Should i break up becaus of different opinions on sexually activeness?

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So, I've been dating my best friend for one month now, and I always knew he was muuuuuuuuuuuch more sexually active than me (being an anime and video game freak). Okay, I'm not a very sexually active person, I've decided to have sex only when I'm married and I don't like that my boyfriends put their hands on my legs and butt without my approval (not that I would approve anyway). I really hate that, it makes me feel like a s*lut.

So, my actual boyfriend is always sending me texts saying that I would look hot in certain anime character's outfits and/or video game characters, and I don't really like it as well. After we hang out he keeps telling me that I'm hot and that he kept looking at my butt and boobs.

We kiss like a normal couple (making out only in private) and sometimes he says that we're going 'too slow' for his taste, and that really upsetted me, because I'm not that type of girl who has sex very soon and stuff. I've already told him that I'll only lose my virginity when I'm married.

Also, he's always complaining that I don't talk to him about sexual themes and stuff. He doesn't want to talk sexually about me to his guyfriend, but he wants to talk to ME! He says he's faithfull but he's also a perv. I like him very much and all, and he said that he loves me. Should I break up with him? Or am I just stuck in the 1920's? What should I do?

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  • VirgilManly
    9 years ago

    Don't do anything you're not comfortable doing.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    It might not work out if you two are going different speeds. He is wanting to race ahead and you want to be in the slow lane. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go slow and wait... but it seems your speed and his are so very far apart.
    one bf I had I dated for I think about 5 months before he got a handjob dated for about a year and I never slept with him.
    you can countinue to go at your speed and he needs to slow down a lot...or you can speed up a little for him ...maybe some sexting or something.
    but if you two cant agree/ meet in the middle somewhere I dont think this will work

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Everybody has different standards with sex. You are both acting normal, but incompatable. You dont have to do anything you dont want to and if he doesnt feel that way he should probably find someone else, because otherwise tension will build between you two.
    Some people like to wait years and some people like to engage in strange fetishes the first time they meet. neither is wrong but it is important both people are happy with the arrangement.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    So you're dating your friend and you have a boyfriend as well?

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago

    You two simply aren't compatible, it's unfortunate but true.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    You have every right to make your own decision about sexual activities. But please don't hesitate from sex because of what others would think or family expectations of you.
    This is YOUR life, not theirs.

    Either way, I think that most people expect sexual activities to occur whilst being in a relationship and you should probably dump him if none of you are willing to change.

    I get the sex-part but I do not get why you wouldn't want your boyfriend to touch you and feel you up? When most people are in love or attracted to someone that is a really normal desire to have.

    If you don't feel this you are either with the wrong person or maybe you are just not very sexual and that is also completely alight.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    YOLO" you only have the hot young skin you're in ONCE. And how is fucking ur BF making you a slut? You aren't sleeping around. Just because u aren't married and u have sex, it doesn't make you a slut or a bad person. Ur bf is in his sexual prime, you gotta cut him some slack. He is wiling away the best sex years of his life because of YOUR morals because he loves you. Give him a hand job or something, he is probably losing his mind. And Who is watching that is gonna judge u as a slut? Ur bf? Idts. Worst case scenario is you guys break up one day and it gets out that u slept with him. Oooohhhh! Somebody call the national guard!

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    If you've told him your intentions to wait and he is still trying to push his luck then he certainly doesn't take you seriously. Does he seem like the type of guy that will honor your wish to wait and respect your personal nature?

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