Sexual skills - who is better "in bed"?

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When it comes to sexual skills, who do you consider to be better "in bed" - yourself or your partner? If you had to choose, would you say that you are better "in bed" than your partner is or that your partner is better "in bed" than you are?

For the purposes of this poll, take into consideration only your sexual skills and sexual performance, not your or your partner´s attractiveness.

Please, indicate also your gender - female (F) / male (M)

F: I am better in bed than my current partner is 46
F: My current partner is better in bed than I am 29
F: I can´t say because my partner doesn´t want to do almost anything 7
F: I don´t have a partner now but I suppose I would be better 22
F: I don´t have a partner now but I suppose my partner would be better 22
M: I am better in bed than my current partner is 89
M: My current partner is better in bed than I am 20
M: I can´t say because my partner doesn´t want to do almost anything 15
M: I don´t have a partner now but I suppose I would be better 32
F: I don´t have a partner now but I suppose my partner would be better 22
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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I'm currently my own partner so I'm both better and worse and also the same. For previous relationships, it's difficult to define "better". More adventurous? More skilled? More flexible?

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      That last one is good if you're your own partner.

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        Ha! Bad girl! I'm the least flexible person I know. I've never been able to touch my toes, even as a kid, and I could never do the crab thing. I make a fairly vanilla partner for myself. I need a clone. Well, that or a girlfriend (if we're really thinking radically).

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    My ex gf was horrendous in bed. She literally did nothing. It was like fucking a corpse. But I guess it was still fucking nonetheless.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    What's this 'in bed' crap?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks for your nice comment. Of course, you are free to have your own opinion and criticize other people´s ideas but you could at least explain what specifically you don´t like to make your comment look a bit intelligent.

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Oh my god. What a sensitive little thing you are. It was a fuckin joke. Funny or not, doesn't matter. All i meant was there's other places besides bed. Get over yourself. And I don't give a shit about looking intelligent on a question like this. Fool.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago | pl

          ???
          You misunderstood my comment but it doesn´t matter.

          Of course, there are other places besides bed. I suppose most people know they can fuck elsewhere :) I am not a native speaker and thought that "good in bed" is used figuratively as a phrase (that´s why I wrote the expression with quotation marks).

          Nevermind. I hope you´re usually less harsh to people.

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          • prasatko
            11 years ago

            Harsh? I wouldn´t say harsh... I would say stupid and rude. That is probably the image she wants to have here. Being rude and stupid, and then saying it was a joke...Pretty lame. If I were you, I would not take her offences personally, she is not worth your worries.

            By the way, you have created a great and interesting poll and some of the answers here are interesting...and that is what counts, not the angry response of a silly girl who has nothing to say to the topic and feels the urge to degrade it anyway...

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              Thank you for your kind words, prasatko. It´s very nice to read such a comment after those offensive remarks.

              When I create a poll, I always hope that it will provide me with some interesting information. I suppose most people hope for the same :) Unfortunately, silly comments which have no relevance to the original question are quite a frequent occurrence on IIN.

              However, besides those negative comments, there is a lot of interesting ones and that is what counts as you said.

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            • dirtybirdy
              11 years ago

              At least I don't talk behind peoples backs, and I really don't think its your concern. And it was a stupid joke. Big deal.

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        • suckonthis9
          11 years ago

          Finally someone has answered my question as to who this deity is. It is Anonymous.
          I am very grateful to you for providing further information on your deity.
          I now know that your deity is a sensitive little thing.
          Your deity is also a fucking joke.
          Your deity is funny or not, but it doesn't matter.
          Does this deity exist in bed, as well as other places? Please clarify.
          The deity is over yourself? Is this correct?
          One should not look intelligent on a similar question like this.
          Your deity is a fool.

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          • dirtybirdy
            11 years ago

            Damn, i thought you died. Fuck you. Don't talk to me. And I did apologize for obviously misunderstanding the first reply but I accidentally deleted it. Touch screen phone plus unruly thumbs and all. You see I am quite capable of admitting when I was wrong.

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            • suckonthis9
              11 years ago

              I have been condemned to a netherworld.
              I had died, and risen from the dead.
              You are a temptress, who wishes me to have sexual intercourse with you.
              I know you want me to. You want me. You want me to shut up, pull out my hard cock, and fuck you vigorously. This I know you'll enjoy.
              You are a deceptive one, who portends the unforeseen.
              You intimate slyly. You wish to touch my manliness, wrapping your thumb around my throbbing penis.
              I am glad that you admit this. We will enjoy eachother's carnal lust.

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          • charli.m
            11 years ago

            "Now you are accusing me of creating divisions in society, when I am trying to do the opposite, heal the divisions in society that exist (for good reason)."
            - you a week ago.

            ...I believe you have just given us yet another example of such in your above comment...as well as your downright disturbing one a couple down again to dirtybirdy. Can you even explain how comments like this are 'healing'? I'd call them inflammatory.

            I'll say it again: If you're not a troll, you really, really scare me.

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          • anti-hero
            11 years ago

            Fuck you.

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          • benjames
            11 years ago

            haha you're just as pathetic as dirtybirdy

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        • benjames
          11 years ago

          hahahahahaha touchy much, your'e calling him sensitive, oh my god your'e so pathetic its funny hahaha ;) whats to bet you have a go at me now haha

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        I kind of see how you took it as criticism because she used the word crap but I'm 100% sure she meant it to mean, "Hey! I have sex in the kitchen, on the roof, and dangling from the chandeliers too". When I read it, I saw it the same way you did for half a second and then I realised the joke. I promise you she didn't mean to offend. She's one of the funniest people here and she's more often than not making a joke.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Obviously, we have a different taste in people. I visit IIN regularly and I don´t think I´m the only one who doesn´t share your opinion that she is one of the funniest people here.
          Have you read her reply to my comment? What was so funny about that? This is not how jokes look like, this is clearly an offence - quite a stupid one and not funny at all. Sorry for being too honest, I don´t want to react the same way as she did - and I mean it - as you can see my reply to her second comment was pretty timid.

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          • dappled
            11 years ago

            I understand your feelings are hurt. I'm not trying to blame anyone here (it's not productive) but to show why the situation came about.

            I'm not sure it's done much good, though, so I'll respectfully bow out of this one.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              I don´t feel that hurt because I´m quite satisfied and don´t get similar responses in real life. That´s why I assume that such a reaction says more about her character than about mine.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    It's difficult to compare since there are different expectations and skills involved for men and women. It's probably easier to judge who's better in same sex relationships.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Men are the only ones who actually do anything during sex. Women are just "holes" in regards to sex.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Somebody's never heard of pegging.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      If that's your opinion you've been having sex with the wrong women. Not all of us are dead fish. :P

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Oh no, I know they "do things". It's just not alot in comparison to the man.

        But I like to be the one in charge everytime, so maybe I don't notice as much.

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        • shade_ilmaendu
          11 years ago

          Hmm, perhaps. I always like to have a bit of time to be in charge myself, I've never been a very passive partner. :P

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    • Phycokitty
      11 years ago

      obviously you havent had any good sex. your attitude sorta ofends me i pride myself on the fact i do most of the work. and to say women are just holes psh the same could be said that men are just poles. you need you find yourself a good sub and make them show you a "good" time it makes my master very happy when he can just jay back and watch me please him. sex is like cooking you can spend all day slaving over a stove but if your cooking sux no one enjoys it or you could spend 5 min but if its good no one notices how brief the time.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        No i've had great sex but my attitude offending you means nothing to me.

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        • Phycokitty
          11 years ago

          i didnt expect it to. I do apologise i believe i was taken the wrong way. I often forget if you dont put lol after every 5 words people think your on the attack. I was feining injury. And was in no way insulting your sexlife. However i do maintain women can be more than just holes. But i supose if you like being in charge and doing the work then they are.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Me. My husband loves his cowgirl, OW!

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  • Nauticus
    11 years ago

    I am better but it takes two people to make sex work and the best kind is when both people are on the same wavelength.

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  • bigfatpoo
    11 years ago

    Females don't even do anything.... they just lye there and criticise.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I'm sorry that you haven't been able to find a woman that enjoys having sex with you.

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      • bigfatpoo
        11 years ago

        i'm sorry that your assumption is incorrect.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I'm sorry that your perception of my assumption being incorrect is incorrect.

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          • bigfatpoo
            11 years ago

            I'm sorry that your perception of my perception of your assumption being incorrect is incorrect.

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              11 years ago

              I'm sorry your interpretation of my perception of your perception of my assumption being incorrect is incorrect.

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      • VioletTrees
        11 years ago

        Haha, BURN.

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      • Phycokitty
        11 years ago

        This made me litteraly burst out laughing. i was thinking the same thing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    well, since all a woman does is spread her legs and wait for the man to do everything , a comparisson would be pointless.

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    • disthing
      11 years ago

      Sexual skills include oral. I'd guess it's harder to suck cock well than lick a pussy well.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    my vibrator is better than anybody.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Yeah so my current gf is amazing, best I've ever had, but I can see it on her face afterward when she's babbling backwards in tongues, eyes all outta focus, that I'm the best she's ever had.

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  • ryan2k12920
    11 years ago

    i do all the work in bed, i lick my girlfriends clit till she cums then spread her pussy and slide my tounge in really deep and lick and suck it all out, then shove my dick up her and fuck her and keep flipping her over into different positions. she just lays there screaming in pleasure and grabbing my head and forcing my face into her pussy i love it! :P

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    You have "F: I don´t have a partner now but I suppose my partner would be better" twice.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks. I realized it after the poll had been approved and I didn´t correct the mistake in time. There should be "M" instead of "F" in the last option. I hope that it´s not a major problem for most people and they can vote despite the mistake.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    I've never had sex with a girl, so I don't know. :(

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    • PumpkinKate
      11 years ago

      Let's fix that, pronto.

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      • NotFloydzie
        11 years ago

        Oooo. :P

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    Your dog.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I've never had sex with myself, so it's hard to judge.

    All these people who are saying that girls just lie back and do nothing during sex are probably having sex with girls who are bad at sex. The skills are expectations may be different for men and women, but that doesn't mean that women do nothing. If they do, it is those individual women who are crap at sex, not women as a group.

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  • kr24
    11 years ago

    Your mom, obviously.

    I came BUCKETS.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      How'd they fit through your urethra? Sounds painful.

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      • kr24
        11 years ago

        I didn't cum the actual buckets, but the volume that would fit in several buckets.

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