Should i be upset? am i the bad guy?

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I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. We're both in our early 20s. I'm currently in college and working part time. He dropped out of college and doesn't have a steady job. I admit I'm on him all the time about finding a steady job, but he says he doesn't want to work where he has to have a boss...so he started a business. Which is great, I'm all for that. But it's been going on 3 years now and he only works on average 1-2 days a month. The rest of the time he sits at home playing video games or watching TV. I tell him he should at the minimum find something part time to keep him going, but he refuses. He doesn't want an "entry level" job. He says that I'm mean for nagging him constantly about working. He wants to get married, but I keep telling him that I'm not getting married if he's still living with his mom and he doesn't even really work. Am I horrible for this? He really does make it seem like this situation is totally normal...but I think he's just ridiculously lazy.

Give it time, he'll mature eventually. 1
Dump him. Now. 16
You're being a douche, let him live his life. 1
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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Don't marry him! He will sit around the house doing nothing, and mooch off of you. He is a loser. He's just a lazy drop out, forget about him.

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  • floodthecove
    5 years ago

    He's a leech. I've seen men like this for most of my life, they don't change. My mom has had three main boy friends and they all leeched off of her because she's an unbelievably hard-working woman. I know she could see it, but she felt like she needed to stay with them each time they came around, no matter how much they were taking her for granted.

    I suggest that you break up with him, he's obviously not worth your time, and he expects you to stay with him. I can already tell you're better than that, and he doesn't deserve you. Again, my mom works nearly every day - a job that she hates, but she does it because she needs to. She's finally living now without a boyfriend and she's doing better than I've ever seen her.

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  • kelili
    5 years ago

    He doesn't want to marry. He wants another mother to take care of him. You're right, you shouldn't marry to someone who's not willing to be financially independent. You're trying so hard and he's not doing anything.

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  • Ummitsstillme
    5 years ago

    Give him an ultimatum. If he doesnt want to move in a positive direction then you shouldn't support him.

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  • TS
    5 years ago

    I have no idea if this guy's the loser you make him out to be or if you're just being an unreasonable bitch. But it seems like you don't have much respect for him, so he probably isn't an ideal mate for you.

    I'd say dump him on that basis alone; whether you're right or wrong, you ought to be with a guy you respect.

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    • jellyjelly5
      5 years ago

      I don't think wanting my boyfriend to attempt to be financially independent is "unreasonable". But thanks for your input.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    It’s not like it’ll change after marriage so if you want a future with someone who won’t leave working one sided, move on. I wouldn’t take that shit either I hate babysitting.

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