Should he still be in touch with his ex?

Wow, I'm so glad everyone seems smart and NON-naive around here...
I hate to say this as well, but if he hasn't physically cheated on you with this bitch (his ex), then he's definately emotionally cheating on you. Which hurts even more I think, honestly.
Think about it, he cares about her. wonder who he would choose if it really came down to it? Maybe you should put that to the test, and remember you deserve to be the only woman to influence your man, that's how it should be. if he's not 100%% you should run, we've all been there, we've all fallen in love. You should NOT let it happen, please, your life will be better and so much less painful in the long run.

Anything he wouldn't do or say in front of you is a form of cheating. I wouldn't put up with this mess.

Straight up, its not normal to have an ex female lover come around a knocking, if it makes one uncomfortable, then something must be done to help the feeling. Even if no cheating, its about respect for feelings, for commitments etc.

You should trust him. Without trust, you are buggered I'm afraid.

Consider for a second he is being totally innocent. How must HE feel, that you have no trust in him at all, and are checking his phone?

Give him a chance, have faith, then if he BREAKS your trust, you can be rid of him in the safe knowledge that you are doing the right thing.

I agree with all the comments, soo...... How are things now?

If they had a child together than I understand her calling him every now and than to talk and I guess cry to, but they split up 2 YEARS ago! They HAD a relationship and it OBVIOUSLY didn't work out and so they go their SEPERATE WAYS. There is no reason to keep in touch with each other, ESPECIALLY if he has started a new relationship in which he tells you he LOVES YOU. If he wants to stay in this relationship with you, than he needs to listen to the things that upset you, just the way you should listen to him when he has a problem in the relationship. And your problem is not a stupid one either. It is SOO COMMON for like ALL girls to feel the way you do.. Come on, how fine and dandy can someone feel if they know that the guy/girl they are with and LOVE(vice-versa)is talking and chilling with their EXX?? There will probably be a hard time with trusting your gf/bf around their ex that they had a big history with(5years!!) thats a long time. If he really loves you than he will not need to talk to her all the time or even see her, or feel sorry for her, she had a chance with him, not once but twice-like you said she cheated twice- and she blew it. Now he moved on to another girl, and she doesn't feel comfortable with him talking to his ex, so if he wants to make a nice life with you in the mean time, i think there are some adjustments he needs to make..Like cut off there connection?? No more talking and chilling, it's time to REALLY MOVE ON!!!

The problem I see with this is that he lied and probly still does about her talking etc. If their was nothing to hide why so many secrets? He can't be trusted if he lies about that stuff what else will he lie about?

you should trust him
after two years apart they obviously arnt getting together but
you will always come second to her because she shared most of his life
after time you will become more important but not after 6 month

jinny and tatooed are fuckin nuts!
try to imagine it from the girlfriend's point of view - imagine that you are a guy and your girlfriend's EX boyfriend wants to come around and start callin, maybe not everytime he breaks up with a new girl and comes crying, but just maybe anytime he feels like getting some a dat good you-know-what - your girlfriend may not even be interested and not giving anything else away, but its still disrespectful and strange - How do the two know each other? Cuz they used to bang. Why are they still talking? Maybe they're gonna bang?
Fine, the girl should be open and communicate her feelings and try to trust, OBVIOUSLY SHE IS TRYING TO SEE IT FROM HIS POINT OF VIEW OTHERWISE SHE WOULD BE GONE. NO?
And that is why your advice was fukt up.She shouldn't be thinking that she doesn't have a right to feel how she feels, she just needs to communicate it properly. She needs to tell her boyfriend that it makes her UNCOMFORTABLE that he hangs out with his ex. That should be understandable to him, ask him to imagine, genuinely, if the tables were turned what his feelings would be. The man must show some understanding and then the two can make a solution. IF he pretends NOT to see ANY problem at all, then he is a prik. Because he is maybe lying to himself and more importantly, LYING TO YOU about what he knows is right and wrong. If he pretends not to know that, then he is a fuckin pussy.
Keep ya head up, you girl!

If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship.

It is totally normal for someone to have a close friendship with an ex -- especially one they spent five years with! It is probably an important friendship for him, and it seems natural for him to be her "shoulder to cry on."

If she is actually flirting with him, acting shady, or badmouthing you, then that's something else entirely. But if she's just spending time with your boyfriend as a friend, who cares?

I think you need to trust your radar - which is telling you that her motives & that relationship are not on the up & up. And what's your boyfriend up to ignoring how you feel? Your last sentence said it all.

I think you are learning something new about your bf: he doesn't get you and is selfish - which may not be something you like - but is also not unusual since you've only known him 6 months.

Who can say - but it kind of looks like the beginning of the end.

you should ditch this guy while you still can. 6 months is only an inconvenience. if you wait any longer it will gradually become a living nightmare. besides the fact that he's still friends with someone who cheated on him twice says a lot about his own character. the company you keep really reflects your own values whether you realize it or not.

I am sorry to say this, but it sounds like he is getting his cake and eating it too! It sounds like you have it really bad for this guy or else you would see things more clearly. From an outside perspective it sound to me like he is trying to juggle you both. If she cheated on him in the past, she would do it again. She is just using him in between boyfriends. It is not fair that you are in the middle of this. You need to get strong girl! You are worth it! You do not need to be treated this way. Your feelings do matter. I would say that if he is with you he is with you and that's it. She needs to back off. She has no respect for him, you or herself.

another thing i forgot to add...
i mean thing about it if hes spending time with her but not telling you something might be a little off with that.

he's def cheating on you.
i've done it.
i'll do it again sorry.
im a girl and i think that if a boy can treat me like shit i will throw shit at them.
not litterally.
mainy what im saying is just think of it as if you started getting close to your old ex say you dated one for 5 years and stuff.
something would obviously be there.
i mean like it would be hard for there not to be....most of the time
i mean come on dont tell yourself things you want to hear....people cheat people lie.
especially to the ones they love.
im just being honest so dont hate me for my opinion=]
i would really hope that he is a good guy though and that he means what he says. if you trust him you do...if you dont then you dont.
i understand its just her you dont trust cause man she sounds like shhes a skank.
cheating is very bad...but it happens
let me know how things work out=]

it sounds like he really loves you and she sounds like a b**** but you do have to trust him and dont look a his phn guys hate tht.i trust my boyfriend and if i wnt to knw whts on his phn ill do it in front of him.

I agree with Jimmy... If he hasn't done anything wrong then you need to trust him. You might not trust her, but do you trust him to turn her down if she tries something? Men think differently to women.