She thinks we're better friends than we are? iin?

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I've had a friend for about 6 months, we hang out a lot but don't have much in common, we just end up together in class a lot. She seems to think we're best friends, even though I've told her I don't stick to specifically one friend. and even though I do like her, she's not a friend I feel I can trust because she's kinda immature, and I've never confided in her.

My birthday is on Saturday (21st Sept), and she's gonna be away then so she gave me my present on Friday at college and insisted I unwrap it in front of her; so I did. And it was headphones, really expensive Sol Republic headphones I'd seen while I was with her about a month ago (and practically drooled over XD). They were £130 (approx $200 for american readers) and it gobsmacked me. It was lovely of her of course but I'm so embarrassed, I don't like her anywhere near as much as she likes me and I would NEVER buy her something so pricey. I feel I have to pay her back for such a expensive gift but I don't like her enough! It's mortifying, especially since I haven't known her long.

Q1: Is it normal???
Q2: What on earth should I do?

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  • Gamzeee
    10 years ago

    That is so nice of her. Maybe you should give her a chance because she seems like a nice person who maybe is lonely. Try to get to know her with no judgement and see how that works out. If not try to help her meet new people like go out with her to places that interest her so she can meet people like her. Defiantly don't be mean to her since she is just being friendly.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      i'd never be mean to her! and she is a nice girl, but for her birthday i just got her a gift card...you know? it's not that i don't like her, but i've not known her long. i don't feel i can accept them...because if things don't work out i'll feel terrible. i was thinking about giving them back..

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      • Gamzeee
        10 years ago

        Okay. I just don't want any platonic heartbreak going on.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    Yeah, it's normal and don't feel bad or any guilt about your feelings. I have few people that I consider as close friends but close friends or not, I would never spend as much money as she did for someone ( except for my boyfriend ) neither would I like to receive an expensive gift. Indeed, I don't celebrate my birthday because I don't like having gifts. I somehow feel forever grateful. About your friend, thank her and add that you won't be able to offer her a such great present in return. Be sincere and tell her that you feel bad about receiving so much and not be able to do the same afterwards. Also insist on the fact that there's no use giving so much to prove her friendship to you and you don't want her she spends as much next time ! Good luck !

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    I guess you can't buy friendship. But if she's always that nice to you I don't see why you can't be friends. What more can you ask of a friend then devotion? What criterias must people meet to be your friends?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Sounds like she wants to be your minion for when you take over the world.

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