Should and how do i tell my friend i know his deep secret?

This is how it went -
the other night I held a Halloween party in my free house, with alcohol of all kinds and all the usual things you would find at a teen party. It was a ton of fun, some people went a bit too far with the booze but it was a still a night to remember: only now I have two reasons.

For some reason I thought it would be hilarious to jump in the bath because I was dressed like Charmander, I didn`t run any water, in fact I ended up falling asleep in there at what must have been 3am.

A lot of people had headed home by then and the only people remaining were the close friends I had selected to stay over, a handful of my great mates. My best friend was gonna share my room with me on the extra bed but because I had not turned up he decided to sleep on the sofa trying not to be rude. He is a really great guy, he`s soft, and sweet, really shy but a truly awesome and tender guy.

Anyway, I woke up and checked my phone and it was around 5am. I didn`t stir, I was just lying in the bath. This bathroom is the only one in my house, so if anyone wanted to use the toilet they would either try not to disturb me or go outside or anything. My best friend who I mentioned, came into the toilet, and saw me still in the bath with my hood up so he assumed I couldn`t see him. He was wearing a tiger onesie so to use the toilet he would have to unzip it all. I looked away but there are mirrors all around the bathroom and I saw something unusal.

When his onesie fell to the ground he was wearing something around his chest, that looked really tight. And he turned and sat down to use the toilet and pee. He then wiped, like a girl.

After flushing the toilet he stood up and zipped up his pj`s, then left. I stayed in the bath for another hour just thinking about it. He is always going to the Doctor, at least once a month and he asks that one ones inquires about it because it is an embarrassing issue. And seeing him like that I understand it all now.

I`ve only known him for three years but I really love him as a best friend, and honestly, I`ve always had the tiniest crush on him. He is a such a sweet guy, and only know I`ve found out that he is actually transgender, if that`s the correct word?

He has to be getting some kind of treatment because he does sound and grow hair like a boy, so somewhere along the line he might be having an operation if I`m not mistaken. I`m not sure if he hasn`t come out to me because I`m a guy, and he thought it might be uncomfortable, but he has done really well being strong and making friends as the great guy he is. I would never have guessed.

I want to tell him that I know about his secret and that, I want to be supportive to him and help him any way that I can, but how do I break it to him? I`m sure it`s a sensitive issue and I don`t want to upset him, I jsut want him to know I`m there for him 100%.

Any advice? Thank you.

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Comments ( 13 )
  • GuessWho

    I would suggest you don't tell him and wait until he's comfortable to tell you on his own.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    Yeah, I would just pretend you were asleep on this one. He'll come out to you guys when and if he's ready.

    And if he has hair and looks masculine but is still binding, he's probably been injecting hormone replacement therapy. My old roomate was an FTM transgender, he's now had everything but the genital reconstructive surgery due to difficulty and expense.

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    • Iluminatiisreal400

      You're friend is a Woman wake Up

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  • Zonfire80

    How do you know he's transgender? You don't know that, stop making assumptions.

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    • Iluminatiisreal400

      She*

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  • Ftm

    If he wanted you to know he'd have told you. Mind your business..

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  • Ellenna

    Either forget you ever saw it OR bring up the situation as a hypothetical and see how h/she reacts - this may give him/her an opening to talk to you if h/she wants to

    Most importantly, don't tell anyone else and hope he isn't on this site or he'll probably recognise that onesie!

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  • valisque

    holy sh##! forget it and never bring it up again. even in yo memory!

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Just act surprised when he tells you.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    Wow :o How do you feel about it? i'M impressed you're feeling so calm, i'd be freaking out and scared :| but yeah, it's nice of you (:
    Yeah, I think he's going to tell you when he's ready. Just try not to make things difficult when he does... well i don't think you will :)

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  • kelili

    You should have let 'him' know that you were awake. He has the right to have a secret and not to share it with anyone.

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    • Iluminatiisreal400

      She*

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  • Iluminatiisreal400

    You should tell her to seek help. Trust me she Will Thank you later.

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