She used to let me.

How sad...

"houston, we have a problem..."
dunno what made me think of that

My personal opinion would be that if it's OK with BOTH partners then it's OK, however I'm not a preacher and I don't want to be a preacher and you asked a question in a religious context so I'll answer in the same context. I remember hearing a Bible verse that says the "marriage bed shall be undefined", and I thought that verse would support your position so I looked it up for you to share with your wife. Unfortunately, as I read the explanation it seems to go AGAINST you instead. Sorry about that! I copied and pasted it below.

Undefiled Christian Marriage Bed
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Is Your Christian Marriage Bed Undefiled?

An undefiled Christian marriage bed. Hmmm…Does that mean anything is permissible in your bedroom?

Many people believe that where sex is concerned, anything is acceptable in marriage as long as both the husband and the wife agree to it. That includes threesomes, open marriages, sexual bondage, and whatever else you can imagine.

Today we are going to take a look at Hebrews 13:4 in order to gain a better understanding. Here’s the text:

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the marriage bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4 NKJV

The reason the above text is often misquoted is because people have focused on one small portion of the scripture, “the marriage bed undefiled”. The rest of the text has been ignored.

It is not wise to extract only a portion of a scripture without looking at the whole.

A good rule to use when you study the Bible is to look a the scriptures before the text, as well as those scriptures following the text. You should also utilize a concordance, and read the same text in other translations whenever possible.

But don’t worry, we won’t do all of that today.

To avoid turning this into a full blown Bible study, and risk boring you, we’ll keep this simple.

In our discussion of the undefiled Christian marriage bed, let’s take a quick look at three different translations of the same scripture:

Version#1 NKJV
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the marriage bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Version#2 TNIV
“Marriage should be kept honorable by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
Version#3 The Message
“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.”

Christian Marriage Bed Cont’d
When you read the text in other translations it becomes clearer, doesn’t it?

The writer is warning married believers to respect the marriage covenant by guarding themselves from sexual sins.

Sexual immorality, as stated in the TNIV would include adultery, homosexuality, and beastiality to name a few. Basically, it’s sex with anyone other than your spouse.

Nowhere in the text does it give couples a license to do whatever they want to do in the bedroom. In fact, it actually says the opposite.

So, based on the interpretation of the scripture, we want to ask you a question; is a threesome okay for married couples? You should have said “no” because a threesome would require you to have sex with someone other than your spouse — That’s called adultery.

What about sex toys and other sexual aids? This is where you have to use Godly wisdom. Remember, sex between husband and wife should always be honorable.

So, if what you’re doing causes either of you to feel pain, disrespected, or shameful, then you shouldn’t do it. Intimacy between husband and wife is a sacred gift that should never evoke feelings of guilt, shame, or disrespect.

When a husband and wife make love they should always have the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of the other person in mind.

***Important Note***
If you become sexually aroused when you’re disrespected, put to shame, or belittled; if it turns you on to see your spouse engaging in sex with someone else — something’s wrong with that. You should begin seeking deliverance through prayer because that, my friend, is not of God.

Jesus came to set you free! His desire is that you would be full of joy and peace, not guilt or shame caused by sexual perversion.

I don't believe the church issue is the problem, you both need to sit down and find out why she doesn't like it anymore! !!! Maybe she feels uncomfortable and pain with anal and with having kids did that push things around to now it's uncomfortable, but blowing your load.....yes why change does she not like the taste,one thing about it is people get to comfortable after marriage and it is like a trick,like I will do it while dating than married they change it,it's like I married you coz you where like that and loved doing certain things, like getting blow job in the car or you got wet just looking at me and now nothing, try going to church with her and say if I go you need to let me continue blowing my load on you and you don't want that to stop

I don't get it. What do you get by unloading on her face? The anal sex I could try to understand, but the facial thing. You are some porn addict, aren't you?

If its a really conservative group they might consider those things sodomy and have guilted your wife into not doing them anymore.

Religious or not she probably shouldn't have let you do those degrading things to her in the first place. I can't feel sorry for you. Get over it!

Sounds like she is being influenced by the church. Religion has been known to ruin things.

yes, however when I do it to your wife then its a problem

Experience would tell me she is doing the same things with someone else and hiding behind her bible as an excuse to deny you...

You let your wife join a cult? Hey, you deserve everything you get. Pretty soon you'll be limited to the missionary position on alternate leap years.
I'd suggest you hire a deprogramming team asap, if you want to save your marriage.

if she did it before now wont tell her you will get someone to do it

You don't have to be a porn addict to love blowing a load on your wife's face. I've been doing that for twenty years. We have a give and take sex life. I don't like eating pussy. But I do it to please her. I don't like licking her asshole either. But I do it because it turns her on. Does anyone out there follow me? What the two of us do for each other adds up to very wonderful sex life. And we don't give a flying fuck what anybody else would think about what we do if they found out. So all of you holier than thou commenters about this post can just go . . .

I have an idea that may work for you. Measure your little pee, pee, and go buy a strap on the same size. Then propose to your wife that when you spooge all over her face and ass fucker her, she then can do the same thing to you the next time you guys fuck. Trust me she can't say no.

She might be getting dick from someone else, sorry

You and your wife are becoming what the religious folk call, "unevenly yoked" So if I were you I'd get my sinful ass to that church. You'll lose your family if you don't. My feeling is that you would regret that. Hey, fake it til you make it my friend. I've been there and done that. Face fucking is cool and the gang. But it is not worth losing your family over. Trust me. I know.

"Normal" is quite a flexible concept but you have more of a problem, given that you have children to consider &amp; her church group ... which often comes down to some "holier than thou" types. For "them" nothing needs fixing more than someone else's problem (in their eyes).<BR><BR>Ann Landers had it best on a few items: Here's one of them: You have to decide whether u r better off with your wife or without ... throwing the children into the situation as well ... that said, nobody else can tell u the answer that's right 4 your self/selves &amp; your situation. Some things, u just have 2 face up 2, compare the options, truth-or-consequences &amp; come out with the answer 4 your self. Seek help if u need it but face up 2 your choices.

ikr! How dare people change their minds.

Get rid of her, she married you for better or for worse, now she wants to change her vows after seven years...I think not, there are plenty of woman and men for that matter who be very willing and able to either of the small things you listed here!

It's clear what the bible expects from a good Christian. Fucking is a no no. You're only supposed to make love in wedlock, period. Sex for the sake of immense physical pleasure and feeling dirty is very far from Christianly. If your wife is changing her religion, she is certainly changing her ways. She's going to start feeling guilty about what she did with you and regret having done it in the first place.