Should i back off from being an older brother?

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I met my younger cousin a few weeks ago (we haven't seen/talked to each other since we were kids). We're both in college now, but I've been 'bothering' her with texts and long emails occasionally - hoping to get a bit closer to her so we're both comfortable around each other if we ever get to meet again. It's nothing creepy, just advice. I'm not sure how to start off a text message asking how she is ... again we just met after a huge gap so I don't want to come across as obsessive.

She doesn't reply back usually and a part of me wants to back off so I don't come across as creepy, but the other part of me wants to be that older brother and sort of keep trying to get to know her more (I've always wanted a younger sister). I'm a bit scared since I don't want to mess anything up.

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  • Zalenn
    9 years ago

    Being a cousin of yours, i'd say don't try to establish a bro-sis relationship.

    I would suggest trying to first and foremost be friends - and you already want that.

    Aside from that, don't push her. Remember, it takes two to tango - and you are already dancing. She will join if she wishes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Don't push it, let things happen organically. Also, I would stay away from offering any unsolicited advice or opinions.

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    • jellybeanx007
      9 years ago

      so college advice (general stuff) should be avoided if not asked for? (Nothing personal of course, just study tips I've learned etc.)

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Well, you could ask her if she'd like advice or say, "I've found that this that and the other worked for me when I was studying in college and yadda yadda yadda". I would suggest that you avoid using the word "should" when talking to her and use "I" statements instead of "you" statements.

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  • nakyanjabel
    9 years ago

    Chill her,u'v played ur part.

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