Should i?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for quite sometime, I am irrevocably in love with him, yet he wants something I will not give him. Not just sex, Anal. It has always been against MY personal standards, and I do not judge people that HAVE had it. I just do not want to try it. He will not leave it alone. He will send vids of "her first anal" and say "See babe, she likes it. She's not complaining it hurts..."
and all that crap. Is it normal to be so stern about it? Should I "try" it and deal with it?
or should he leave me alone about it...

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Based on 11 votes (9 yes)
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  • doddeman
    14 years ago

    If you are very much in love, the act of giving your boyfriend what he very much want is pleasing for you. Not the act in its self, but the fact that you gives him joy. You meets his highest wishes. Loving is also giving and loving to give.

    You can give him this as a gift, may be on his birthday.

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  • CptCalicoJack
    13 years ago

    If you don't want it, don't do it. It's as simple as that, though I do partly agree with doddeman.

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  • GrandAm
    15 years ago

    This is your bf's fantasy, not yours, so you are absolutely NOT obligated to do it and he should respect your wishes. Personally, it is also my fantasy and I would love it if my wife would do it, but she is not comfortable with it and I have to respect that. I would NEVER force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. I might bring the subject up again, and reassure her that I would be gentle and use LOTS of lube, but if she absolutely doesn't want it I will have to accept that. Actually, we don't even have any sex any more, but that's another matter

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    • lynamph
      15 years ago

      Really? He tells me the same. He "prmises he'd be gentle and pull out when i want"
      But, I don't want it in the first place. :/
      I just don't want him to want it so bad that he goes to someone else.. you know?

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      • GrandAm
        15 years ago

        Believe me, lynamph, if he goes to someone else because of this, you're better off, because he wasn't worth having in the first place. I would love it if my wife agreed to do it, but as long as she doesn't feel comfortable with it, I would never force the issue.

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  • lynamph
    15 years ago

    I've been afraid of that. :/
    thanks though.

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  • nobodyspecial
    15 years ago

    why the fuck would anyone want to have anal sex when you're an inch away from the best place on earth!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • analsexonly
      6 years ago

      Why would anyone want to have vaginal sex when you're an inch away from the best place on earth?

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    • lynamph
      15 years ago

      lol, you are amazing, you made my night.

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.

    Not all guys are into this sort of thing by any means. Personally I've never been the least curious about it.

    Unfortunately, we're not always in control of the things that catch our erotic attention, and it sound like your BF is pretty hung up on this fixation.

    You might have to give in, move on, or accept that he's going to get it somewhere else.

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