Should i allow them to call me daddy?

About two years ago, my sister gave birth to opposite gender twins. Sadly, her husband had died in an accident about a month before that. When she was widowed, I was eager to do anything I could to ease her pain and accepted her request to move in with her and help her with the children and however else I could. She didn't want to be the only adult in the house. (At least this house is better than the one I was in at the time, the only downside is that it's two bedrooms so we have to share a room together. Not really a big problem though.) Helping her has been about as uneventful as a late pregnancy and the raising of two little kids can be, for what that's worth. What I'm wondering about is that the kids have taken to calling me daddy, and while I did help raise them, I'm not entirely sure if I want my sister's children doing this. I know you don't have to be someone's biological father to be considered their father, but I'm not sure I like the thought of being called dad by my nephew and niece. My sister says she doesn't consider it an issue and that I shouldn't worry too much about what they call me, and that it's perfectly fine for children to consider whatever man who was most important in raising them to be their father. She's right, of course, but I guess I'm worried someone's going to hear them say something like their uncle is also their dad and then we'll get weird looks.

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  • Sh33pzilla

    Who cares what other people think? If you are filling the showes of their father then be their father. If you are worried about what they will say then wait until they are old enough to control themselves to explain the situation.

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  • randomjelly

    ^^^ yes but this man is not a step father. This man already has a title of "Uncle".

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  • DannyKanes

    Yeah, agreed. I'd just say "call me in uncle instead of daddy" and just say an uncle is a "different" type of daddy while they're at such a young age.

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    • squirrelgirl

      I completely agree.

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  • teendicksuckers

    Yeah normal

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  • Naughtygirl147

    I'd teach them your actual significance in life but do that when they will be able to understand

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  • Gasmasker

    I think it's perfectly normal and cute! However, if you feel that the name "Dad" is implying that you have a sexual relationship with your sister or something, you should convince the kids to call you "Uncle".

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  • rayst

    I think its perfectly fine, i have a friend that calls her ex stepdad "dad". He is her true dad in her thoughts and she doesnt give a fuck about her bio dad. It is only a sign of love, you should embrace it. Who cares what ppl will think, as long as you know you didnt get your sister pregnant (ewwww thi is grosss)

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  • Neither one of us told them to do so, only that my sister is mommy. I'm pretty sure they got the word from TV or hearing it from someone else. Actually, I think it's my nephew who started doing it somehow, he continued because he noticed it got a reaction from me, then his sister saw him saying it so she followed. I guess that's how it works, my sister is the one who's obsessed with the learning processes of children. I probably caused it indirectly, because I never tried too hard to get them to call me uncle.

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  • georgienne

    If it were me, I'd set them straight that Im not dad. It won't matter to them much now, and it'll solve a lot of questioning later on.
    Question: how'd they come to call you dad? Did you start it, or mum? If sister did, I'd be really wierded out..

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  • randomjelly

    I agree with the OP it is a little odd when you already have a title as "Uncle". Calling you daddy isn't wrong because it's "weird" but it can definitely make things confusing for them as they grow up.

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