She loves me but...

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So, here's the story. We've been together for about 5 weeks now, we know each other for a year. We were really good friends before the relationship, we talked about all kind of stuff. Basically since we've met, we always had something to talk about, lot of things in common.
The relationship started one day, when she invited me to her place, and I was always "backing-off" from any romantic gesture, because i was thinking that if I get rejected, i lose a good friend. Lately i said "screw it" and i kissed her. We've been together since that.
She said after that she always wanted to be with me. That she loves me. Anyway, she did all the "sweet" stuff.
I want to get to the "next level" of the relationship, meaning having sex and stuff. Here's the problem! I always try to kiss her as romantically as i can, always trying to be good. I start by rubbing her arms, body, ass and boobs. That's ok, still going more. I get under her clothes, to the skin, and I try to massage her boobs. And when i get to the interior of the bra, she quickly pushes and dodges my hand, like she's scared or something.
Today I got really insistent, and went for the tities several times, we we're out alone, near a beautiful lake. She stopped kissing me, and she told me that she feels really weird doing this, that she's 17 (I'm 18) and doesn't feel ready. I felt like I was given a test. Now, of course, I don't just wanna f*ck her, but it's the normal course of a relationship, isn't it?
I told her that I'm not with her ONLY because I wanna bang her, that she shouldn't worry about her age, that she shouldn't feel weird in my presence. Then we started kissing again, but I was cold as f*ck and I wasn't even touching her body, no physical-stuff, only lips...
Guys, don't get me wrong. I love her, and I want to show her that. How can I better show her that beside having sex?
And I don't get it why she rejects me when i try to massage her boobies. I mean, I'm not doing anything wrong, just pleasuring her.
She has a really poor self-esteem (kinda like me), and she's scared to show me her body.
She's my first gf. She had a bf before, but the dude sucked badly, and didn't gave a shit about her, plus that i look 1000 times better than him.
I just want to get it why she says she loves me, but doesn't want to have sex with me. And... Do you think that's normal, considering she's virgin?

Sorry for the bad english :(

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    SHES NOT READY.
    Males are like born ready or something idk whats with you guys and why you can't comprehend that sex comes with a lot of consequences.
    First after having sex its hard to just go back to kissing and holding hands.
    Second ITS USED TO MAKE BABIES. one fucking slip up and you both are raising a kid young and it will change your life
    I mean I can go more in depth but you should know how to show each other you love each other with out trying to get into her pants. Take her on dates, meet her parents just show her that you are always going to be there for her. TALK to her and get to know her more.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    You have a lot of growing up to do. Calm the fuck down! Horny bastard!

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  • shuggy-chan
    8 years ago

    ZZZZzzzzzzzzz

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    • peterrabbyt3
      7 years ago

      Shuggy, do you still suck cocks?

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  • Anonymous_9902
    6 years ago

    Yeah it's normal but she's probably just taking her time maybe she thinks your special or she really likes you and she wants to take things slow so ig just don't come off as sexual to her let her come to you

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  • pyrofox
    8 years ago

    Yo bro take it slower she's giving you the sign that she's not ready for the next level. I would suggest sticking to cuddling. Talk ask her what's wrong if she won't talk apologize to her even if you didn't hurt her. Prove your into the relationship as much as she is. Just take it slow and focus on just making her enjoy being around you and learn to put her needs in front of yours. (Of course the logical ones) Let her take the lead sometime as odd it may sound if you have been in charge of dates or romantic hang outs. Let her feel the stress of trying to make it work even girls can make plans romantic and I can tell you it's even more fun when the girl is fully interested. Sure she may find it intimidating to try to impress you just go with the flow just purely support her

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    To me, sex is a huge and important part of being in a relationship.

    You have known each-other for a year and been together for five weeks- I would talk to her, you don´t have to expect vaginal intercourse right away but I think that she should be willing to do minor sexual stuff.

    If not, and if you feel like you want to you are probably not right for one another.

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