She's gotta be young enough to be my daughter

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I am 47 years old and seem to only have long-term relationships with women young enough to be my daughter. Not that I mind by any means because, let's face it, a middle aged man who has dated mostly women young enough to be his daughter does not seem to be the norm in society, although it is not looked down upon nearly the same way it was 20 years ago, and many men are envious of me for this. But, then again, it is usually the ladies who start the flirting - at least I think so.

Anyway, I have had several relationships with women who are "within my age range," and we get along great, i.e. no real fighting, enjoy each other's company and so on, but those relationships don't last for more than a year and usually less than six months before we grow tired of each other, whereas many of the relationships I've enjoyed with younger women have lasted well over 3 years, and most of them have been open, polygamous relationships. Probably 75%% of the longer-term relationships (2-5 yrs) I've had over the past 20 years have been with women/girls from 17 to 23.

What do you think? Is this normal, or am I just one lucky ol' dude?

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harley13

14 years ago

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AnnaAgain

15 years ago

:( That reminds me of that US history teacher who was bangin one of my classmates before and after class... it was really sad because the girl thought she was ugly cuz she was teased when she was younger for wearing glasses... so she thought the only dudes who would like her are older men... poor girl.

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mieoux

14 years ago

If it's legal and you are both having fun, keep going. I'm curious, is the open-relationship part so you can date other young girls on the side or so they can date guys their own age on the side? It's not normal, but if it's legal and no one's getting hurt, have fun.

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Monkeybutts

10 years ago

I think ur still sad and lonely 'cuz u still can't find a soulmate and thats y ur posting on here. So what u dated bobblehead young girls that does not mean anything. Most men your age r married and have started a family. Those r the guys who r the lucky ones, not the guys who r messing around with any ignorant thing that will spread its legs. I am an adult but still in my teens and I just think its so gross when I see super old men still trying to flirt with me. It makes me wanna throw up because they look pathetic. Most women who go after older men r only n it for the money and every now and again u will find that one girl who really do love the guy but its only 'cuz she is still young and confused.

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[Old Memory]

14 years ago

Also, as an added note: not all, but very many fifteen year olds will exploit their physicality to a full extent without becoming physically involved with someone because it reassures them that they are indeed wanted.

In rare cases, we simply find it entertaining to see a man reduced to a puddle of drool just because we wear a skirt that is a little shorter than normal. WE find it amusing that some men think more with their little heads than the one atop their shoulders!

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[Old Memory]

14 years ago

You are just a dink who likes to brag.

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[Old Memory]

15 years ago

I think you should really find someone you really love and someone who feels the same way but someone to really hold on to. Otherwise you will be a bitter old man paying those same age girls to have sex with you when you are 70 years old.

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salva91

14 years ago

In my opinion i dont think you're sick, I think you're lucky. other guys that criticize you are just jelaous. im a young girl who has always been attracted to older men. never in my life have i dated a guy my same age or a couple of years older than me. right now im with a man 16 years older than me. i know what you are all thinking right now, maybe that im sick but think whatever i dont care! besides he's really nice and attractive, all young girls are attracted to him. so just enjoy your luck man! because there are a lot of girls like me out there.

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alexisfreak

14 years ago

You are not a pedophile. Relax, this is normal. I don't think any guy wants to date a 40 year old grandma. All men want the young ones. This is normal. You are not a pedophile. All of the people on this website do not know what the hell a pedophile is. A pedophile is an adult who is obsessed with KIDS, not adults on the young side. I mean, is a 23 year old a kid? NORMAL!

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- RoyRogers
  
  8 years ago
  
  How many times are you going to write "Pedophile" in your post.
  
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ordoabchao

14 years ago

It's the sickos who like 8 yr olds and shit who should be getting nerd raged on. This man is a not a sicko and he's acting appropiately within the law by realizing legal age of consent so cheers. You're a lucky old guy.

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Clovis5119

15 years ago

Plenty normal man.
Society doesn't tend to look at it positively, but if it did, pedophilia would be a bigger problem than it is now, so what can you do about it?

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  I sometimes think indeed that the rising of pedophiles (real or fed by media and globalization) is fed by the excessive attention about sexuality... and this attention is partly due to the fact that sexuality is so strongly tied into our minds that it can be (and it is) exploited by ads-maker to drive our lifes. If we would cut every sexual (even implicit) signal in ads and decrease attention about such a natural fact as sex, sexuality would be more "nature-driven", less obsessive and... hm... natural so to say... and in nature the absence of sexual "signals" in child is enough to avoid (mostly) sexual violence against child (and pedophilia).
  So, I am not sure, but often I think pedophilia is implicitly fed by our current "social" vision of sex
  
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Angelmage

14 years ago

That totally normal. Most girls like a man who is mature. Then again there is also those older woman who like younger men. The guy version of it is not always talked about compared to the women.

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Simply_Abnormal

14 years ago

You do have a problem, A serious problem.
Imagine how those girls mothers must be feeling? You are 20 years older than them and that is wrong. I believe it to be pedophila especially if they are 17.

See someone about it.
Date people your own age

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  Check the meaning of pedophilia. 17 yo...? It CAN NOT BE pedophilia. And who cares about what parents think as long as they both are happy with their relationship? 17yo is a problem because of law (not for nature, for sure!)? Wait a year before doing anything more than kisses or hands-holding and you're fine for the law and bigots too!
  
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amandadee

14 years ago

i really hope you dont have a daughter...

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6xygirl

14 years ago

My boyfriend once had sex with a 17 year old girl. She lied to him about her age just so she could sleep with him. He was 46 at the time. He had a couple of 18 year old girlfriends too after that. He also has the habit of attracting young women. He would laugh and he can't believe it because right now, he's still attracting young women. He thinks that he's getting old and ugly. I think you're blessed just like my boyfriend. To me age doesn't matter as long as she's legal age and that your feelings for her are genuine.

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- cooldavid
  
  14 years ago
  
  I agree that it's normal to like teen girls and young women, but it kind of bothers me that your bf and this guy is bragging about the young age of his conquests.
  
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Brasileira

14 years ago

You sound like a "normal" guy and not some sick creep. So I'm going to say as long as they're of legal age, knock yourself out. I know a lot of women, myself being one of them, who like older men. Now, I've never been with someone over 10 years my senior, but who knows? Maybe one day. Just be careful that these women truly love YOU and not your money... or your age. Some tend to have "daddy issues" and that is never a good thing. But as long as they're legal, happy, you're happy - it's all good

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babyyboyy

14 years ago

your probably a control freak and like to control younger girls. you probly tell each one you love them so much and buy her loads just like a sick pervert.

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  When I was 17yo I would have killed anyone saying I've a fragile mind that can be controlled by older (and why not by same age or even younger smart) guys. It is just nonsense. An obtuse simplistic vision of how things really work
  
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randomjelly

14 years ago

If by "lucky old dude" you mean "creepy old pedophile" then yes.

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evilcommenter

14 years ago

Find another girl, sicko.

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crimson_mamba

14 years ago

The reason why it lasts so long is because it might as well be a father daughter relationship. young girls, are susceptible and easily manuevered, always looking for that protection from an older experienced partner. The older partner in turn feels younger and full of life to have that asthetically pleasing beautiful thing to be around, no one wants the nagging hag of an older woman, correct?

The reason why it last long is because older women are smarter and will not tolerate bulls.hit from men, they know the ropes. younger women however are less experienced and "give in"

Let me ask you this, and this will essentially prove my point. For those long lasting relationships, tell me, who has been the one "in control?" in other words, who took charge, who wore the pants, in the relationship?

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The_Truth_Hurts_Doesnt_It

14 years ago

Men who enjoy romance with females who are old enough to comprehend reality are normal.

I would say you're not normal if you were dating females that were FAR too young to comprehend the results of their actions/feelings.

I assume you don't touch anyone under 16, right?

Don't listen to these people that say you are "sick" because I am a psychologist and I can tell you that your attraction is normal.

Don't cross the lines of the law though. In most places the youngest you can touch is 16. Don't go under that or you're asking for a life of hell with the law.

Morally, what you're doing is fine as long as you're not harming them or misleading them.

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lwinnchick

14 years ago

you like to be in control. if your that much older then a woman, you can always have the upper hand. older women are more self-confident and opinionated. you are more like equals and cant be the boss all the time.

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smile_alot14

15 years ago

go you man
its not exactly normal
but not really awfull eather just dont go to young.

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buriedalive

15 years ago

matter of personal taste, I suppose, the only thing you'd have to be careful of is the emotional maturity of the girls you date. That said, there's a bunch of 40 year old women (and men) who have problems with that, so you should probably just be careful in general... XD

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therandomdude10

14 years ago

PEDOPHILE.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  14 years ago
  
  Hey random dude, give this idea a little thought before outright saying 'PAEDOPHILE'. With today's media standards, and the structure of societal values and family structure itself being the way it is, relationships like this are bound to happen. Take a look at the psychology behind it and you can even justify why it happens, even if it seems wrong to do so.
  
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blissfullysarcastic

14 years ago

Pedo

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  check on a dictionary (even wikipedia is ok) before using words like this, and read the other comments too.
  
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xholliebx

15 years ago

As i live in England i do not see this as a problem because the legal age for sex here is 16 and over.
Other people may judge you such as Americans as their legal age is 18-21 depending on the state.
I am an 18 year old girl and ive always been with older men but no older than 25.
Age shouldn't really matter you should just follow the heart.

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- british_love
  
  15 years ago
  
  I only like guys two or three years older, to be honest anybody older than two or three years is just weird, and kinda gross. I have no idea why. It just is.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    15 years ago
    
    It's completely understandable, british_love, that you would only like guys close to your age. What I don't understand is why you would think it would be gross to be with an older man. Maybe you could enlighten me on this.
    
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    - andrian007
      
      14 years ago
      
      The problem is not age per se, but the differing mentalities of the two people.
      
      The main problem is that if you are dating say someone 25 years younger than you are at the age of 22, a 22 year-old wants different things in life compared to a 47 year-old. Even if two people are of the same age, if they want different things in life (eg. one is a family person and the other is a career person), there could be trouble coming their way.
      
      The reality is that most twentysomething people want different things from people your age. You might want to start a family while she still wants to travel the world and explore new adventures. You know, things like that.
      
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      - redcarp
        
        14 years ago
        
        This is the only reasonable issue: different perspective of future life... But you know, people are so different... So saying that every single 22-25yo girl/boy wants the same thing of any other at the same age, is a little bit limiting. There are people at that age that already have a really clear vision of their current and future life, and they try to get it the way they want... there are people, luckly!, who does not act like all the other sheep, who does not say "I do this and want this since I am 22yo"... they just do what they like and noone says what they like is what every 22yo being wants!
        
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- crazzyy4u
  
  14 years ago
  
  so would you be ok with a 16 year old girl dating a 50 yr old
  
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- [Old Memory]
  
  14 years ago
  
  Yeah but you're just a Slag Lol
  
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- andres9301
  
  14 years ago
  
  cool im going there lol
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  15 years ago
  
  actually, there are several states where the legal age of consent is 12, some 14, but most are 16 and many of those have the caveat that the age spread must be no more than 5 years if the younger partner is under the age of 18
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    14 years ago
    
    Holy s**t! Twelve? WOW...
    
    Its normal, I guess. If its consentual, then I don't see what's wrong with it.
    
    The 'twelve' limit however isn't. I don't fully understand why we put such a negative view on those who have commited paedophilia, when age-limits like this exist. I'd like to ramble on about how socially backward this is, but I fear it would bore you all to bits. Which state is it in?
    
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    - redcarp
      
      14 years ago
      
      Hmm. Let us throw away law: it is confusing... I would say that having sexual intercourse with 12yo girl can be pedophilia since many 12yo girls still have not everything a female should have to attract men. Moreover, speaking "in an animal way", for human it is hard and dangerous to breed at that age, even though 12yo human females can be already fertile.
      I would say around the age of 15/16 girls start to become aware of their sexualities and already started to "use" it to attract men, even though rarely with the intention to have sexual interecourse, they rather are in finding for glances which confirm they are beautiful and sexually attractive. So having a deal with these girl could be ok (I stress that it depends on the maturity which must be "studied" case by case), nothing strange for a man, until the girls accept the fact.
      
      But a 12yo girl is really too young to appreciate and understand the sexual implication of their actions, even if their body *began* already to express femininity, but not fully yet, at least in the vast mojority of cases
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        14 years ago
        
        I agree totally with you... biologically speaking, yes a twelve-year old may be physically mature enough but they do not yet have the ability to cope with sex and blatant sexuality being thrust upon them like that. My comment was in no way designed to endorse such actions, it was merely an exclaimation at the law... I thought it *the law* was a little dodgy to be honest. The psychological repurcussions let alone the biological ones could cause permanent, even fatal, damage.
        
        As a teen I also agree with you on the idea that 15/16 year olds do begin to realise their sex and take advantage of the fact that people can 'look but not touch'... the problem is we don't realise not everyone follows this policy. There are the few who are capable of maintaining a mature relationship with an adult, but most are incapable of thought unclouded by hormone so the idea of pursuing a full-on relationship becomes distasteful to most men no matter what the physical incentive towards a relationship (atleast this is what I think).
        
        Even at fifteen, girls tend to live in the star-studded belief that men will 'look and not touch.'
        
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  - Anonysmous
    
    14 years ago
    
    bullshit. The legal age of consent is 16 if the parents consent, and that is the youngest in any state. Your breaking the law if she's 17 and does not have parental consent. That is technically rape and the state will imprison you.
    
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    - redcarp
      
      14 years ago
      
      Checked out the law in evry world's states? world is big, social conventions are different in every place.
      Rape is a coercion. It is violence. If the girl is happy, no matter if the lwa thinks a 17yo girl/boy must be stupid... I remember myself at that age: I was not stupid, and I wanted sex too! Never been concerned about laws when a 23yo girl had me and I was 17... "technically" she raped me... from my point of view, now as in the past, we had just good time happy together for a while.
      And I would have killed the lawyer if anyone tried to put her in jail.
      
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MapleSyrup

15 years ago

I'll label you as a sick pedophile. But anyways you cant expect a 17 year old to settle down with you as she hasn't even lived her life, think about that.

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  pedophilia is about being attracted by "prepubescent" children. 17 yo girls/boys are not prepubescent, they have everything needed and normal to send "sexual messages", to attract other boys/girls.
  
  You're talking about what law says about mental ability of a young boy/girl to be consentient... and this changes by countries so your shouting out/ thinking of the word "pedophile" mark you as ignorant (fix it, check the right definition of pedophilia, do not trust media language and coverage of sexual violences, which is a crime against every human being despite his/her age) or maybe stupid or just blindly brainwashed.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  15 years ago
  
  and you, dear lady, are a narrow-minded prude with a severely judgmental attitude which stems from a sickening level of self-righteousness. GET A GRIP!
  
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  - bingbong5
    
    14 years ago
    
    Here here!!
    
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RoyRogers

8 years ago

Those chicks are probobly looking for a sugar daddy to buy them things

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Mersaphe

9 years ago

I too enjoy the company of the younger ladies.

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bamanthehippy

10 years ago

The older women are relaxed, while you want someone still out there. You need to find someone who's loud or possibly eccentric :p

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admirer

12 years ago

Aww... you're my polar opposite.
I won't have anything to do with a man who isn't old enough to be my.... well, there's no comfortable word for it without it coming across as perverse but you get the idea. I even have a minimal age cut-off. If he's less than 15 years my senior, he won't do.

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- admirer
  
  12 years ago
  
  ...maybe not "polar opposite"... flip side of the same coin, we'll call it.
  
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SweetSherry

12 years ago

Good for you !!

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Opheliawoo

12 years ago

I've dated plenty of men who've been 10+ old than myself and it's a far more relaxing relationship to be in then with males my age.

Most Men in their 20s have the emotional maturity of a mythical creature- ergo: none so naturally girls prefer pursuing older men who can take care if them. You're honestly what a girl needs to grow up a little. A relationship with an older man does wonders for a girls' maturity level.

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randomjelly

14 years ago

And redcarp quit tripping balls...everyone knows what the word pedophile means. No one said "literally"...the point is that these thoughts and actions make anyone a creepy creeperson.

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gitface

14 years ago

Yeah, the other guys may be envious, but don't let that spoil your fun. The girls seem to be perfectly happy with the situation, so why shouldn't you be?

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nobodyspecial

15 years ago

i believe you can have a relationship with whoever you want as long as you are both happy!!!

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WarLord

15 years ago

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crimson_mamba

14 years ago

Its normal in the sense that many if not all men want the younger female partner.

The difference is that you give in to this fantasy while other men do not.

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Chonga

14 years ago

You must be a real charmer/looker! Props!

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orbitgumchewer

14 years ago

If the chicks are over 18.. why the hell not. Don't listen to most of the people on here.. all they see is a man over 40 and a high school girl or something.. this man is not a pedophile. Learn the meaning before you start ragging on him.. So young women find him attractive, theres nothing wrong with that. My dad is 50 and I am 24. My parents are divorced, and when I went to visit him.. he took me to clubs and bars, and he was the man! Got more girls than me.. well not really. But we worked together and got girls my age to easily want to come home with us. Now don't think any sick thoughts people.. whatever my dad did with his girl they did on their own time. The moral I am trying to get from this story is that a man can be 40-50-60.. all that matters is that he knows how to have a good time.. and that the woman (over 18) clearly has something to find attractive. Everyone automatically assumes once someone reaches a certain age then they should be forced to only date within a certain age group. Get real people,you heard age is nothing but a number, but really age is what you make it, and what you make others see inside you.

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Ploxocube

15 years ago

I love how people base there answer's on the legal intercourse age of there country / county..

No dude , i think most girl's like older guy's..
or so im lead to belive , beside's nothing like some fresh meat :D

and seeing as they don't stick around longer than 5 year's , i'd say carry on ;)

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- redcarp
  
  14 years ago
  
  Yes it is so, ... brainwashing... they just forget there's nothing natural in putting a "legal age" when your sexuality is already ready, and all 16 and 17 yo girls/boys have already all the Nature provided us to be attracted each other and desire sex!
  
  But the worst thing is misinterpreting even the law: stating a "age of consent" does not mean that if you go with boy/girl under that age you are a pedophile, which is a serious mental disease of being attracted by people so young that they still do not "send" sexual messages (so that it is impossible to be normally attracted by them and to think of them as sexual partner)... it is really really very different
  
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Are You Normal?

She's gotta be young enough to be my daughter