Should a husband want to buy stuff for himself?

It sounds like your wife is obsessed with consumerism. It may be an indicator of a vacuous inner world. Try to introduce her to art, literature, or some other form of creative self-expression as opposed to thoughtless consumerism. Good luck to you!

She sounds selfish and I'm a
Girl !!

Every1 wants tech tools :P

Well guy's are humans too, we all have desires which money buys so its normal

Ur fine dude

You're not being selfish for not wanting to spend $500 every 3 months on furniture or home decor because your lady likes to change colors. And for her to justify it by saying it's for "US", when in reality she's using that as an excuse for you to contribute to her selfish habit of wanting to change up the house every other week. There is no reason to spend that much money on something when there is no defect or fault. You have every right to want to keep your money and not spend it on dumb shit, and it seems that she's just being self centered and greedy. Don't fall for her guilt trips, its just her way of conning you into throwing money away for something SHE wants, but says you both need. You don't NEED to buy new curtains, or sofa's because one or the other doesn't match the carpet. That's stupid. It's fine to spoil yourself every now and then, but then to expect your partner to give up everything is a bit much.

Seems like the issue is this weird extra pay thing. You are married why is the extra money mine and yours. You are a team and should share money equally regardless of how much each males. Set aside a little allowance cash for each other that you can use without each other questioning it's use

Hey you really should deserve to pamper yourself! Buy what ever you want! Go on a shopping spree NOW! She can't do anything after you've bought it right. :D

its one thing to do renovations on the house but to buy things every few months is ridiculous. that is not fair on you at all. if she wants all that extra crap then she should pay for it herself. you earn you own bonuses so you shouldnt have to pay for her obsession. and the fact that she earns so much more than you do, she can afford to buy all that for herself if she wants to. tell her to stop spending her money on useless crap and save it all up for a round the world holiday for both of you if she wants to try to say its for both of you. i get a small amount of my pay put into my own account every week and put the rest in a joint account with my hubby. we both work so we are both entitled to spend a bit of our own money on ourselves. but you do realise that soon you are going to have to build an extra room in your house to store all that crap that she keeps buying and you know she is going to demand half the money from you. i really dont like people like that, guys or girls.

If it happens the way you say it does then you are right, it also sounds as if she is incapable of understanding your side

By your story I think it's fine for u to buy yourself those things u enjoy.u say she buy shoes and clothes and things she likes so it's double standard for her to not want u to buy things u like such as games/ speakers etc.
Buying 5 comforters in a year is extreme and I hope u give the old ones to people in need instead of just throwing them away because I'm sure that by the amount u replace them there would be nothing wrong with them.
I agree about if it works leave it be unless it's ugly. Sounds like a waste if money to me.
Your normal in my view and if it's ok for her to buy things for herself like clothes and what not then it should be ok for u to spend your money on something u like.
As for the money she spends on home improvements, then I think u should both contribute unless what she wants is ridiculous like new curtains or bedding when there is nothing wrong with what's already there.
I'm a girl by the way

O ya so normal! Sha you should even buy yourself a treat for being so careful of spending your money! She is selfish for thinking you cant