_4922063.html

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • ay.mari
    7 years ago

    I personally think you should call him. But I guess you could text him? Just wouldn't be what I would do.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • walkingdildo
    7 years ago

    Texting is for shitbags.

    I know, I did it once and felt like shit afterwards.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Text is a shitty way to do it. You could meet in a very public place where a angry outburst is less likely and there are security guards around. You could also bring a male friend that will represent if need be and have him just chilling off to the side incognito. Pepper spray or stun gun works well. I personally wouldn't be that worried becos even at a little under 105lbs I can bring a serious hurt to just about anyone. And theres a glock in my purse.

    But if you ever cared for this person you owe it to both of you to have the closure of face to face. But you do what you think is best.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -2
    -2
      -
    • _Jesus_
      7 years ago

      So you are telling this (obviously scared) person that she should willingly put herself in a position of danger where, if things escalate, she should have weapons on hand in order to subdue or possibly kill this guy which would lead to her going to jail?

      This is terrible advice.

      There is nothing wrong with her breaking up via text with this person who obviously doesn't seem to care about her wellbeing. She feels scared and she sounds young and vulnerable.

      You don't need to push propaganda her way.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      2
      2
        -
      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        What do you know your immortal.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0