Sexual health beginning of relationship

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It's an unsexy, vibe-killer. But how do you check sexual health is OK before starting a relationship?

Do you just go for it, assuming your partner would tell you if they had anything?
Do you demand to see results on paper before any hanky-panky?

What would you do if you had an STD?

All relevant comments welcome.
Thanks

Some options are:

Demand we both get the all-clear 22
Demand only partner gets checked... 1
Take their word for it....no tests 6
Don't even ask... it just kills the mood and risks offence 4
Don't ask, just do a subtle visual inspection 2
Just use protection and everything will be ok... 16
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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    That's about the most original and important question I've seen on this site in two years. I hope you get some good, to the point answers.

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    • strangethingshappen
      8 years ago

      Yes I agree and I assume you did this when you were dating?

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    • King_Flatulitis
      8 years ago

      Did you ask your "wife" the same question? No offense intended, I'm just curious, because at your age you should give a better answer than you have. Unless you were desperate, again no offense intended.

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      • strangethingshappen
        8 years ago

        I would like to know the answer to this as well

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Don't bother asking any questions about my wife, because I won't answer them.

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  • VirgilManly
    8 years ago

    I like to pull out a flashlight and do a close up inspection of the proposed drill site.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    FUCK IT

    Ask questions later.

    Gotta get my dick wet.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    That's a good question. If I had an STD I would definitely tell the person before having any kind of sexual relations with them. However, not everyone is gonna be honest, and you can never know for sure if they're telling you the truth. It's best to start off by using protection at least until you figure out whether this is a trustworthy partner.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    I've had a very suspicious partner ask me this before getting involved with me sexually. At first I was a bit surprised but got over it in about 20 seconds and then asked her for the same – then she was surprised! "Well, what's good for the goose is good for the gander."

    We both got health checks and got down to having some sex after that.

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  • kellyt6
    8 years ago

    You can always ask them but still use a condom, you can never be too careful. ; )

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I believe that it is okay to ask your partner about their sexual health or whatever you want to call it. That is important information to know and it shouldn't be seen as an insult. If the person is mature they should be more than happy to tell you. Of course if I was to end up with an std I would take the necessary steps to take care of it.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    Sensible, mature adults should be able to have a discussion about it. "Demanding" doesn't sound mature at all, btw.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I agree, it doesn't sound mature at all. But then again, if someone is looking for maturity they should probably stop typing www.isitnormal into the search bar

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      • charli.m
        8 years ago

        Silly me. People who are in sexual relationships shouldn't be mature. I don't know how I got so confused.

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