Should i be living with my fauther

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I am 16, living with my fauther. I've been trying to get over what happened to me in the past but I can't. I used to live with my mom until I was 12 then I had to live with my fauther. When I was younger around when I could remember till I was 9 my dad did uncomfortable things to me. He would rub my leg and look at me with this intense stare.(did this multiple times and I told him to stop each time. He never got the idea) When I would shower he would open the shower curtain and look at me. I would tell him to get out and he would. Although he kept doing it. Then I started locking the doors and he flipped out. He would towel dry me off. (I could do it myself). I never had my own bed room or bed. I had to share with him. Then the one night I was laying on my stomach. My dad was giving me a back massage and he raps his hand around my chest to my breast. I was only nine my boobs weren't grown. Tho it was the most unforgettable and most disgusting feeling in the entire world. So my mom went to court, some how lost full custody. I've been livin with my dad since 16. I'm miserable depressed and I have panic attacks and anxiety like there's no tomorrow. And when I started living with him. I became to rebel and my fauther did not like that. He became physical a few times, emotionally, and verbally. I've tried everything to get help. DCFS, police, hurting myself, trying to kill myself, but nothing worked I'm all out of oopstions. My moms no help because everyone thinks she's just a alcoholic and can't take care of herself. Which isn't true she has 3 other kids. Plus I only see her once a week because my fauther thinks that my behavior is all because of her. So I'm at a lost cause here and I don't know what to do. There's way more but that's the main stuff. There for should I have ended up with living with my fauther even though my mother is an alcoholic but can take care of her self, work and take care of three other kids. Or did the court make the right decision?

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  • dicka912
    6 years ago

    I know two women who had the same situation you do. One handled it as normal and had a very open relationship with her dad. She has a great relationship with her husband at this time. The other had an open relationship with her father but it has had an impact on her marriage. She will not do things to her husband that her father made her do to him. You need to decide for yourself what is best for you.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    It might be time to explore moving out on your own. Be fair warned as others may point out that I want to be with my dad, but yours is a different situation altogether. You clearly don't like it and it's abuse. Get out of there if the system can't help you. File a restraining order against him. He has molested you in the past and is now abusive get out hun.

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  • justlooking1976
    6 years ago

    You need to chill out. Stop being so prudish around your dad. Encourage him to touch you and touch him yourself. You should shower together at least.

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    • Fitetobetied1968
      6 years ago

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  • GalacticMizuxe
    6 years ago

    If you are 16, i believe you have the right to choose who you want to live with, or could even get emancipated.
    I would seek out psychiatric help since you've developed anxiety. If you tell them your story, and that you are not safe where you live, legally they need to do something.
    Though, this is in the U.S., if you live somewhere else, i would do some research, cause you need to get out of there.

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