Should i be honest?

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Okay so basically this is the deal. im in my final year of high school ive been going with a very funny girl in my class for a little over 2 years, and shes really awesome i tell her my deepest secrets and i trust her and she trusts me. but a few days ago she told me to meet me at a cafe because she had something important to tell me, but she said she had to tell me face to face because she couldnt tell me over facebook. so i wasnt thinking it was related to anything between us, like feelings or anything. so i take her to a place and we sit and talk for a good while, and i asked her to tell me what she wanted to tell me. So shes like "i need to get this out, because its killing me inside!"

and i was like "okay well just say it" and so i staired into her eyes and she at mine and she smiled very beautifully to me and said, "i have a crush on someone" and i respond, "does he go to our school?" she says "yes"... i said: "in our class?" she said "yes" and i was thinking, what if it was me or something because she told me it was killing her inside?!?

I said, "who is this guy?" and she went silent for a little while and then.... she said the name of the person that she liked lets call him Daniel, and when i heard it wasnt me, i got really sad inside me. its really weird because i have NEVER had any feelings for her EVER. Daniel is also really good friends with her. she used to date a guy in our class, "Tim" and Tim, me and Daniel are all good friends with her.

and well after she told me that she had a crush on Daniel i started to think a lot that night, and well i seem to have developed some feelings towards her. its actually the first time ive ever been in love with a person i know as well as i know her, we both like the same music, loves to play games, go out to eat, work out and stuff. Unless im crazy i could have sworn it was something there, i saw in her eyes that there must have been at least something. well i dont know because it seems to weird that she had such a hard time telling me she had feelings for someone i know but why would it be so damn hard for her? she also mentioned the day before that it wasnt a big deal for me to hear it but for her to tell her secret!

she has told me EVERYTHING almost, and never hold back like she did.. well for now ive developed some feelings for her, but what is the best solution for me? i could tell her because i trust her but what if Daniel and Tim found out? especially Tim because im good friends with him and she and Tim used to date. well i need some advice! but o well if i told her she wouldnt say it to anyone but it kinda changes some things...

PS: Please leave me a comment it really means a lot to me having someone reading my toughts! if you just vote, YES means tell her and NO means, well no..

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Why don't you put it out there as a joke to guage her reaction eg,"What do you want Daniel for when you could have me?"

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Haha, yeah i mean i could have said something like that before but im not that very good with saying that stuff to girls and sounding confident! i dont know what im gonna say on friday, i try not to focus too much on it! thanks for your comment!

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      • Bleach2476
        12 years ago

        You need to loosen up man. Confidence is an enormous factor when talking to girls. Have faith in yourself.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          Yeah.. i suppose! still learning, im not very old :) ive made only mistakes with girls so far in my life, wonder whats going to happend to this one

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          • Bleach2476
            12 years ago

            Every single girl I've ever had a super bad crush on was a bitch it turned out. You have a much better chance than I had. You really do.

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  • Bleach2476
    12 years ago

    That's tough. I say go for it! If you never act, It's gonna suck real hard because that feeling of regret-regret meaning the knowledge that you never let her know that you had feelings for her-is going to hurt. And that feeling of disappointment and regret is going to stick with you for a very long time. That is, of course, if you really do have feelings for her. Ultimately,however,the decision is up to you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thank you so much for replying!

      well its been only 2 days and today i feel even more attracted to her, its a little weird. But everytime she mention Daniel, i get mad! And i hate myself for it now because Daniel is such a good friend of mine. and seeing her talking about him and stuff makes me depressed, and i guess now without her knowing it it has changed between us. i dont look at her like i used to, its pretty sad because we were such good friends and we still are its just that now i have to act different around her! seriously i dont know what to do? its been 2 days and MAYBE it will fade away, i kinda hope it does and i dont, im still jealous of Daniel but also very angry.

      And its also unrealistic for me to even see myself with her, because Tim is her old boyfriend and if i ever did do anything it wouldnt be right because were also such good friends. well ive already mentioned this but its just so confusing!

      ive invited her out on friday next week to talk about stuff, i dont know if im going to tell her or not. Gives me some time to think about it! thank you Bleach!

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      • Bleach2476
        12 years ago

        My pleasure! Think about it and think hard about what you're going to say. But remember: when you do meet with her, (If you decide to tell her), spill the beans but don't try too hard because that could drive her away. Good luck bro.

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  • stickfigurebighead
    12 years ago

    I don't know. Have you thought about talking to Tim and Daniel first and just being like "guys, I really like soandso. I don't want to make you mad, but I can't help the way I feel." or something like that? Tim might be totally over her, and Daniel may not like her back. You just don't know. You don't want to constantly be thinking "What if I would have told her...".

    On another topic - she caught you, didn't she? You had no idea you liked her until you felt jealousy, right? It's crazy how that works, I've been in the same situation.

    Good luck, dear.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Hey man! thank you commenting :)!

      I have thought about it but it wouldn't be right, i know i can't say anything because it would change the way they look at me for the rest of the year, or even longer!

      But the thing is, we usually meet and tank and share feelings, and it's totally awesome having that with a girl! well before she told me i had a crush on another girl and she told me how to handle situations and how she is and basically gave me some advice for a beginner like me, and i really appreciated it!

      Maybe she telling me about Daniel is just jealousy because i really want a girlfriend, i dont know. Sometimes when i look at her i feel nothing and other times i feel a little... i don't know it's something there you know. I'm meeting her tomorrow and i honestly don't know what to say. Because im leaning towards not saying it because of the situation i'm in i won't say anything just yet. Giving it some time before i do!

      I don't think she has any idea how i feel right now, i don't act any different (I THINK), around them. So who knows what will happend!

      Thank you! :)

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    You're overthinking it. You're in love. You're jealous. Either make a move, or watch her fall in love with this Daniel and get your heart broken. But isn't that feeling of being in love great?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Well im actually not because its such a big decision to make, if i told her and she responded positive, we could never get together because of Tim, and if i told Tim, that would just be wrong. so either way im going to screw some shit up unless Tim and her stop talking to each other, which is very unlikely

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I wonder if she has a crush on someone who can spell....

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