Should i be wary?

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I'm going to try to keep this short.

I am a 25 year old woman and he is a 44 year old man. He invites me over to his house on a regular basis, brings me breakfast in bed and lunch to work when he is off work himself and the other day he responded to one of my bitchy little jokes with "You won't be laughing when I make you my wife and we have kids together". In fact, he says that kind of bs on a regular basis.

He is not an "old" man by any means. He's more physically fit than most guys my age. He's good looking, has his shit together career wise and no kids. BUT he is also seasoned law enforcement and for reasons I can't explain here, is a professional mind-fucker.

Should I be wary? I like this guy a lot but he makes way more than I do and has dated women who are way more intelligent than I am (I'm a teacher, his ex was an environmental engineer, go figure). Any advice would be appreciated.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I don't like the age difference and mind fucker stuff.

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    • sillygirl77
      9 years ago

      Yeah both of those things say stay away to me. The mindfucker stuff the most. Love doesn't involve games and fucking with people's minds.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Niether do I...

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  • Alsocrooked
    9 years ago

    Listen to your gut and you already have the answer. Yes, be wary and just move slowly. If you don't jump in with both feet you'll get to know him well and your gut will give you signs if you should move forward or not. I'm less concerned about the age as you wondering if you deserve him. He may not be all that so don't ever compare yourself to those he has dated before you. Putting someone on a pedestal can make it hard to see them for who they really are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      "Putting someone on a pedestal can make it hard to see them for who they really are."

      This, I will be seriously reflecting on, thank you.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    If he treats you nice maybe it's worth the risk. I'd have to know the person to tell you if you should be wary, sorry. :/

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Not one mention of love in post or how you feel about him emotionally,which would surely be the important issues in making a decision

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  • Dad
    9 years ago

    If you're not sure and speaks that type of bs on a regular basis then here's the concern.
    Would you prefer to be taken care of and live with him in loving control? Or would you prefer to enjoy your 25yo self (since you know that life's short and you'll even be 44 one day!) And go out with your age group and party on? Or even better, fall in love ;)

    Someone 'in love' is NOT wary. Unless something is not right.

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