Should i be mad at this?

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Is it normal that I am bothered by this.

My boyfriend is a body builder, gym freak. u get the idea. He has always dated model looking type girls with ditzy personalities. Even though sometimes I am a ditz just for kicks, overall im a very analytical insightful person. Point is, he has never dated a "girl as unique and interesting like me" (in his words)

He blatanly told me this "Oh how I wish, that we can transfer your brain and personality to a hot girl's body, then you would be a guy's dream come true" to which i sarcastically gasped, then jokingly stomped away (to be a good sport and not show weakness)

But lately I have been irritated by his comment. Mind you, I am around 120 lbs and CURVY. get it. hips, boobs, bootaayy. but definetly not a waifer. Theres nothing i can do about my caboose except chop it off, which im not. Im getting more and more upset the more i think about it. Is this normal?

Folks am i overreacting? or is he simply saying whats on every guy's wish list?

Again he alaways compliments me on my personality, but its just this one comment that now i just want to break up with him

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howaminotmyself

9 years ago

This guy is looking for a trophy wife, not a real woman. I forget people like him exist because I don't tolerate that kind of bullshit from anyone. If he is like this now, he will be worse when he is older. Think long and hard as to why you like this guy, he sounds horrible.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Would you think twice if this guy like this followed you for six months and persisted and insisted in courting you to "win your heart"
  
  Would u think. Hey ill give it a try. And plus he is physically fit
  So wOuld you?
  
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  - howaminotmyself
    
    9 years ago
    
    No, I have more self respect than that. But maybe if he was a charmer. However that charm would quickly fade with such a focus on looks.
    
    Being physically fit is a superficial quality. If that is what you want, fine, but realize that looks fade and if that is the foundation of your relationship it will crumble faster than a sand castle on the beach.
    
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I hate to say it but sometimes, with a guy that cocky and full of himself, he can see winning certain types of girls as sort of a challenge. Because normally, a girl like you wouldn't give a jerk like that a chance.
    
    Try and see this guy objectively, without taking into account what he looks like because that's not important; just look at his personality, and whether he's actually a very nice person. Last year I started going out again with the guy who was my "first", not only because I liked the romantic idea of him being my first and last, but because he was hotttttt. Great body, lots of charisma, and an ego to match. BUT, I quickly realized he was a jerk. He made mean spirited jokes about my appearance and told me that I didn't have a sense of humor because I found them hurtful. To make me "feel better" he'd say "You should see some of the girls I've dated though, believe me, looks do NOT matter to me!" Gee thanks! That really makes me feel super. =/ Now I would NEVER tolerate someone who makes me feel so down on myself, fuck that. I kicked that guy to the curb, because ultimately his crappy personality outweighed his good looks.
    
    It sounds like that's what you're going through too, believe me, you'll be sooooo much happier with someone who thinks you're awesome and who focuses on YOU, not on themselves.
    
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chained_rage

9 years ago

You should have told him that if he was exactly like he is now, but just with an acceptable sized penis, he would have been every girl's dream guy

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I've been in the dog house so to say when I've hinted that his measurements arent quite to par lol so this! This really would ruin his mood. I like your thinking hehehe
  
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  - chained_rage
    
    9 years ago
    
    My dude, ANYTIME a guy is being a jerk to you in that way, you should always make him feel like he is inept down south.
    
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KeepsakeDoll

9 years ago

Wow. I would've been hurt, too. >.>

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dirtybirdy

9 years ago

What an asshole. You can do much better.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

That was a really shitty thing for him to say. It's funny though, because it sounds like he needs the exact opposite for HIM- to transfer a better personality into his body!

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- wistfulmaiden
  
  9 years ago
  
  ^this.
  OP I think your body type sounds fine, 120 and curvy IS hot. If he was joking it was not a funny joke...
  Anyway my advice is to date nerds or maybe manual worker types rather than gym rats. Muscle boys tend to be vain, selfish and spend too much money on supplements and dumbells when they should be spending it on YOU.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    9 years ago
    
    I've always dated and attracted the manual labor types, I just decided to not judge a book by its cover with this one. Plus he spent about 6 months courting me, I made him work, and he stood by, so I figured he might not be so bad after all, hey why not
    
    He is attracted to my personality I know this because he tells all his friends that I'm not a bimbo like their girl friends, buuuuuut....
    
    It's just this one thing he said, and he said it so casually, idk if this is a red flag warning sign...sighh. if he keeps it up im out ill bounce
    
    And yes, he spends all his money on supplements and protein shakes lol
    
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    - wistfulmaiden
      
      9 years ago
      
      Maybe he was joking?
      The rest of the time he doesn't sound bad except for the supplement stuff. If I were you I'd give him a large hint that you'd like to hear compliments about your looks too.
      
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Dazed_dreamer

9 years ago

Whats a waifer/caboose?

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- chained_rage
  
  9 years ago
  
  A caboose would be a butt. Or a hollowed out moose used as a cab.
  
  A waifer.. probably wafer. Derogatory term describing "flat" people perhaps?
  
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  - Barracuda
    
    9 years ago
    
    Im sure the op is from the city because they use terms like that. Caboose!
    
    Waifers are those little thin delicate cookies idk she probably meant that she's not waif, which is another term, someone whose bony
    
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  - Dazed_dreamer
    
    9 years ago
    
    Oh, okay gotcha thanks :),
    
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    - Shackleford96
      
      9 years ago
      
      Vanilla wafer
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        LoL, I think the correct term there would be a caramel wafer haha, because I'm latina, but on the lighter side. Definitely not vanilla though haha
        
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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Notice how she's still with him.....

You women are all idiots and I truly hate all of you.

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- Barracuda
  
  9 years ago
  
  Youre fucking retarded son how do u know she's still with him didn't u read the part where she said she's going to break up with him
  Now don't act dumb sonny u know damn well men put up with women's shenanigans just for the nookie
  So think about that, buddy
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I'm not your buddy and it was a rant, idiot.
    
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    lol so true! I've known numerous men who put up with horrribbblleee women just so they could continue to sleep with them.
    
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- dirtybirdy
  
  9 years ago
  
  Don't hold back now! Tell us how you really feel.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    Sorry I was in a bad mood.
    
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    - dirtybirdy
      
      9 years ago
      
      Quite alright darling :) I ain't mad at'cha.
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  LOL awww I wuv u too boo boo:) C'mere (kisses your cheek) hehehe
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    Why do women choose men like this?
    
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- MissDethstar
  
  9 years ago
  
  You guys should take a real good look in the mirror. The number of men I see being completely controlled by bitchy girlfriends and still marrying them and having baby knowing truthfully that they are not respected is astonishing. Many girls act worst than what this story is about and you guys still keep going to bed with them. Point being, we are both victim of bad relationship and staying in them is a weakness that we both have. Your point isn't even remotely logical you moron.
  
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- howaminotmyself
  
  9 years ago
  
  Love you too. ;)
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    Sorry, I was in a bad mood.
    
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- cosmictripster
  
  9 years ago
  
  Spoken like a man who can't get women... hehe
  
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- RoseIsabella
  
  9 years ago
  
  Thanks for sharing.
  
  I'm not an idiot. Or at least I think I'm not a complete idiot. In fact there are some who've told me I'm quite intelligent, but I'm relatively happy alone right now as well.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    You're alright, I didn't mean to offend.
    
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LizardSkin

9 years ago

Meh, you're the one who chose to date a meat head, how can I feel sorry for you? From my experience their egos are about as inflated as their Hulk Hogan muscles. There's a difference between staying physically fit for health benefits.. then there's your meat heads who practically live at the gym because they'd rather stare at themselves in the mirror rather than any beautiful woman.

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Karmasbitch

9 years ago

lol what a dick

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Arm0se

9 years ago

What a dick

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cunexttuesday

9 years ago

Should have told him to fuck off!!!

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johnho

9 years ago

He sounds like a jerk if he cannot accept you for what and who you are? He is fantasizing about a different kind of woman when he is with you? Has he been with other women since he is with you or does he just think of them, talk about them? I think you should turn the table and say I wish you had a little less brawn and a little more brain?

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Besos

9 years ago

Oh my gosh. I think I can relate to you. My fiance is a gym buff big time, has always dated supermodel babes, and now somehow wants me of all people. Like you, I am 125ish, not really as curvy though, but we both seem thoughtful an intelligent as unique. I am doing undergraduate research in a biology lab, so me and him are almost total opposites.

He will say things about my body that will totally piss me off. He has called me chubby, said I need to work out, has said "are you going to eat THAT?", blah blah, all in a teasing tone of course but it still hurt my feelings. Once I told him it upset me he stopped--in his mind he is trying to make me a healthier person and is just giving me a hard time. People say stupid things they shouldn't say. It happens.

I don't think our men are awful pieces of shit and I don't think you're stupid for staying with him. If I was you I would address the issue with your boyfriend though so he can have a chance to say sorry instead of you being silently angry about it. There are a lot of muscle head stereotypes so of course most people will see him as some egotistical gym douche, which isn't very fair to him.

Yes, it's normal to be angry, but talk to him about it.

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Mytwin295

9 years ago

They're called body builders for a reason. They obsess about body image. Theres only one person you should listen to when it comes to body weight, shape, anything else body related and that is your doctor. If they say you're healthy, it shouldn't matter what other people think.

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immortalchild15

9 years ago

Fucking ditch his ass if he ever says that again! i would slap my man if i EVER HAD ONE! and tell him to think before you speak! booty is perfect! if he cant accept your looks then hes not worth having.....but personality is always more important

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mystery7

9 years ago

I'm sure you can find a real man who's mature enough to appreciate both your inner and outer beauty, but obviously he doesn't. From your description you sound pretty hot but he can't even see what is staring him in the face.

A self obsessed meat head who spends most of his money on supplements and probably half his time staring at himself in the mirror? Once his muscles are gone (eventually they will go), what will you be left with?

Come on, you can do better.

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Are You Normal?

Should i be mad at this?