Should i anonymously send flowers or a fruit bouquet to a girl's work?

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So there's this girl I have become really fond of. I have only known her for a month. She is quirky, OCD, adorable, compulsively chatty and overall entertaining. She's maybe a 5/10 in looks but her personality bumps her up to an 8/10.

I want to get my fondness for her out of my system. And was thinking to send flowers or one of those fruit bouquets to her when she's at her workplace. We met together near her workplace and carpooled together to go to university so I know where and when she works. It would make me super happy if I could brighten her day. I dont care if I dont get credit for doing so.

I will make the delivery anonymous or pretend they were sent by a random customer. I want it to be anonymous because it's the thought that counts right? Not who it's from. Plus it might be awkward getting flowers from an acquaintance you've known for just a month. Unless she would figure out it was me. Which is improbable but not impossible.

Does this sound creepy? Opinions?

Yes, send flowers	31
Yes, send a fruit bouquet	25
No, don't send anything	21
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DarQness

9 years ago

if you like her so much you shouldn't hide it. beating around the bush never helped anyone. just write "i thought of you today and wanted to give you these flowers, i hope you like them and have a great day." then write your name.

i don't get why certain people who like other people have to be all secret about it. besides, if you let her know its you and she either likes you back, or just isn't into you as you are her. then you can stop wasting your time if she doesn't like you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I think you misunderstood me. I just said I was fond of her. Not that I wanted to win her over. If I did 'like her so much' I wouldnt have resorted to such secrecy, believe me. I'm the kind who straight up asks a girl for her number. I dont play games.
  
  My goal is to do something nice for her BUT making sure to not give her the wrong impression. Unless doing something nice for someone with no strings attached is illegal. So in my mind the only way to do that was sending something anonymously.
  
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  - DarQness
    
    9 years ago
    
    i see.
    
    honestly, you should do what feels right to you. none of us know her like you do.
    
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Freedom_

9 years ago

What girl wouldn't appreciate that? Just write some kind of note to make it less creepy like, "You were so helpful. Keep being an awesome employee. Here is a small token of my appreciation".

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MysteriousTrainerfromBeyond

9 years ago

Go with the fruit bouquet! Not only are they pretty, but they're also edible and will last longer than flowers.

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CountessDouche

9 years ago

That's so fucking sweet!!!! DO IT

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

I think it's totally inappropriate to send anything to her at work, especially if you two are not involved. It might be one thing if you were her lover or a very close friend and it was a birthday or anniversary, etc., but as a casual acquaintance no, definitely NOT appropriate.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Exactly. Hence the anonymity
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    Key words here; INAPPROPRIATE AT WORK.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      You're kidding me right? I'm could bet you haven't ever worked at the following or else you wouldn't be saying this. But do you not even know someone who has worked at a bank, retail, insurance, car dealership or any workplace that dealt with customers?
      
      My best friend was a bank teller for 3 years and she got chocolates, food, random stuff by people incredibly often. My cousin works at a dealership and has gotten stuff too. Me, I just got a pack of Reese's Chocolates once. You must be a sad person with twisted standards to think it's 'totally' inappropriate.
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        9 years ago
        
        Sad? twisted? Says the creep that wants to send something to a girl at work who may or may not even know you exist outside of your imagination?
        You are getting awful close to stalking this girl with this action. Even you admit, she might not appreciate getting something, if she knew it was from YOU.
        So don't take my opinion, don't listen to me but don't go calling me sad and twisted for trying to, quite gently, tell you that IMO you are thinking of doing something quite inappropriate. If you don't want to hear something you don't like, then ask your stupid question to the idiot you see when you look in the mirror. I'm almost sure he'll support some of your decisions.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        Hey! I will let you know that I may have a shaggy hairstyle, but I dont look like an idi-- okay fine I need a haircut.
        
        I assure you I have the ability to send her a fruit bouquet with my own name on it and make it appropriate and casual. It's all about levity. But you can be damn sure she wouldnt shrug it off as no-strings-attached and associate the special feeling with me, or wonder about my intentions. Which is what I dont want because Im not currently looking for a relationship. So inappropriate in terms of the impression I DONT want to give off? Absolutely. Inappropriate cause I might be seen as a creep? Not something I need to worry about, trust me.
        
        I stand by my sad and twisted comment. Sad because you think sending something to someone's work, anonymous or acquaintance, was creepy, and it makes me imagine all the things you must not do in your life because of that thinking. I totally forgot about this girl who worked next to my work at my last job. We chit chatted a bit for a few weeks and she seemed very cool. One day I brought her a big slice of my birthday choc cheesecake. Her coworkers at their desks had a smile and eye rolling expression when I went in to give her it. Im sure they thought some serious courtship was going on. I just wanted to give her some of my cake! When she saw the slice her smile was priceless. I gave her a few other things too. Didnt date her cause I had just gotten out of a serious and messy relationship then. As time went by whenever our eyes met in the parking lot, I could swear there was a disappointment in her eyes. Maybe it was cause she disliked skinny ties, or that I never really pursued her.
        
        Bottom line: dont get butthurt if I challenge the chinks in your argument to my question. This is a discussion website after all. People here often dish out bold and baseless opinions to threads but pout and cower when someone actually challenges their rationale. Cheers
        
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Drawingmud

9 years ago

Send em to yourself anonymously

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DADNSCAL

8 years ago

I think the flowers would be nice, but be sure to enclose a card saying they're for her being so nice to a customer. Not creepy at all. I've done it, and then asked who sent the flowers and she immediately beamed "an anonymous customer who thought I was nice". Believe me, her reaction was worth every penny.

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bearbank

8 years ago

I think it sounds sweet that you are doing it anonymously, I would love something like that in my day and the fact that its anonymous gives you a happy little 'maybe....' to think about. Those kinds of things I think are super sweet!

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SuMaFTW

8 years ago

Give her the flowers yourself. You don't want to pretend to be a secret admirer, do you? Get yellow flowers and say, "I wanted to brighten your day, do I got these for you." Smile affectionately, confident, and enjoy her quirky reactions. A friendship card will clarify your gesture, rather than send her for romance when there is none.

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nakyanjabel

9 years ago

Please don't send them if they are gona be anonymous,be a man and actually take them urself.Random stuff is drama.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Your face is drama.
  
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  - nakyanjabel
    
    9 years ago
    
    Sorry if you care..
    M.y.o.b
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      That looks like Make Your Own Beer. And you would say that doesnt fit in the context, but Mind Your Own Business is just as much out of place
      
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      - nakyanjabel
        
        9 years ago
        
        Am not the cause of ur frustrations(guess u have a mob),hence stop fussing about moi.
        
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DormantExpression

9 years ago

If there has been flirting and appears to be mutual interest, then go for either. If you are doubtful about her reaction I would refrain from doing something overtly expressive. The gift being rejected would make things very uncomfortable and that the gift came from you has a good chance at coming out. Especially if you're behavior towards her changes because of that.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

anonymous? there is a possibility for her to be disappointed it's you when she finds out....cant you ask her out for an informal get together first then work up to flowers? accompanying card openly stating they are from you

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kayleeberry101

9 years ago

I thought you asked "ONIONS?" and I was like woah, my heart stopped because I was cutting up an onion!!!

Yeah though, you should do this man, this is an awesome idea.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

Send her something cute and quirky like an adorable stuffed animal with candy or chocolate. flowers and fruit are a nice idea but what if she has allergies?
Id go nuts over a guy cute enough to buy me a stuffed animal.

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- wistfulmaiden
  
  9 years ago
  
  a guy I liked once bought me a stuffed lamb and some tea bags when I was sick, we ended up married :)
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Stuffed animals are great gifts, but are too personal for my intentions.
  
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seekelp

9 years ago

A bouquet of fruit?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Sure, they are popular. Google edible arrangements. Send one to your significant other or female family member. Guaranteed not to disappoint.
  
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gashlover

9 years ago

send an anonymous note first telling her you've visualized her hot cockpit and from what you can see in your mind you wanna suck her juices dry

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- [Old Memory]
  
  9 years ago
  
  If the goal is to get a restraining order filed against you, than I fully endorse this course of action.
  
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  - gashlover
    
    9 years ago
    
    it was an ANONYMOUS note. how do you get into trouble if they don't know who you are?
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      9 years ago
      
      And you think a woman would want an anonymous note saying what you wrote in your original comment?
      
      How many restraining orders or cease contact have you had filed against you?
      
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