Should i be changing who i am to get boys to like me

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HEY,
Growing up I was a major Tom-boy, and so when I changed schools, I decided to change my image. In sixth and seventh grade I had two boyfriends. One lasted for four months and another that lasted a whole year. I didn't kiss either of them. I decided in eighth grade to try to change myself more to become more popular. I am really proud of who I am though, so i was kinda dissapointed with myself, and I went back to being who I naturally was, a tomboy. ever since, nobody has liked me, and all the guys are my friends, but none of them like me. My mom has never given me advice on this type of thing
What Should I Do?
Should I be more out there?
Do I need to be less of myself?
Does it mean that something is wrong with me?
Am I normal to be like this?
I feel like i shouldn't care about it, but I do... If anyone has any suggestions or can relate please comment. I feel stupid for even posting this.
Thanks,
:):):):):)

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    Even if u are successful at faking, they wont like that persona bcuz a fake personality is annoying after the first 15 minutes. BE YOURSELF!!!

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  • Budgiebite
    12 years ago

    If he doesn't love you for who you are, then screw them.They don't deserve you. And trust me ,someday you are gonna look back on this and hate what you've become. Your life will be an empty shell and you will not find a single soul who TRULY accept you for who you are. It's sad but if you really decide to change yourself, you are going to hate yourself one day. It's nice to wear a dress on occasion, even if you don't like it. But DONT EVER CHANGE YOURSELF! When you grow up there will be all kinds guys after you. Not just stupid teenage boys. Keep that in mind.

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  • anisha11
    13 years ago

    dont change your self yourself.fuck the people that think your useless.you dont to change yourself to get a guy.i wanted to change myself to get a boy but i didnt need to cuz i found sum1 who luvd me just like you will. TRUST ME

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  • individual95
    13 years ago

    you shouldnt change who you are. its pathetic and stupid. i hate it when girls do that

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    If you change yourself just to get someone to like you....

    then they don't like YOU - they like the fake person you've created.

    Be liked for who you are not who someone else thinks you should be.

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  • poof!gone122
    13 years ago

    here's a piece of advice: if u want to find a guy to be in a lasting relationship with, be yourself. because if you conform to what they want, then they're gonna get upset when they find one single flaw. why? because they got too used to "the perfect girl". the perfect relationship will be one that you can be yourself in.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You just need to be yourself i am the same way I'm a Tom boy and in 17 haven't had a boyfriend since 9th grade but dont worry it's better to go out and have fun then to worry about a boy

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    males are attracted to female characteristics aka feminism. there a few exceptions tho. same goes for the kissing part with even fewer exceptions. do w/e you want ofc but have in mind the facts and weight the while thing.

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  • Imnotnormalatall
    13 years ago

    Don't change who you are, if nobody likes it, fuck them, they don't deserve you.

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  • themysteriousblue
    13 years ago

    Sure, it's normal to worry about this kind of stuff, but if you feel like you have to change yourself to be in a relationship, then you shouldn't enter that relationship in the first place. A good boyfriend would be someone who accepts you for who you are.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    What ItDuz said.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You shouldnt change who you are but if you decide to go out with someone who enjoys "kissing" etc I would find it selfish that you got into a relationship with them in the first place even when you know you wont take that step. Dont change if you dont want to but tell your partners what your like in the situation of relationships.

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  • emilydoll
    13 years ago

    You are a girl. Be a girl.

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